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Does anyone else feel unreasonably angry just before their period?

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Chloefairydust · 10/11/2022 22:50

So my period is due anytime, I’m feeling bloated and irritable. I go to the fridge craving the avocado I know is knocking about in there. And the bastard thing is frozen solid, so I try a yogurt instead. That’s frozen too. In a fit of rage I throw the frozen Avocado at the bin… Now it’s inconvenient, but any other time of the month this wouldn’t be enough to actually get me this angry. Like right before my period I just don’t have any tolerance for inconvenient, or irritable situations. My patience is just gone…

I have just made myself a gin and lemonade to calm myself down from my rage at the offending avocado lol … Bit yeah just wondering if this is just me that gets this?

OP posts:
Jmaho · 11/11/2022 08:08

Every single month. I feel irrationally angry at everything usually my husband and kids who are absolutely lovely. But God if they so much as leave a sock on the floor during that point I spend hours working out finances to see how I'd cope post divorce. I even go on Rightmove to see what I could buy on my own
Then a few days later I'm back to normal
I've been bad for years but it is worse as I get older. Early 40s now

HighlandCowbag · 11/11/2022 08:12

Am 45 and periods are irregular atm. Could be 2 weeks, could be 4. Never get caught out tho cos either dh or ds will point out I am a bit shouty and being mardy about things. It's usually 36 hours before, lasts for 24 hours then I justfeel sorry for myself, google perimenopause symptoms, tell myself I'll phone the GP and eat biscuits.

PicturesOfDogs · 11/11/2022 08:13

VikingLady · 10/11/2022 22:58

Yup. And I seriously crave sugar. I'll be chomping through the mini packs if chocolate spread in the back of the cupboard, eating the dodgy fruit in alcohols from previous Christmases, eating the stuff we've put away for Christmas. Awful. No control.

This is me. Seething with rage and eating strawberry laces

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FleecyBlanketPerson · 11/11/2022 08:15

Yes to the point I wanted to take myself off to the doctors, it's so unpleasant. I'm a gentle person usually. I crave sugary things, which I never normally eat. When period starts I feel instantly better like a heavy cloud has lifted. Doom and gloom and extreme anger feeling day before period starts and lower level irritation just after ovulation too. The pill (progesterone) had to be stopped due to the severe depression I felt. Unrelated to anger, but the two instances when I had covid my period was late by a good 11-12 days.

CopOut27 · 11/11/2022 08:18

mnahmnah · 10/11/2022 23:03

I used to get a bit irritable. Then I hit my forties and the rage is terrible! Actual madness some months

^^This

HobnobsChoice · 11/11/2022 08:20

I feel like smashing all the plates in the kitchen in the few days before my period. Just for the satisfaction and release of breaking stuff. I used to get absolutely black moods/hopelessness but since my 40s it's just become rage. "For fucks sake" is the mental if not verbal response to almost everything. I have to really get a grip on it as its horrible to live with and horrible to feel.

NatalieIsFreezing · 11/11/2022 09:17

I know it won't work for everyone but I'm on the mini pill and barely have periods and no PMT. PMT was low-average before but definitely enough that DP knew to tread carefully...

I really like not having to bother with periods, but now I'm in my 40s I might rethink as don't want any more kids and want to monitor if menopause is on the cards...

thepurplewhisperer · 11/11/2022 12:46

Yes. I'm in my 50's and it still catches me unawares. It's always a surprise the following day when my period starts. Yes to munchies and feeling emotional and irrationally irritated. You'd think I'd learn in time, but no.

Once my period starts my hormones level out rapidly.

ImustLearn2Cook · 11/11/2022 23:44

Me too. Is there a non medical way to treat it? I just don’t think I’ll be taken seriously by a doctor so have never brought it up. But I’d love to find a solution.

Has anyone found strategies or diet changes or vitamins or herbal supplements etc. that lessened the symptoms of rage and irritability?

Booklover3 · 12/11/2022 00:25

Yep. Raging then crying. It’s awful. I know it’s on its way because I was raging yesterday and today I’ve cried so many times I’ve lost count. Irregular periods. Never quite know when it’s coming. Horrendous boob pain also. Never used to be like this. Can’t tolerate any kind of hormonal contraception because they literally make it 100 times worse.

I will literally be fine as soon as it starts. It’s a bit of a bitch to be honest.

Cinderellasslipper · 02/01/2023 00:33

Yep!!! 🤬

ItsNotReallyChaos · 02/01/2023 08:35

My GP told me that the rages/hopeless feeling can be caused by low blood sugar which we're more prone to with the hormone shift just before our period. She suggested eating smaller but more regular meals. It does make a big difference but now that my periods are irregular I don't realise that I'm in the PMT danger zone until I've lost my temper about something.

dudsville · 02/01/2023 08:43

Thankfully I now have only half the periods I used to, but yes, I spend the days before my period keeping a lid on v intense anger, and also paranoia, fun times! When I was young I used to keep a note in my diary, a reminder so that I didn't act on these feelings or make important decisions. I also used to get what I call "the hunger", nothing satisfies, I never feel full during this time.

MissMogwai · 02/01/2023 09:00

Yep me too.

Husband, DC, or work will do my head in. I'll be absolutely raging for an insignificant reason and looking at houses on Right Move, or more accurately, small apartments for one 🤣 (last DC almost flown the nest).

At the back of my mind I'll think what's up with me, then I'll come on - oh yeah that's it.

3partypics · 02/01/2023 09:03

Everyone on this thread should lookup PMDD, life made a lot more sense to me.

I now use Agnus Castus for it, which I was sceptical about but has actually worked for me. Might be placebo but either way it works

Cinderellasslipper · 02/01/2023 09:03

ItsNotReallyChaos · 02/01/2023 08:35

My GP told me that the rages/hopeless feeling can be caused by low blood sugar which we're more prone to with the hormone shift just before our period. She suggested eating smaller but more regular meals. It does make a big difference but now that my periods are irregular I don't realise that I'm in the PMT danger zone until I've lost my temper about something.

Does this justify the mountain of chocolate I eat myself through during the average period??? 😁

Manaslave18 · 02/01/2023 09:10

Mine has also turned into utter rage since I hit my 40’s. It now starts at ovulation too which means that rather than one bad week a month and three good it’s two to three bad weeks with one or two good depending on my cycle that month 😬

Delatron · 02/01/2023 09:24

Jmaho · 11/11/2022 08:08

Every single month. I feel irrationally angry at everything usually my husband and kids who are absolutely lovely. But God if they so much as leave a sock on the floor during that point I spend hours working out finances to see how I'd cope post divorce. I even go on Rightmove to see what I could buy on my own
Then a few days later I'm back to normal
I've been bad for years but it is worse as I get older. Early 40s now

Yep - every month I spend a few hours on Rightmove at precisely the same time. Working out what houses I can afford as I can’t bear to live with my DH anymore.

I even get angry (inside) walking around the supermarket at all the people getting in my way. It really is all very irrational.

A while ago the GP suggested anti-depressants for a week before my period. I wasn’t sure what going on and off anti-depressants every month would be like but probably worth considering as this seems to get worse the older I get.

Used to be fine when I was on the pill but I can’t take that anymore.

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 02/01/2023 09:25

Dd suffers like this. I'm wondering if we need to look at mini pill or a mild anti depressant too.

Delatron · 02/01/2023 09:29

Mini pill made me worse - normal pill was a life changer. Friends found the same with the mini pill (due to hormones involved). But it is individual.

Delatron · 02/01/2023 09:31

Like another poster I found ashwagandha helps and also magnesium.

wingliner · 29/01/2023 23:51

Angry
Yes

Emotional hell yes

This Monday I was in floods of tears and couldn't even tell you why?!?!?

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