I absolutely hate my birthday

[Amandasummers]

I'm a grown woman, how does my birthday manage to upset me every single year? It's always just a stark reminder that the people in my life just don't care about me that much. It makes me feel like utter shit every single year. I just needed to get that off my chest.

Don't like mine either. 2nd January so right after Christmas (yeah I do pity anyone born on 25th or just before/after Christmas) Very few people remember it.

Have a hug from me. There are occasions in life that we are 'supposed' to enjoy, and it's very hard if you just don't

Agreed. There is absolutely no need to make a fuss about adult birthdays - I find mine excruciatingly embarrassing and just ignore it.

Agreed - mine today

Its also mine today...happy birthday to anyone else celebrating 🍰.
However, I agree with the OP, it does remind me that those in my life that supposedly love me .... really dont give 2 hoots. It really makes me wonder why I bother on their birthdays, or why im still with DH.

@Ladyoftheprom 🎉🥳🎈🎁🎂Whoop Happy Birthday.

Sorry Op. Was it today?

I use my birthday as an excuse to do exactly what I want for the day ( usually the weekend). If you take the lead others follow I find.
I’m January but later on. I love it. You get loads of presents ( either good sale stuff or regifts), lots of people doing dry January for lifts and babysitting purposes and many are still in the swing of going out. Pubs and hotels tend to do deals as well. I rally feel for those with Christmas and Christmas week birthdays. I don’t know many who say they enjoy their birthdays.

Literally no-one has bought me a present in a decade. I hate it.

I really enjoy mine, I always plan something nice to do and plan all my meals. Even in lockdown it was nice, I went for a walk and looked at all the frost on the trees and later on I had a tapas takeaway.
Happy birthday to all of you celebrating your birthday today.

Can you do something nice for yourself? Book a day trip? Meal out? Treat yourself to jewellery, perfume or whatever item you would consider a luxury?

My tip would be to do exactly what you want to do on your own birthday.

Spoil yourself rather than wish someone else would. You know exactly what you would like to do.

Enjoy.

Birthday twins!

@rainbowhairchalk

Yay!! Do you enjoy yours???

If mine falls on a weekday I try to take the day off work.
That's a present in itself.

Not particularly 😅

Oh god in the same. But I never used to be. Annoyingly (for prob only me!) my work gives me a paid day off in my birthday which is kind but then I spend the day trying to do something special and it enforces my gloom somehow. This year dh took the day off and took me to my favorite town for shopping and lunch . I spent the whole day feeling utterly miserable, I couldn’t get myself out of the funk and then at one point I actually had a cry and wanted to go home. And then to finish off the day of misery/ the queen died! I think next year I may just go to work anyway and just get an extra days holiday somewhere else if I can

I can see how the Queen dying would have been a downer on your birthday but generally what is it you don’t like about your birthday?

Happy birthday to fellow Scorpios. I had mine this week as well.

I posted on another birthday thread. I know, absolutely 100% that DH wont bother with mine this year ( minimal effort every year , had many arguments about this over the nearly 30 years weve been together, nothing changes) and it's a big one. 50th.
The difference this year is that I've decided to treat myself, cake and coffee and a browse around a local artisan fayre on the day. By myself ~ well with the dog.

I hate mine too OP. My mother and stepfather made it clear I wasn't wanted and shoved me in boarding school while they went off abroad with my half siblings and had a fantastic life. I was left to fend for myself. I didnt see them again until they retired and came back to the UK.
They made it clear they didn't want me around then either.
My birthday every year is a reminder that nobody wants me. It sends me into a spiral of depression.

My birthday usually falls around a bank holiday and I've spent many of them on my own because people are away for the weekend or busy doing family stuff. It used to make me so miserable but a few years ago I decided to take back control of how I would feel in my birthday. I don't wait for others to make it a good day I do it myself.

@Bestcatmum 💐💐xx.

Same here, my parents and only sibling are dead. I hate my birthday too.

Happy birthday folks!

I’ve never celebrated my birthday as a child. It was such an alien thing to me! I was aware other children had birthday parties, obviously, but I never had one.
I wasn’t even sure how you celebrate it: do you have people who love you make you a cake and throw you a party? How do you get people to do that?
I had my DD in my 30s, I learnt with her. I adapted it to suit me being gauche and continental: always on her birthday, always decorated the house and the birthday chair, always made a cake, few invites, understated.
Then DD became aware I have a birthday too, that my ExH never celebrated, so I wanted to make it easier and natural for her, I started celebrating my own. I did ask my ex(H at the time) to buy a cake, he said he doesn’t like cake. I wasn’t even sure what you do, do you buy your own cake?

I made a cake and invited a couple of friends in the afternoon. Then we started going out for a meal on my birthday. One year I took myself to London to an art gallery, I had lunch in Chinatown and bought myself a jumper in Massimo Dutti and a glass of wine from M&S. And as I was travelling back home on the train, I thought to myself: actually, I had a lovely day, celebrating I’ve had a good, healthy year, I’m really enjoying my own company, and more importantly, I’m happy it’s my birthday and I’m ok with celebrating myself.

In my 40s, I made lots of friends, divorced, had a new relationship (and he really did spoil me) and started throwing proper parties.

I don’t know. Are birthdays occasions for your loved ones to show their love? Is that what it’s all about? I choose to see it like this: I’m happy I’m alive, I made it another year, let’s have cake. I’m not all that interested in presents, tbh. Having people around the table is more important.
I did say to one of my friends: you know, nobody has ever made me a birthday cake. And every year since, she makes me the most divine cakes. Maybe showing I’m vulnerable helped. But I love my birthdays now.

Sorry for babbling on a bit, I’m thinking ‘out loud’.

@BuddhaAtSea

Lovely post. Thank you for sharing.

Ah well, it is a rare time of the year when I have a drinkiepoos on my own. I still have some brandy from two years ago. Medicinal of course because I had Covid at Christmas and was 'clear' on my birthday!!!

I keep looking for Christmas and New Year holidays on the rare occasions I am not working, but most return dates are on 2nd January, when I would rather still be sipping a cocktail or some such by the pool/beach/anywhere but home!!