I don't drink and I'm sick of being asked why!

[Userno63673673636]

Because there is no specific reason, there are a few factors - not liking the taste, the cost, the social aspect - I'm pretty unsociable and just because I have to kids with sen and don't get chance to go out much anyway. I have drank a little in the past and I don't really like feeling drunk!

I have no issues with other people having a couple but very drunk people as it's triggering reminding me of past experiences but most people I know do know their limits.

It is very rare that I go out. The rare occasion I do I just don't drink. I feel that people think it's weird or unusual when it's so normal for me? My dh doesn't drink either!

today was a kid Halloween party in a pub that Dd wanted to go to, I couldn't drink anyway as it was 5 miles away from home and I was driving.

i have had people question why I don't drink to, for instance they think I've had a previous drink problem which is not the case. I've even had a doctor look puzzled when I've replied I don't drink at all.

am I really that boring? Maybe I am! 🤷‍♀️

we don't have drink in the house either, we don't drink it and we rarely have visitors, a while ago we did have family other during the day who were shocked when they asked for a drink and I didn't have anything!

anyone else? Not sure what the point of my post is but some people just don't seem to get a non drinking life?

What do they say? All I ever say is “I don’t drink” and would only say any more if asked further.

I have a few reasons for rarely drinking
I live in the middle of nowhere
I am a lone parent and don't want to drink whilst being in charge of my child alone
My ex was a violent alcoholic and I have ptsd. The smell of some alcohol makes me feel sick
I take tablets for my adhd and was told not to drink on them.
I still get a lot of pressure at client events to drink. People get really offended if you can't or won't drink.

I saw a comedian once calling people assholes if they said they didn’t like the taste of alcohol. “Nobody likes the taste of alcohol!!” He went on to say that you drink and get drunk anyway.

The only asshole here is you, pal.

I don't drink, never have. I don't drone on about it either. I actually never ever admit to not drinking until I have to as I find some people are extremely judgemental about non drinkers. I feel like a social pariah and, whilst I dislike drunkenness, I have always encouraged my children to drink so they won't have the same handicap in life that I do.

I'm jealous..I wish I never drank Alcohol

I have maybe one cocktail every few years....!....recently have had to ditch a few friends due to their drinking habits and behaviour.....boring political monologues....repeating themselves....its so boring....rude and obnoxious behaviour....its embarrassing to watch this couple in pub or restaurants when they are pissed....and if you dont agree with their politics, they call you stupid and tell you to F....Off.....!!....so now tired of it.....

In the first lines after you said you don’t drink and I don’t want to explain why, you offered about 5 of the reasons why you don’t drink completely unsolicited.

People are curious when someone makes choices in their lives, especially ones that are different from their own. Like wondering why some people home school, go off grid, are gym rats.

They are just conversations although and I get having the same conversation over and over can be annoying but I think people are just interested.

I'm a very occasional drinker, I'm quite happy to drive if it makes things easier or saves an expensive taxi, I'm just not that bothered.

We have friends who are very keener drinkers, who built garden pubs in the first lockdown for example because they couldn't go to the pub, they drink alcohol at home most evenings etc. I frequently get asked why I'm not drinking, DP gets told off for "making" me drive (absolutely not the case). They just find it really strange that I'm not that bothered. I do enjoy a drink sometimes, I'll get drunk on a big night out, I'll even drink at lunchtime on holiday on the odd occasion, I'm not anti alcohol but I can take it or leave it.

Alcohol is the only drug that people demand to know why you're not taking it. And the first thing people jump to is that you're an alcoholic. Not that you either don't like it or choose not to drink it but that you've a problem with it. 🙄

I rarely drink as I suffer with migraines and a single glass of wine is perfectly capable of wiping the complete next day out for me. I am nearly always volunteering to drive - I don't miss alcohol at all, I can have a perfectly great evening without it.
I've never been questioned or pressured about it ever though. The most I have ever had is 'oh are you driving?' but that's it!

I've just about stopped drinking and feel a lot healthier and more alert.
My tactic is to drink something that looks like alcohol - an AF beer or glass of tonic water with ice and lemon.
If anyone notices (and they rarely do), I tell them it's because of a health condition and then move the conversation on to something else.
People are far more interested in themselves than my choices and I don't want to appear as a smug non-drinker although I do find the company of pissed people very tedious now.

You asked if you were boring because you don't drink, on the contrary it's the opposite people who are boring. I've suffered and continue to suffer work colleagues and friends who constantly bleat on about how much they drink.
The other point I would make is, don't focus the issue on yourself. A mature person should not be fixated on why someone else doesn't drink, they should accept you've made your choice and leave it alone.

I don't drink anymore. Haven't for 10 years.

When I say "I don't drink" I either find others admit the same (it's not that unusual) or people say "why?" And I just say "because I choose not to".

No one's ever ask again or even really cared.

I did once have someone make a comment about not drinking being boring. She was quite tipsy and didn't quit with this line and going on about it.

I just shrugged, smiled sweetly and said "we all have different opinions. Mine is I feel sorry for people who can't enjoy themselves without being drunk. It must be really hard to be so unhappy with your sober lot on life".

She wasn't happy but did shut up

I don’t drink but no one makes a big deal about it. My friends and family are used to it and acquaintances don’t seem to care whether I drink or not! I doubt most people notice if I’m drinking or not to be honest, unless I was to mention it.

Dhs family are huge drinkers it is not “normal” in their eyes to not drink.

I hate being drunk. I don’t mind a glass or two but learned the very hard way to learn my limits. So if I go out I’ll have a drink then switch to soft drinks. I’m “boring” and “no fun” apparently.

until I drive home and then am fresh the next morning.

@Userno63673673636 if you’re looking for something to say when asked why you don’t drink you could say

I’m not feeling like it tonight

or

I'm tracking my blood sugar

or

I’m the designated driver

or

I’m the adult survivor of an alcoholic home

or

why do you think?

*I did once have someone make a comment about not drinking being boring. She was quite tipsy and didn't quit with this line and going on about it.

I just shrugged, smiled sweetly and said "we all have different opinions. Mine is I feel sorry for people who can't enjoy themselves without being drunk. It must be really hard to be so unhappy with your sober lot on life".

She wasn't happy but did shut up*

I love this!