Annoying neighbour…too nice…

[Paris2023]

I’m going to get shot down for this one…..but we have a neighbour! Moved in pre-pandemic! And I’m being one judgemental so and so here, everyone loves her but I just can’t stand her!! Well I say everyone I know her adjoining neighbours have had a fall out because they home school their children and the adjoining elderly couple said they’re fed up of the noise all day from there house (kids arguing, kids playing etc etc).

This neighbour regularly asks for stuff on the Street whatsapp (has anyone got X game etc before I go out and buy it for my kids). Or if someone is giving something away she’s on there within 5 seconds saying (I’ll have it, probably running an eBay business on the side). Her kids once made brownies and dropped them round. We binned them! I don’t want your kids brownies thanks!

just now another neighbour has fallen in and said on our whatsapp group that she is poorly - and in jumps in annoying neighbour being super helpful (I’ll come round and help in the house and cook for you).

She had a baby and home schools two children I mean come on, just stop! Stop pretending to be so bloody ‘nice’ all the time cos you’re not. You’re annoying. And stop being so grabby.

done. Waiting to be flamed. Over and out.

The neighbourhood along here with loads of retired people is a bit like that, can't think of a overly nice person though. Mainly people hiding from a few louder ones who socialize out the front and blank the ones their not in a clique with until they get fed up with each other.

Exactly. I get vibes about people that are always right in the end.

But I'm not a bitch, so I don't give them the headspace to concoct weird scenarios about what she might be up to with her curtains closed and her brownie baking and call them names and generally get so worked out.

Get a hobby. Or volunteering might be a nicer way to channel that negative energy.

She sounds perfectly nice to me, jeez you could have much much worse for a neighbour, thank your lucky stars you don’t have any thugs as neighbours.

A few people said its because a lot of people cant cope with more than one or two neighbours so they blank and avoid most of them.

Completely judgy guessing that she sells stuff on, on ebay - where is your actual evidence?
Throwing away perfectly ok brownies - why? What a waste.
Sounds to me like shes got quite a bit of time on her hands so is trying to be helpful - perhaps trying too hard........ I can understand how annoying that can be but perhaps being new to the area she just wants to fit in/find friends.
The all day long kids noise..... I see how that would be annoying to as mine were never noisy enough to annoy the neighbours.

You sound a bit jealous. Maybe she just has different standards to you and doesn't sweat the small stuff like rigid routines or having a super tidy home (just examples) hence she has time to help other people out or is willing to make time?

Maybe she is also happy to reuse stuff and is committed to buying secondhand hence asking or looking on the local Facebook page.

I have a friend who is very different to me, she's very much an earth mother type, completely child led and homeschooling. I on the other hand like a routine and schedule, I'm child led but to an extent. She doesn't sweat things like crumbs on the floor or toys everywhere, I'd be itching to pull the hoover out. We are friends because despite our differences or core values are the same. Different people and all that. You don't need to measure yourself against her but it sounds like you do?

Jeez I wouldn’t have a clue what my neighbours get up to not even my next door ones, she sounds ok to me, there are nice people in the world you know, you sound so unbelievable jealous, if my neighbours children gave us some brownies they had made I’d think that’s a nice thing to do, the fact you are even mentioning she leaves her curtains closed makes me really giggle, I bet you are wondering what she’s doing behind them, stirring her potion in her cauldron( maybe) poor woman! She can’t do right from wrong in your eyes, maybe if you lived next to a neighbour that was playing loud music into the night or having wild parties night after night you would realise you have nothing to concern yourself about with this lady,

You should live where I do op one of our neighbours has got a new remote control garage door. He spent ages pressing the remote up and down and looking up and down to see if anyone had noticed his new garage door 🤣🤣 no I wasn’t looking at him from him behind my curtains I was walking by his home, I said to him you got a new garage door 🤣

Her kids once made brownies and dropped them round. We binned them! I don’t want your kids brownies thanks!
That is so mean OP why did you accept them if you did not want them im sure another neighbour would have been appreciative its a kind gesture what a nasty post. Just politely decline you sound like the one with the problem not her.

As you have found out OP people are easily taken in by someone that appears nice.

If something appears to be too good to be true it usually is.

Often heard “but he/she seemed so lovely at the beginning.”

Maybe she’s lonely and sick of spending all day with her kids trying to be friendly to build relationships

What’s wrong with eating something a child has lovingly baked? You’re rude as fuck.

I do get your view to a certain extent OP, sometimes there are people that no matter how lovely they are you just can’t click with them and despise them. I’ve had similar experiences with people, it’s normal to not like everyone or to notice something being off when others don’t. There isnt anything you can do about it though, perhaps try and see the positives that she’s a nice person and not an anti social bully making your life hell? I’d love a neighbour like her as she sounds like someone you can turn to in an emergency.

I agree.

You call yourself ‘very intuitive’, @Paris2023 , others might call you nasty, jealous and very judgemental.

😂Did he stop doing this since someone noticed or still abusing poor garage door?

@ViburnumFarreri It amazes me that people actually start these threads. What a world we are in. We’re now penalising folk for being overly nice or helpful.

Get a life OP!

I once lived next door to someone who set fire to his garden when drunk and let his massive dog jump over our fence when my kids were toddlers. So 're lived when he moved and never complained about a neighbour after that.

I know what you mean OP. One of the school dads was like that. Just too nice. Too good to be true. But I just couldn't put my finger on what revolted me.

Why on earth are you thinking about the poor woman so much that you're posting on MN about her?!

You sound a little unhinged. Do you have any hobbies?

Sounds like your neighbour has done nothing wrong.

Retired doctors and teachers aren't always the most accommodating of people. And I know this from personal experience 🤣🤣

She sounds delightful. You sound jealous.

Why not try to get to know her better?

Ffs old thread!

New series of Two Doors Down?

Her kids once made brownies and dropped them round
o rage o desespoir

Lord above, that's taken me back to A level French.
Is it from Le Misanthrope?

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