I don't drink and I'm sick of being asked why!

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Because there is no specific reason, there are a few factors - not liking the taste, the cost, the social aspect - I'm pretty unsociable and just because I have to kids with sen and don't get chance to go out much anyway. I have drank a little in the past and I don't really like feeling drunk!

I have no issues with other people having a couple but very drunk people as it's triggering reminding me of past experiences but most people I know do know their limits.

It is very rare that I go out. The rare occasion I do I just don't drink. I feel that people think it's weird or unusual when it's so normal for me? My dh doesn't drink either!

today was a kid Halloween party in a pub that Dd wanted to go to, I couldn't drink anyway as it was 5 miles away from home and I was driving.

i have had people question why I don't drink to, for instance they think I've had a previous drink problem which is not the case. I've even had a doctor look puzzled when I've replied I don't drink at all.

am I really that boring? Maybe I am! 🤷‍♀️

we don't have drink in the house either, we don't drink it and we rarely have visitors, a while ago we did have family other during the day who were shocked when they asked for a drink and I didn't have anything!

anyone else? Not sure what the point of my post is but some people just don't seem to get a non drinking life?

I don't drink either. If I drink enough to get pleasantly woozy I get a banging hangover. I can only drink white wine and gin and tonic as the taste of anything else is awful. Too many calories and I'm trying to lose weight. No point really if they make me feel sick.

Our NDN's had a Christmas party a few years ago, and were genuinely horrified when I refused an alcoholic drink. I was made to feel like I had something really wrong with me - when they were the ones in their 50s acting like they were Inbetweeners I'm diabetic, and for whatever reason, alcohol makes me feel absolutely grim for about 48 hours. I'll have a glass of champagne if at a wedding or on Christmas day, and I can honestly say that it never bothers me.

I know lots of people including DH and me, who sometimes or always decline alcohol offered at social occasions and ask for a soft drink instead. I've never heard anyone comment or ask for a reason, perhaps because it's so common, even in pubs. Maybe its because we've lived for many years in remote rural Scotland where the drink-driving limit here is so low that people who rely on their car just do not drink and drive.

I am with bestcatmum on this. I just say I am an alcoholic. (I am not) It stops people asking or trying to persuade me.

Ive gradually cut back drinking due to awful menopausal symptoms, and now, I pretty much don’t drink alcohol at all. Maybe something fizzy at Christmas, but that’s it.

i do suffer crippling migraines, so if get challenged why I’m not drinking, and CBA to discuss then I just claim to have just had a migraine, or say I can feel one coming on. Otherwise is say sadly ‘no…. not since that incident with the axe‘ though TBH if I describe the terrible hot flushes I get, that also shuts people up.

I don’t really have people asking why I don’t drink, most will accept it without question but if they push further I tell them the truth “I’m alcohol intolerant” they can’t really argue with that. (So maybe you could use this in future)

Have only really had one person that looked shocked and didn’t know how to react which I though was odd at the time, I have long since found out she’s an alcoholic (although in denial) So drinking at every given chance is completely normalised to her.

Dh isn’t really a drinker either the odd cider once in a blue moon and we both know lots of people who drink very little or not at all.
We don’t keep alcohol in the house either but we’ve never felt the need to justify it to others.

This. People think it's normal here to get wasted or drink at every single social occasion without fail. Problem is your body eventually pays the price so good idea to not drink.

This is exactly me.
Enjoy a glass of wine with Christmas dinner, a few ports and Baileys over the next few days and that’s about it for another year 🙂

I don't drink either (daddy was an alcoholic, to quote Starsailor) and have had people get annoyed - have sometimes ended up having to have a drink myself to placate them - and had one person actually say "the only thing I don't understand about you is that you don't drink". People know I don't drink but still open bottles of wine and put a glass in front of me... I know my social life has suffered for it; I am aware that I don't get invited to girls' nights with work women and/or school mums because of it. Not sure what the answer is to be honest.

I do drink but not at every single event or in the middle of the day, unless it's a wedding. My in laws drove me mad for a few years as they would ask me if I wanted an alcoholoic drink no matter what time of the day it was when we visited, they did it to see if I was pregnant, so I stopped accepting drinks for a few years round theirs whether I was pregnant or not (I had 3 children over 5 years, plus another pregnancy, so I was pregnant and hiding it quite a lot!). Funny they've stopped with their insistant offer of alcohol now I'm clearly done with children 🤔. So I understand how annoying it can be refusing drink and getting "why?" Or "go on..." 🙄.

I don't really drink either - maybe the odd drink at Christmas or a wedding but I definitely don't have more than one or two drinks a year, absolute maximum! People find that weird about me but I don't care - I'm just not interested in alcohol. It's like someone not liking cigarettes, surely? Or pringles?

I drink occasionally, maybe two or three times a year, but nobody has really questioned it or made any comments. I think that people who drink a lot just can't understand why other people don't. It makes them feel better to think that other people are the same as them.

I do have an occasional glass of wine, but it wouldn't bother me if I never drank again. It's expensive and full of sugar and I'm diabetic. The hangovers aren't worth it either. I'd rather have a mug of tea.

I stopped drinking 25yrs ago for lots of reasons. I was a social drinker and enjoyed it but I realised you can still act like a tit and spout bullshit stone cold sober if everyone around you is hammered. I probably gained a year back of my life by not having day long hangovers.
DH enjoys a beer or two but like me he has a stop button. I have only ever seen him blind drunk on a couple of occasions. I think the last time I drank to Olympic level was at our wedding 23 yrs ago.
I am not completely T total but I only drink the odd G nT and I can go for months without alcohol. I’m the same with chocolate.

Mostly 99% im tea total,
however sometimes it's those, fruity ciders, I like.
But usually I prefer to keep a level head, and I don't need the escapism, through drinking.

Sorry pressed post too early.
Friends have finally accepted I don’t drink. At first it was like a real battle of wills to try and buy me alcohol. People just can’t understand why you don’t drink. I think it may be that most people need alcohol to give them a bit of confidence. I just worked out I didn’t need it. Unfortunately, I am the same whether people around me are drunk or not. I have learned to ramp it down.

I don’t drink. I used to have a sociable drink or two when I was younger, but now I’m not interested. I might have a glass of wine at Christmas now. We don’t have any alcohol in the house. If we are hosting, we’ll get alcohol in, but I still wouldn’t drink it.

I don’t drink and am frequently interrogated about it by other people who want to know exactly why not. I don’t announce it but find if someone catches me ordering a soft drink they want to know exactly why…even saying I’m driving leads to them finding “solutions” to my “problem of not being able to drink” and not going willing to accept that I happily drove myself out for a lovely evening and will be driving myself home again. That’s until they want a lift and start nagging me to stay out “just a bit longer” …

I rarely drink. I probably drink 1 alcoholic drink 1 in ten times I go out.
I just dont enjoy it. I always drive if out with friends as i always feel i need an escape route if im not enjoying myself and not have to wait for a lift or taxi.
I don't drone on though.
Everyone knows i dont drink and its never been discussed

Well I don’t eat meat or drink so am definitely viewed as a weirdo!

I got absolutely wasted on Thunderbird and vodka at a party in my late teens. I remembered the feeling of being completely out of control of my body and throwing up so much that I thought my insides were going to come up too. Put me off completely. If I have a Baileys at Christmas, it’ll take me hours to finish it and I normally don’t, same with a very rare glass of wine. I feel it immediately as well so most of the time don’t bother. Always had comments about being ‘boring’ as not drinking.

I used to go clubbing on coke and water in my 20’s and could outdance everyone. Thoroughly enjoyed myself and never had hangovers.

DH also not a big drinker. We buy booze for bbqs and Christmas when we have guests and he’ll have a few then. The rest of it stays in the fridge or the back of the cupboard for a year.

I once gave a big bottle of whiskey (unopened) DH had been given about 15 years before, to the binmen at Christmas. They were so happy! He wasn’t happy as he’d been saving it so he said. Better in them than taking up space in the cupboard though!

I don’t drink or smoke and have never tried drugs, it just didn’t appeal to me and I was never interested. I did drink back when I was 15, never got drunk and just didn’t care for it. Most people are surprised, but I think the biggest shock I got was from the midwifes when I was pregnant both times. 19 & 24 I was and they ask you the classic do you drink etc questions, the midwife ( on both occasions) her mouth hit the floor. 5 minutes we talked about the fact that I’m soo young and she’s super surprised I don’t do either.
when I spend your childhood in a pub and your grandparents are alcoholics.. I feel like it has some sort of psychological affect.
I just don’t see how your gonna solve your problems at the bottom of a bottle....

I have exactly the same issue. Some people seem quite angry when I tell them I don’t drink. Really interrogating me about why not and getting cross when I can’t give them a concrete answer they’re happy with. Just saying I don’t like it doesn’t seem good enough, think they expect me to be pregnant, or have an alcohol problem, or be on antibiotics. Often get people asking well have you tried x drink, y drink……..no it’s not the taste it’s how it makes me feel I don’t like.

Slightly different as I drink sometimes, but I won't drink for the sake of drinking. I'll only drink if there is something nice on offer otherwise I'm more than happy with a soft drink. Sometimes I don't bother because I don't feel like drinking!

I get more funny looks when I say I don't drink tea or coffee (or any hot drinks for that matter). Probably because I am English I just love tea.

I get that, I don’t drink either of them.. people look at me like I’m alien

I don’t drink, but I quit as I had a drink problem. Been sober over 400 days. It’s the only drug that you have to justify not taking and that people assume if you don’t you have a problem. It’s not you, it’s this fucked up alcocentric society that’s the problem. As for “boring”, nothing more boring than a drunk slurring their words, repeating themselves, and talking shite!