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How often do you see and socialise with friends?

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LucilleGrey · 27/10/2022 18:24

I have a few friends who are always on the go, seeing their friends.

They seem to have coffee/ lunch etc 3-4 times a week as well as doing classes, looking out for elderly parents, etc.

I live in the sticks so it's harder for me to see them anyway. But I'm also slightly envious that they have such a big pool of friends.

On the other hand I sometimes feel a bit envious and wonder if I'm the weird anti social one.

Maybe I'm more introverted than I think!

OP posts:

Kite22 · 27/10/2022 23:24

Well, nothing like that as I work.

I do have various people I would call my friends, but most I don't socialise with that often. Many I only see once a year or so.
I am pretty sociable and am friendly with lots of people that I do hobbies or volunteering with, so then might see once a week or once a month (depending where I know them from) but that is at the activity. I don't really have time to be meeting for coffee or lunch other than as an occasional treat.

nonstoprenovation · 27/10/2022 23:30

Working here, so maybe every couple of weeks we will catch up for a drink, lunch, coffee but major catch ups used to be more frequent in my late 30s early 40s and now after covid and late 40s, I'm way more grumpy, homebody and can't be bothered.

I'm hoping with a good dose of HRT that my "be bothered" side comes back as I love a good catch up a do miss that side of my old life.

AWholePatchOfPumpkins · 27/10/2022 23:46

I see my friends at least twice a week, often more. We go out for a meal or just meet at each other’s houses, walk our dogs together, go for a run.

TedMullins · 27/10/2022 23:49

Once or twice a week usually and talk every day in group chats

IreneJones · 27/10/2022 23:54

Once a year when we go away for a weekend together.m

Metabigot · 28/10/2022 02:04

Probably once a month. Wish it was more but j don't seem great at maintaining a large circle ov pals, bane of my life but at least some hAve stuck around.

PrunellaMcTat · 28/10/2022 02:12

I don't have any friends who I socialise with more often than once every couple of months. I can easily go for 6 weeks without seeing anyone at all.

I genuinely enjoy my social butterfly friends on SM though. Cocktails at the tops of mountains! Girly weekends away! Hot tubs! Photos of shoes in trendy bars! Looks like great fun.

Deathraystare · 28/10/2022 07:34

See at least one of them most months. If neither of us are working we like to go to the shops somewhere like Westfield or maybe Uxbridge. I sometimes visit her mum who is also in my band of friends and take her out to lunch.

Meeting my friend and hopefully some others for a theatre trip tomorrow and on Sunday, the world's most genteel Halloween party (tea will be drunk) at another friend's place. Looking forward to that as she has had things done in her flat and this will be our first nosey at what has been done.

KangarooKenny · 28/10/2022 07:36

I don’t have any friends so no one to socialise with.

Woodsparrow · 28/10/2022 07:44

My main group of friends I see together maybe 3 times a year and meet with one of them for a cup of tea every 6 weeks ish.

I regularly see some other friends who were my friends first but now we have kids the same ages so we meet monthly with the kids. Not the biggest social for us with kids about and usually busy doing an activity but I'll take the opportunity

EBearhug · 28/10/2022 07:47

Different groups once or twice a year each. Don't really have any local friends.

Snoken · 28/10/2022 08:13

Now that the kids are old, 2-4 times a week, plus I do an exercise class with two friends twice a week. I have always made lots of time with friends. Even when the kids were small I had friends I met up several times a week so that our kids played together or we'd take them out to dinner after school pick-up. We then moved to the UK when the kids were primary aged and I realised it was much more common to just go home after school or maybe stop by a playground for a few minutes tops. The parents at my kids schools were less social so my social life became less intertwined with my kids social life and it made it a little harder to find the time to hang out separately.

hamstersarse · 28/10/2022 08:19

I see a friend pretty much every day

Ive a lot of groups of friends and there’s always someone to see/ something to do

SpringIntoChaos · 28/10/2022 08:20

Once a month if I'm feeling flush...I can't afford any more than that 🤷‍♀️ It's not that I don't want to (I do!) but I'm on my own so my wage has to pay for everything. Times are tough right now 😪

Emmamoo89 · 28/10/2022 08:21

It can very. One week can see a few friends. Another maybe one friend. Some weeks can just be a quiet week. I like my alone time too

hamstersarse · 28/10/2022 08:24

SpringIntoChaos · 28/10/2022 08:20

I’m on my own too.
i meant I meet a friend for a walk (free) or do a sport (free). I don’t mean going out on the town

autienotnaughty · 28/10/2022 08:26

I have one friend I chat to on school run, talk on phone a few times a week and meet every couple of weeks. A group of 'couple' friends we see 3-4 times a years. And two old friends I see every few months. Then acquaintances I see randomly as and when. I do lots with my adult daughters tho so feel quite lucky.

SpringIntoChaos · 28/10/2022 08:41

Oh that's lovely @hamstersarse 😍 I could do that in holiday times...I'm a teacher, so don't get home before 6.30 most days, then have about 2 hours of work still to do after I've eaten. But good idea about walks and things. I instantly thought the OP meant 'out out' 🤣

RoseMartha · 28/10/2022 08:42

In the evenings never. Teens cant be left home alone longer than 40 mins.

Once a week for a coffee max.

I do work but not FT. And then it is wfh as cant leave teens all day when they refuse school or in holidays.

(I spend a lot of time at appointments either for elderly parent or my teens who have SN and mh problems (one teen in particular is violent), this is going to appointments for support for them and/or me or taking them to appointments).

SmokedHaddockChowder · 28/10/2022 08:43

I wrote a massive post on another thread yesterday about how I developed a large network of friends and acquaintances over the course of a few years, and found myself with a hectic social life! Then I realised I was doing all of the heavy lifting so took a step back - and my social life dried up overnight! I'm now enjoying the peace of not seeing people very often. I get social stimulation from my workmates and from a running club that I attend once a week. DH and I last did something properly social with friends about 6 weeks ago when we went out for dinner.

Comedycook · 28/10/2022 08:44

Used to be a couple of times a month but much less now. Live in London and quite a few of my friends have been priced out so have moved away

Comedycook · 28/10/2022 08:46

I'm amazed some of you are seeing friends several times a week. I find people are so busy with work and kids and general life!

AuntieMarys · 28/10/2022 08:47

Probably weekly. I do have lunch / coffees/ glass of wine on my own quite frequently if dh is working....I enjoy being on my own but out.

Tabbouleh · 28/10/2022 08:49

I would love to have weekly friends but it's more every couple of months.:(

Lyricallie · 28/10/2022 08:49

My local friends 3/4 times a month but we also work together so might have lunch at work.

My further away friends maybe once every 5/6 weeks depending on the time of year.

This time of year is much busier with birthdays and Christmas events so more like every 3 weeks with my further friends and every weekend with my local friends.

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