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Eton College apologises after allegations pupils jeered visiting state schoolgirls

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sunnydaytoday0 · 18/11/2022 20:55

If true, why has no one been expelled?

www.theguardian.com/education/2022/nov/18/eton-college-apologises-after-allegations-pupils-jeered-visiting-state-schoolgirls

Private school sanctions a number of boys after investigation into misogynistic language and racial slurs.

Eton College has apologised and “sanctioned” a number of pupils after allegations that a group of girls visiting from a nearby state school were subjected to misogynistic language, racial slurs and jeering.

The boys’ private school near Windsor, Berkshire, told the BBC that an investigation took place into the incident which occurred during a speech by Nigel Farage last week.

A person, who said they were a parent of one of the girls who attended the speech, wrote on social media anonymously that the students were booed inside the lecture theatre and were subjected to “racial slurs” and “generally misogynistic comments”. They said of the private school pupils: “Their behaviour was awful.”
The poster also said that Eton boys had cheered Farage’s “worst comments on migrants and Covid”.

The college told the BBC it had apologised “unreservedly” for the “totally unacceptable” behaviour.

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MumofSpud · 18/11/2022 23:26

I used to work in a school v v near Eton.
It was a state primary in a v deprived area (yet within a 5 min drive of Eton).
Sometimes we had boys from Eton turn up to do work experience / volunteering and they were v down to earth / fully involved with the children / v polite etc
It's sad how they may have changed
And yes I would want to see those involved sanctioned / expelled

Snoozyschoozy · 18/11/2022 23:44

GravyDramas · 18/11/2022 21:08

Showing their true colours before they’ve even graduated. Nasty, entitled little runts. Look out for one standing for MP in a town near you soon!

Is this attitude & behaviour a reflection of the parents or the school? Or a combination of both.... In my 20s I a normal wc girl had a 3 year relationship with a toff (I was smitten, I realise now what he was!), I was very beautiful (so I was told!) & he liked the novelty of a girl friend who never moved in his circles... I was an unknown to his privileged set... However the contempt his sisters had for me, the horrible comments to my face... The fake shock they pur on that I had never skied, had a gap year, had never rode a horse... He dumped me unceremoniously as we weren't "compatible" & married his younger sisters friend who has aristocratic blood.. I am not one bit surprised reading this, horrible, entitled bunch.

sunnydaytoday0 · 18/11/2022 23:45

Comment by a former MP:

It is the only school whose pupils were rude to me when I spoke to them as a local labour mp
twitter.com/fionamac2017/status/1593714554575396866

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Snoozyschoozy · 18/11/2022 23:48

Herejustforthisone · 18/11/2022 22:36

I have family friends who sent their four sons to Eton. They're beautifully mannered and respectful boys, their parents are not typical Etonian parents, but the stories the family have told us about what goes on there is mind blowing. Absolutely mind blowing. So much is kept under wraps…

@Herejustforthisone just out of curiosity why did they choose Eton? It's not the top academic school for boys, what did they hope to gain?

saraclara · 18/11/2022 23:52

Kendodd · 18/11/2022 22:24

I bet Farage loved it all as well.

Farage said the atmosphere during his talk was “riotous” according to the Guardian article. I hope he intended that negatively.

LaGioconda · 18/11/2022 23:53

I clicked on another link under that article which in this context is quite revealing - www.theguardian.com/education/2020/dec/04/teachers-dismissal-exposes-fissures-over-eton-college-modernisation. It's about the fuss that was made a couple of years ago when an English teacher was suspended and then dismissed for refusing to remove a misogynistic video from his YouTube channel. The article says that the fuss arose from concerns that the modernising headteacher was too "woke".

Sounds like the poor man has been fighting a losing battle ever since.

Snoozyschoozy · 18/11/2022 23:55

monsteramunch · 18/11/2022 23:06

If this is how boys / men speak about women in earshot of them, imagine what they say about them in total privacy.

It's fucking terrifying.

Especially as statistically boys from this particular school are more likely to end up in positions of power and influence than 90+% of other schools.

Netflixs Anatomy of a Scandal with Sienna Miller portrays this so perfectly...
On a side note her style in that show was fabulous!

ShellsOnTheBeach · 18/11/2022 23:56

SirGawain · 18/11/2022 21:26

Any school that invites Nigel Farage is setting a pretty low bar standards wise.

Indeed.

I hope William and Kate will not send their boys there.

StClare101 · 19/11/2022 00:29

ShellsOnTheBeach · 18/11/2022 23:56

Indeed.

I hope William and Kate will not send their boys there.

I bet they do

MrsThimbles · 19/11/2022 00:43

Kendodd · 18/11/2022 22:22

I can't imagine, for a single second, sending my son to Eton. I would hate him to become the sort of man that school produced.

I think some may say the man was already made before he set foot inside the door.

Snoozyschoozy · 19/11/2022 01:01

Someone upthread mentioned a not typical Eton family... But what is the quintessential Eton family exactly?

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/11/2022 01:07

PerkingFaintly · 18/11/2022 23:16

There was a good programme on BBC3 by Zara McDermott called "Uncovering Rape Culture", following up on Everyone's Invited and talking to students from state and private schools.

IIRC her boyfriend made a very strong statement about his own experience of going to private school, and the way the sense of superiority deliberately fostered by the school manifested in the boys as entitlement over women.

It's still available to view: www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0b23rrf

I was locked in a bedroom at a party by a private school boy when I was underage. Fortunately for me I reacted in a way that convinced him to let me out; but no one knows how they will react. Things could have been very different.

He's very successful now according to LinkedIn. I wonder how many girls he managed to assault.

CallieApricot · 19/11/2022 01:12

so why wouldn’t you trust others, approaching adulthood, of deciding that what he says doesn’t align with their own values?
Because they cheered his worst comments about migrants and made misogynistic and racist slurs

PaulaTrilloe · 19/11/2022 01:37

Something very similar happened with female state school educated students at Durham University.

Sounds awful. Eton did expel some students in Cameron's cohort in the early 1980s but they were on full scholarships and took the fall for the privileged ones who were equally to blame.

SarahDippity · 19/11/2022 01:45

Livelovebehappy · 18/11/2022 22:33

But you have to trust people to form their own decisions by being exposed to balanced debate across all political parties. You have made your own judgement based on what you’ve heard him say, so why wouldn’t you trust others, approaching adulthood, of deciding that what he says doesn’t align with their own values? Some think the Tories are vile, or that Brexit supporters are disgusting, but that’s no basis to ban them from speaking at a public forum. At least if he’s there speaking in person, they can question and challenge him, because let’s be honest they will still see him or hear him on social media, or on the news anyway.

You might trust adult people to form independent opinions, but not teenagers! Schools should not invite people with hateful and divisive views to address young impressionable students in their care. It’s not debate club.

Peteryougit · 19/11/2022 06:03

Oh man, I grew up very close by.

My first job was in a shop in a not so nice area not far at all from the school where the Eton boys would come to buy fags and booze underage

It was a predominantly Indian area. Christ, the racism. The terrible remarks, the way they spoke down to people. 15 year old boys speaking to elderly men like they were shit on their shoe because they were already so superior and they knew it. They knew they could get away with murder already.

Vile little creatures, most of who who 25 years on are no doubt getting into portions of power.

Peteryougit · 19/11/2022 06:03

*positions of power

QuebecBagnet · 19/11/2022 06:11

Nobody gets expelled because the school is run by staff who think it’s appropriate to promote Nigel Farage. The staff in all likelihood quietly agree with the pupils.

Chomolungma · 19/11/2022 06:16

Absolutely disgusting story.

ShandaLear · 19/11/2022 06:32

Imagine a school giving a platform to a man who preaches racism and intolerance.

These people keep on showing us who they are. Why do we continue to refuse to believe them? An expensive education does not make someone a better person, and by the sounds of things, it appears to make them worse.

FaazoHuyzeoSix · 19/11/2022 06:40

What about apologising for inviting Nigel Farage to come and speak at all. What a terrible lack of judgement that shows.

GravyDramas · 19/11/2022 07:12

If I had all the money in the world I wouldn’t send my son to Eton. It seems to churn out arrogant, entitled men with poor morals and who although may be exceptionally ‘learned’ lack basic intelligence.

knittingaddict · 19/11/2022 07:16

Herejustforthisone · 18/11/2022 22:36

I have family friends who sent their four sons to Eton. They're beautifully mannered and respectful boys, their parents are not typical Etonian parents, but the stories the family have told us about what goes on there is mind blowing. Absolutely mind blowing. So much is kept under wraps…

I'm curious. Presumably these weren't quadruples, so they kept sending their children to a school with an ethos that produced stories to make your hair curl. Why? Why would you keep paying good money to get an education like that? They didn't think the environment was important? They didn't worry that it might rub off? 😕

knittingaddict · 19/11/2022 07:22

We live in an area with lots of single sex state schools. Breeding misogyny is one of the reasons that my daughter doesn't want her sons going to one of these schools.

Minimalme · 19/11/2022 07:37

Inviting Nigel Farage is an excellent indication that Eton isn't turning out intelligent, well-adjusted students.

Boris couldn't hold onto his role as Prime Minister and has lied his way through life, impregnating women and goofing off.

To give him credit, he has done an excellent job of representing Eton.

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