Would you cut off someone like this?

[asblindasabat]

i have been friends with a woman I met years ago at a toddlers group.

We don’t really go out often, but we do occasionally and we don’t speak regularly or anything.

We happened to bump into each other about a month ago in the park as we were both out walking our dogs.

She suggested meeting up for an afternoon coffee (this week) with some of the other people that used to go to the group and I said that would be lovely. She said she would text me to let me know the details nearer the time.

I never heard from her again after that day so I assumed it just wasn’t happening. Anyway, today I went on Facebook to see she had checked in at a coffee shop and tagged the other women in the post.

She went out and didn’t even bother to include me or mention it again to me even though she initially invited me.

Part of me just really wants to cut her off but I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not

you’ve misunderstood this whole thread.

You are saying that as though she didn’t invite me, she did. She just didn’t follow through with it.

I’d be hurt if I hadn’t received an invite at all and they went out, but I think it makes it worse that she did invite me and then just didn’t mention it again. It’s not nice.

It has nothing to do with being ‘the queen’ , I just feel it’s about respect and kindness.

I know I would never do that to someone,

I can just imagine the drama she would cause if I did the same to her.

I think the reaction of thinking about cutting her off is a bit ott. You aren't really friends with her anyway. You may or may not bump into her again, and if you did, just go with what you feel at the time. If you still feel upset, just ignore her. I don't think it's a big deal, tbh.

I don’t think it’s OTT.

She clearly doesn’t think much of me if she can’t be bothered to uphold her invite.

Kinda rude to just invite someone to an event and then never mention it again, so yes, it’s nasty and I do believe it shows a lack of respect and it may warrant cutting all contact.

Would you want to be friends with someone who just invites you to something and then never mentions it again and goes out without you?

I think it's a rude and, quite frankly, mean thing for her to have done. I would have been quite hurt if it had happened to me. I would definitely 'like' the Facebook post though. Did you? A bit of passive aggression is needed here. If/when you see her again, just smile and walk on by. You don't need friends like her in your life.

no, I didn’t like the Facebook post. I just ignored it completely.

I get where you’re coming from but then I thought why bother liking it as I just don’t want to give her any acknowledgment.

To be honest I don’t even think she’d realise I was being passive aggressive if I had liked the post. She probably wouldn’t think anything of it.

But yes, I am quite hurt. We don’t talk everyday, we don’t have to, but nothing excuses inviting me and then leaving me out.

I think the best punishment is just to ignore her from now on and not bother anymore.