Can a court order that my sons father only contact me via email rather than WhatsApp?

[Cheekylittle88]

Just that really. I am tired of nasty messages.

I'm sure if you show the court all the nasty messages, they might decide that email would be better. No harm in trying.

Why do you need a court to do it? Just do it Yourself and block him and only speak through email? Why does court need to enforce it? Of course he doesn’t HAVE to have your WhatsApp loads of people only speak to their ex on email

Just block him on WhatsApp?

For some reason I had it in my head that if I block him on WhatsApp it can be seen as obstructing him from knowing stuff about his son? I thought I might get into trouble! Do I legally have to update him every day or every time I message him?

Tell him you’ll only communicate with him via email. Set up a new email for only this purpose. Check it only once a day. Block him on WhatsApp and your phone.

Every time he messages me *

This would be perfect!

What do you need to communicate about? Does he have your DC overnight etc? If there’s nothing urgent he ever needs to communicate about, no reason why you can’t just do email.

No don’t be silly, I blocked my ex a long time ago he can only text me don’t want him on my WhatsApp seeing my
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What’s the difference between WhatsApp and email he can still communicate with you on both and that includes nastily
he doesn’t need to WhatsApp you to arrange contact with your child email is fine did it with my ex partner two years

I know but email is easier to ignore and easier to keep documented I think

So when I’m looking after our son (as I do 95% of the time), he doesn’t have an automatic right to be able to phone me/WhatsApp me whenever he wants? I honestly thought he did

Huh? Some people don't even have WhatsApp, of course it can't be mandatory to allow someone access.

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Tell him you're coming off social media and email is now the best way to contact you

Of course he doesn't have the right to contact you every day. You're an adult, you only really need to communicate with him at a basic level about your son's welfare.

If he's being a dick, you can just ignore him - it's great! Took me a while to get that i don't have to engage with people who are horrible to me. In my experience, the contact will lessen when they're not getting any drama out of it.

You can change it so he can only see a blocked screen too xx

She doesn't have to tell him anything, no need to make stuff up, it wouldn't address the WhatsApp issue anyway.

Block him and tell him it's email only, as a pp said how could anyone think they have a right to contact you by WhatsApp, that would be very odd

No, he doesn’t.

Email. Check once a day.

Thanks everyone for your help! I am honestly usually quite intelligent and can’t believe I thought I had to have him on whatsapp. I think my head is just a mess, he’s so controlling that I forget I actually have power to create boundaries. Ugh!!

Agree email is the way to go - definitely have a separate account for this. Although you may check this daily, I would not necessarily be responding daily - be clear in your own mind what you need to communicate about and when.

YOU can choose the frequency and method of any updates you provide. Daily seems intrusive and he is using this to control you.
Some men will do anything to stop their ex partner from enjoying life without them. Don't be surprised if there is a "punishment" dealt out from him for taking control back such as him refusing to see DC

Instead of email, you could tell him that you’ll be moving all comms with him onto a shared parenting app - details of some options here: www.family-action.org.uk/content/uploads/2021/06/Family-Action-Polaris-co-parenting-apps-2020.pdf

might help him stay more civil as it can easily be used for family court evidence etc

Was going to suggest a patenting app. Admissible in court etc, so will show him for exactly what he is if he carries on, or shut him up if he has any sense!