Child on play date hated my dinner

[RosieLeaLovesTea]

Oh dear. DD had a friend over the play . I said she could stay for tea. I bought them a
big cheese and tomato pizza to share. But she wanted pepperoni and so I had to do a smaller
pizza on the side with a tomato sauce. She didn’t like the pasta and left it. So has only eaten too small pieces of pizza. I hate the thought that she willgo back to her parents feeling hungry. 😣

My son told the mother (politely) that it was disgusting.

An oxymoron of a phrase if ever there was one.

I love the way that people are sneaking in the fact that they always cook from scratch while friends' mums use tins.

Eeeh, don’t worry about it. I recall two play dates when I was primary school aged where the poor mums must have been mortified.

One mum served pasta and at this point in my life I had NEVER seen pasta! I made her make me beans on toast 😣

@Notsureaboutusername your son was so rude.

I bet you felt so superior that you make it from 'scratch'

Do you make your own spaghetti?

I just tell the parent what was served. “I gave them xx for dinner”. It’s the child’s problem if they didn’t eat much of it.

Your son needs to learn some manners.

Is rhat some kind of playdate faux pas?
Thankfully I'm well past that stage but im I would have served that many times

A friend was horrified at my child requesting vegetables like her friends dad she wasn't used to veg eating children served her nuggets and chips (fine) then she saw dad had broccoli and casually asked for some they gave her a piece she ate it and looked so they gave her more she ate it they offered her more and her words were "if nobody else wants it I will be happy to" she ate all there broccoli and the nuggets apologised for leaving the chips as she was "full" she was a tiny child no-one knows where she put it all

Nope. I was just thinking bloody hell I must be tired 🤪

Slightly superior there! It's spaghetti bol. Some know, some couldn't give a toss. I cook pizza and cut up veg sticks! They eat or they don't. I actually don't care. They usually eat dessert!

My son ate at a friend's house. I had asked him to be polite and he apparently said "nah I'm alright thanks this food's a bit weird and you know random"
The friend's mum relayed this back to me she didn't look too perplexed but I was utterly mortified and apologized for my failed parenting. I think she was more bothered that she'd attempted to feed my rude little arsehole of a child and he'd not eaten much 🙄

If you know your children are fussy then the only thing you can do is pre warn the other parents as far as possible and make sure your children are polite. We were a 'you will eat you what you are given' house and that went for friends houses even more so- if they're polite enough to feed you, you will be polite enough to eat it. However, I've still not fully recovered from the hot grapes with mash thing my friend's mum made me when I stayed over. It's been 25 years and I still don't know how I wasn't sick at the table. The only thing worse than that meal is the wrath of my mother if I'd have offended the host 🤣

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Give her a slab of cake or a few biscuits. She’ll be grand.

I still remember going to a friends house they did the food in the shape of a face I didn't know where to start or finish I was given food at home and expected to eat it no mucking about making FACES 🤣

At one point I practically rented my daughter to parents to encourage there children to eat vegetables my sons are swines unless it's pizza

Don’t worry about it, it could be worse, my son went round a friends and their parents made what my son had requested when I asked him what we should say he likes, he then didn’t eat it and told them I had lied and he doesn’t like that food at home either. Funnily enough I picked the right pudding!!!

I used to make a biggish plate of cut up fuit and raw veg that they could pick at. Never really noticed who ate what.

When they were older I told them that they had to try everything that they'd chosen to have on their plate.

Maybe it actually tasted like pig swill but your sons friend has manners and wouldn’t dream of telling you it was disgusting.

You are massively over thinking this OP. You catered for the child and she ate, albeit not much. She may not be a great eater anyway. My dd never wanted to go on playdates as she was really anxious she'd have to eat food she didn't like. The main thing is that the child had a good time at your house.

😂🤣

Maybe he didn’t love it. Maybe his mother had taught him good manners. It sounds like their social skills more than made up for their lack of spag bol making skills!

I used to try to find things my daughter's (extremely fussy) best friend would eat. Now I send her home when I'm serving up our dinner and let her eat at her own house! Her mum totally understands that she's a nightmare to prepare meals for!

Unless they’re veggie / do chicken nuggets and chips with cucumber and carrot slices on the side and some bread.
3 chicken numerous allergies (GF substitute with sausages) all good.

Don't worry. I think it's great that they were comfortable enough to say they don't like it rather than forcing themselves to eat it and feeling miserable.

Gone are the days when parents teach their kids ‘in someone else’s house you eat it to be polite’. They get far too much choice nowadays. This child probably holds her own parents to ransom with her habits.