I think it's likely I am having an emotional affair. It was hard to know at first, but as the weeks have gone on, I am beginning to see where lines have been crossed.
I am married, and so is the man I am potentially having an EA with.
We both know we have feelings for each other, we told each other. We flirt, have hugged, had conversations about how "hot" we find each other. Had deep conversations about our marriages and life situations. Equally, we have had many conversations where we have tried to shut this down because we know it's wrong. We've said "this needs to stop" and then had a couple of days NC. We always reach back out to each other in some way.
We have some issues that make complete no contact impossible.
He's my boss. We also serve in the local community together, our families are good friends and we all go on holidays, day trips etc. He has had an affair before, so telling our spouses about this would be devastating, particularly for his wife.
We started a flirty conversation tonight. It ended with us reminding each other that we needed to stop. However, we also then spoke about how we needed to get real and that this isn't as easy to squash as we keep thinking. We always reach back out to each other. I suggested we spoke this through in person, rather than over text. He agreed but we haven't made a plan yet because his wife tracks him on her phone. We want to talk through how we can squash this once and for all.
Be real with me. How is stopping this for good going to actually look? We've never been physically intimate apart from a hug, so I don't worry about this. However, I have to see him once or twice a week or when our families meet for socialising. Total no contact isn't possible. What can I propose we do when we meet for a chat? My head is utterly shot.