Annoying neighbour…too nice…

[Paris2023]

I’m going to get shot down for this one…..but we have a neighbour! Moved in pre-pandemic! And I’m being one judgemental so and so here, everyone loves her but I just can’t stand her!! Well I say everyone I know her adjoining neighbours have had a fall out because they home school their children and the adjoining elderly couple said they’re fed up of the noise all day from there house (kids arguing, kids playing etc etc).

This neighbour regularly asks for stuff on the Street whatsapp (has anyone got X game etc before I go out and buy it for my kids). Or if someone is giving something away she’s on there within 5 seconds saying (I’ll have it, probably running an eBay business on the side). Her kids once made brownies and dropped them round. We binned them! I don’t want your kids brownies thanks!

just now another neighbour has fallen in and said on our whatsapp group that she is poorly - and in jumps in annoying neighbour being super helpful (I’ll come round and help in the house and cook for you).

She had a baby and home schools two children I mean come on, just stop! Stop pretending to be so bloody ‘nice’ all the time cos you’re not. You’re annoying. And stop being so grabby.

done. Waiting to be flamed. Over and out.

I’d like to say yes I’m probably like your DP a total cynic. I’m very intuitive - can’t put my finger on it!

You sound very unpleasant (and jealous?). She hasn't done anything wrong. As previous posters have said, read posts from people with truly malicious / ghastly neighbours - and count yourself lucky!

You sound like my own neighbours who love to try and stir up trouble. You sound bitter and jealous. Get a life.

Your feelings towards her, say more about you then they do about her!

maybe worth exploring why these traits seem to trigger you so badly!

You can dislike your neighbour as much as you like 🤷‍♀️
but to start such a venomous and unpleasant thread and the amount of headspace you are giving it speaks volumes

Ffs get a life of your own!!!!

We actually have a street WhatsApp group, been going 3 years and zero drama :)

All sounds a bit 'Midsomer Murders' to me. Nice Neighbour would definitely be the one having a steamy affair with the vicar before she murders him in the barn with a pitch fork!

I don’t even have this much drama with our actual neighbours, who have objected to our small, planning-exempt extension and are generally spiteful and petty! So you’ve borrowed some neighbourly feud, and the person in question has done nothing wrong except home school, ask if anyone has a spare X on the neighbourhood WhatsApp, and bake brownies and volunteer help to third parties? But you’re ‘intuitive’ and think she’s secretly villainous?

Imagine having a neighbour whose kids make brownies to share. I can’t imagine anything worse.

(seriously OP, maybe you don’t like her - fine - but you sound bitchy)

Am I the only one wondering why you're taking it out on her kids and throwing out their brownies. What an absolute waste. Thank fuck you aren't my neighbour, you'd love my dd.

Perhaps take up a hobby, Op.

She's probably not trying, she just is.
Why is that such a trigger point for you?
Aren't you a bit jealous about her and her family?

Why do you use so many exclamation marks?

I know who I would rather live next door to, if I had to choose between the 'too-nice neighbour' and the OP.

If she homeschools, then it would make sense that the kids made the brownies as an educational activity. Plus if she's home a lot she genuinely has flexibility to help the other neighbour who had a fall. Some people are nice and it sounds like she's trying really hard to be a good person, Unfortunately she still comes up against miserable people like you who probably make her feel all sorts of insecure about what she's doing wrong (nothing).

This post hasn't been updated in a month.

I don't understand how people have time to think about all of this, then post it on here and want to get flamed for having a nice neighbour who has done nothing but showed you kindness.

Something is "off" about her. Maybe that person actually does not deserve what you're doing on here and hopefully there will be a sign for her to stay clear. How sad.

Wow, a Doctor and and a Teacher don’t like her?
Clearly there is something wrong with her

Op, I get it. We have one of these neighbours. I was the cynic. 3 years later, my DH agrees with me. She is actually a nightmare. All 'nice' behaviour turns out to have an ulterior motive!

You sound so much like a woman I used to know, she was always so bitter about people who liked to do their best.

She never could keep her friends.

I don't understand why being nice triggers some people?! The world needs more nice and smiling people.Some people are genuinely nice with no ulterior motive. The gabbiness is annoying though.
I think it's good to borrow from neighbours if they look after and return your items. Better for environment and pockets.

Let's hope she doesn't recognise herself from your thread.

She sounds annoying OP. I understand.

This is mean spirited! She sounds lovely! Why does it matter if she likes things for free! It's better for the environment!