What advice would you give to a mumtobe?

[Mumtobe2305]

I’m 13 weeks pregnant today with our 🌈
What advice would you give to a first time mum / mum to be?

Congratulations @Mumtobe2305 😊

My advice would be:

• always trust your instincts
• try not to compare your parenting or your baby to others
• you can never hold or cuddle your baby too mucH

My advice is don’t take advice.

You will know your own baby best. Let yourself be the expert and trust your instincts.

My advice is for labour. You are the only one who knows how you are feeling, so if you feel like you want the midwife to see how far dilated you are, ask. I was very timid in my first labour, thought I was not very far along, was too afraid to make a sound and ask for help and was panicking. They checked me and I was nearly fully dilated. I was still on the induction ward so then had to wait for a delivery room before getting any gas and air. For my second I was very bolshy and asked to be checked, requested pain relief, was generally more vocal and as a result I felt much more in control and coped far better!

Also someone told me that very new babies tend to only be awake for around 90 mins before they need a nap and that was very useful info.

Also, if you loose a significant amount of blood during delivery, rest afterwards, don't do what I did and try and walk everywhere and get everything done, I felt like shit for a month. Second child I did nothing and felt a million times better!

Congratulations op

Play the same piece of music every day at your most relaxing time. Your baby will associate it with relaxation and hopefully sleep!

I think that's really great advice and something I would have resisted before my first child. I found my second child so much easier because we were in a routine with the first child. She was in playgroup by then so we were up and out of the house pretty early on.

If you're the person who has to sort out the evening meal and try to get it started in the morning. If you don't you'll be living off takeaways!

Keep a stash of chocolate biscuits for night feeds.