Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

Yes.

DD16 developed severe social anxiety due to the isolation, still not ok now. Both kids education screwed. I developed health anxiety due to hearing all the stories of people not being diagnosed because they couldn't see a GP. My own mammogram was cancelled which didn't help. My opinion of certain people changed due to all the nasty judging. Wish I could turn the clock back to 2019. Life was so much better then.

This thread has brought back horrible memories.
In a shop one day, a woman in front turned around 3 or 4 times to glare at me.
I avoided eye contact and thought she might have been admiring my mask! But no.
She said I was standing slightly too far forward of the red arrow drawn on the floor. I didn't trust myself to reply. Thankfully the cashier called her up because I was considering my response, which could quite easily have turned physical.

Yep. Redundancy (with zero pay as under 2 years) - wiped out £7k of savings whilst trying to find other work and keep paying all the bills. Built up £5k of credit cards debt at same time. Put on 2.5 stone with the bloody stress of it all. Then got Covid and it's badly affected my breathing.

Actually get quite angry with people who think it was wonderful ( know quite a few - suddenly had lots of income as no holidays etc, basically treated it like one big holiday, had work done on the house etc)

I'm with you 100% xx

Covid meant I don't get married, given I have now got of the controlling abusive relationship I now realise I was in it was the best thinkg to come out of covid. She really was awful to me. Struggling mental health issue now!

It did put a tremendous strain on our marriage by the end. Six months of being practically locked in together over the period of a year without being able to get out and about at intervals isn't good for anybody. By the end I don't know which of us wanted to kill the other the most.

There was a plus side for us. My husband was lucky enough to be paid his full salary throughout both lockdowns and we also live with my mother, so we did actually manage to save some money.

I’m so sorry

So I've been kind of left without my friends tbh. I've made new ones but it's not the same.

I can sympathise with that, Covid broke up several friendships and close family relationships because we disagreed on Covid - either because I didn’t agree with harsher measures and didn’t appreciate the endless lectures from those who felt entitled to do so, or because I didn’t believe the conspiracies. I went through several rounds of grief for those close relationships on top of the general shit of Covid.

I've made other friends now too, but I’d agree that it’s not the same, not least because people seem quicker to drop friends now.

Can I ask how did that happen? What was the trauma and why was your 13year old affected so badly?

My dh was made redundant the month before Covid hit. Was one of 1800 employees. They were supposed to have been given a year of training and assistance finding new jobs by a body that is normally over 90% successful in placing people as part of the redundancy package. This turned into a handful of telephone calls and virtually no one got a new job. Basically has been pushed into retirement at 62 with state pension arriving when he’s 67

Argh. I've never understood from the beginning why anyone is bothered by what other people choose to do (or need to do) wrt masks. Hope you feel better soon.

We've been OK, but I know multiple families dealing with kids with school refusal since then, and two whose children have developed serious eating disorders requiring hospital treatment. 😥

NotForSale my deepest condolences on your loss. I'm so very sorry.

Agreed, people need to mind their own fucking business.

I agree. Friends we had for decades cant be bothered driving 40 miles to visit anymore and we don't get invited there, they have all moved onto new lives and the few people we know here have left. The town we live in has been decimated with gym and swimming closed down for good (needed repairs so bulldozed down), the rail and bus service has been cut to shreds (post covid) and still no real appointments at the GP surgery and a horrible expensive trip to the nearest hospital if necessary. Gone from a second class life (no real jobs) to a 3rd class. Far worse for others as per original post of course.

This thread really has been so validating for me, after all the nastiness on here towards people who questioned the Great God Lockdown or pointed out the impact on children/ single people/ those who lost their income etc.

It has made me angry all over again that this was allowed to happen but also made me realise I wasn’t alone with it.

So thanks everyone!

Yes.

Worked through the pandemic (NHS nurse), caught Covid last October and unable to work since due to Long Covid/Post covid syndrome. Am now told my contract is likely to be terminated.

Is this because you were antivaxx?

OP - this thread is truly humbling. I am so sorry for what you have been through and how your life has been so negatively impacted by Covid. It is also heartbreaking to read of so many MH issues and how hard it still is to get adequate support and treatment. Your kind responses to so many have hopefully brought comfort and I hope this gives you some inner peace. I have no words of wisdom or advice, I wish you well (especially with the lottery!) Be kind to yourself.

Both of us in this situation. Have to live on life savings and very frugally too. Ageism is more than rife in the employment market. There are no shortages of employees, its a myth otherwise they would employ younger inexperienced people and older people with transferable skills.

Prior to first lockdown my DD's & I were living our best life. I feel its changed so much as a single parent it's been tough with no support network, when people bubbled they did so with immediate family. Still had to work throughout. Selfishly felt bitter that support I gave & have always given to others was never reciprocated when we needed it (not that I did it for it be returned but it made me see people very differently). Nearly lost 13 year old DD due to severe weight loss from after effects of Covid & now battling with low weight & her MH. Battling my own MH issues now due to the stress of it all. I don't feel like the same person, permanently exhausted, don't feel the same parent as I was prior (to echo other posters), work FT but from home balancing those caring responsibilities, which has been a blessing that I've been able to but has affected confidence & social anxiety & with the stress feel I've aged massively the last couple of years with the weight of it all. There were some really dark times that I feel are largely unacceptable to talk about as a society so thank you for this thread. Have seen massive negative impact for many on their mental health - it's going to take time to recover. Love to everyone

We had no lockdown or anything where I lived, I continued working as normal. But I lost my taste and smell when I had covid 2020 and it hasn’t fully returned which isn’t great..

I have seen the negative impact on a number of family and friends.

Personally I felt like so found my voice at work and finally went for and got a promotion. But I was lucky in that I went into the office every day and got to see my friends and feel relatively normal whilst my DH was on furlough and suffered through home schooling

We lost our business due to the lockdown.

Definitely screwed my life up. My Mum didn’t get the cardiology appointments she should have so died of a heart attack that could have been prevented with surgery. I couldn’t get hold of her on the phone so went to her house and found her dead - I have PTSD from that and the circumstances that followed.