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Why would you do this to your child?

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Trainfromredhill · 29/10/2022 20:52

Call it Maximilian and spell it Maksymilian?

I know (but don’t understand) that people want something youneek, but this is one of the worst that I’ve come across(in real life).
is it shortened to Maks?

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Ginny1987 · 30/10/2022 01:21

…are they polish then?

MrsEricBana · 30/10/2022 01:26

Maksymilian Faktorowicz was the birth name of Max Factor.

BobbyBobbyBobby · 30/10/2022 06:59

Itstarts · 30/10/2022 00:00

That's not being "lighthearted". It's taking the piss out of another culture aka racist.

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What are you talking about?! The family in question are whiter than white!

Meadowbreeze · 30/10/2022 07:33

@BobbyBobbyBobby you do realise you can be racist to white people right?

cairnsarethebest · 30/10/2022 07:36

This thread should go. It's racist.

Soubriquet · 30/10/2022 07:48

I once knew a Patrcyja.

That took me a moment to recognise as a name.

She was polish obviously

DorritLittle · 30/10/2022 08:02

BaggieMaggie · 29/10/2022 23:34

100% this. Never has a post summed up a whole thread as well as this post.

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I agree.

PurplePansy05 · 30/10/2022 08:04

SirMoose · 29/10/2022 21:25

”waaaaah why isn’t it white British enough!!!””

This. Not enough eye rolls for ignorance.

Google first next time if you don't know, duh.

cairnsarethebest · 30/10/2022 08:05

MoneyMeAndAdhd · 29/10/2022 23:14

I think there are some quite disingenuous posts on here. OP made a mistake in thinking it was a ‘youneek’ spelling and has said she’s learnt from this thread.

However, mumsnet is often mocking ‘youneek’ and ‘made up’ spellings of names, calling them chavvy (which is a horrible word!)
So although OP was not correct in this thread, I think everyone knows that if she had said a different name with a ‘made up’ spelling, people would have been jumping on the thread to encourage mocking ‘chavvy’ names.

It doesn’t mean OP is racist, it means MN is a place where mocking unusual names is ok as long the names are chavvy and not foreign.

It’s double standards - we shouldn’t be mocking any children’s names.

Yup. This. And I say this as someone who has a child named on of the problematic names that gets mentioned on here.

But. It's a name that is for someone in the family and it has meaning to us.

THisbackwithavengeance · 30/10/2022 08:38

FFS. The OP came on way up the thread with a graciously worded apology and thanked everyone for correcting her.

And yet because people CBA to read the whole thread, all the keyboard warriors have now piled on with the increasingly nasty insults and accusations.

You should all have a word with yourselves.

TheChosenTwo · 30/10/2022 08:56

My neighbour is Polish and her son is called this and it’s spelt this way. Until I met her 4 years ago I’d never seen the name spelt that way, the only other time I’d seen it spelt this way since is today reading this! I’ve worked in schools for years and have seen many new names and spellings of familiar names but never come across this spelling.
Op has learnt something and has accepted this. No need to keep piling on and bashing her!
I certainly didn’t google the more unusual spellings of familiar names I used to hear!

30062015 · 30/10/2022 09:12

Well that's fair enough. Although if the child is growing up in a country that isn't Poland, they will still have a lifetime of people getting their name wrong. But I can understand the parents wanting the child's name to reflect their heritage. I'd probably opt for a shorter, easier one for the child's sake though! I have a Welsh name that was fine growing up in Wales, but constantly being called the wrong name here and having to spell it out. I do love my name though.

Not necessarily children / families grow up and move all over the world especially nowadays people are generally more accustomed to names being spelt and pronounced differently. My cousins son who name if said correctly is pronounced phoneticllly which worked in Europe / Africa but not so readily in UK and US. However family/ school / wider circle are a blend of all nations and just accustomed to it and only once in primary school did a child ask why he had a girl's name. He explained no it's a boys name but spelt .... and that was it. Not a big deal. Coincidently being in the UK non UK/US always pronounce it the correct way first time. And anyone else he corrects if it's necessary - most of the time it isn't. Unless the name has a double meaning that is nasty or unfortunately tainted by something horrific through history - I think it's sometimes an exaggeration to say a child will be saddled with a life long burden of explaining or being laughed at

waterlego · 30/10/2022 09:24

SemperIdem · 30/10/2022 00:48

@pinkpotatoez there is a large difference between naming your child Katarzyna rather than Catherine because you’re Eastern European, and naming your child Lexiibelle because you’re intellectually barren.

Do you think it’s ok to mock someone for being ‘intellectually barren’? People don’t get to choose their IQ or social background any more than they can choose their race, culture or nationality.

WitchyOsmansXraySpectre · 30/10/2022 09:52

waterlego · 30/10/2022 09:24

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Exactly! Intellectually barren indeed. Kindness means a lot more and it seems @SemperIdem is barren in this department.
Fwiw I quite like Lexiibelle and I’m not ‘intellectually barren’.

Going back to the original Maksymilian, I suppose it depends on where you live. My DC have always had friends or kids in their class with names which include lots of K/Y/Js as we live in an area with lots of Eastern Europeans, so we wouldn’t bat an eyelid at that spelling.

arctica · 30/10/2022 18:19

Trainfromredhill · 29/10/2022 21:50

Obviously racist….married to a foreigner, with a non British passport myself. I could spend hours daily googling the names I come across. I didn’t. I stand corrected. I’m not sure being rude and abusive makes those posting such messages any better than the original post.

Yeah googling is way too much effort. Much easier to start a thread insulting the name and the patents instead.

Kanaloa · 30/10/2022 18:35

BobbyBobbyBobby · 29/10/2022 21:11

I know a family who’s son is called Lucky.

Regardless of whether it’s a suitable name or not, it would worry me if the child wasn’t actually lucky in life.

What if he’s sitting there one day, age 35 and reflecting on his failed marriages, losing his job, going bald and tripping over his black cat and breaking both his legs.

Will he change his name to Unlucky?

Are they white British? If so that’s unusual, but if they are (for example) Nigerian, it’s not unusual at all. It’s a really common naming trend there. Whether or not he’s Lucky isn’t too much of a problem really - look how popular Grace is over here! And definitely not all the children named Grace are graceful.

Kanaloa · 30/10/2022 18:37

cairnsarethebest · 30/10/2022 07:36

This thread should go. It's racist.

If you started deleting name threads on here just because they were full of racism/classism/nastiness, there wouldn’t be a baby name board any more at all.

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