Do you still think your adult sons are so handsome?

[Autumntime2022]

I think my little ones are does it change when they are men?

I’m not sure my son is particularly good looking. He still needs to grown into his looks if you get me. I think boys go through an awkward stage.

my eldest daughter is quite unusual looking - she could probably be a model. Very tall, very skinny, she just looks amazing in everything she wears. However, she is autistic and doesn’t care a jot about how she looks I have to man handle her into the shower at 17.

my youngest is sweet looking but puberty is currently kicking her arse

To be honest I’m just glad they are here, all of them have struggled with their mental health. The way they look is the least important thing about them.

My teen is pretty odd looking. Nose and ears too big, sticking out teeth and massive hair that grows out rather than down. He was an exceptionally cute child. I hope this is just a phase for his sake. I, of course, adore him regardless of how he looks. Even though his attitude currently matches his looks.

It’s weird isn’t it? I have two DS. I’m not from a family that makes a big deal about looks but … I think my DS1 (15) is handsome. When I look at him I’m seeing everything - all my memories of him are in there somewhere so I am not at all objective. I’m sure other people are seeing something else. He’s had girlfriends on and off since he was 13 so I guess he is good looking? but i don’t trust my judgment, I’m pretty biased.

My MIL used to bang on all the time about her handsome son (BIL, not DH) and he was ugly as sin.

I think he is of course. He’s always had extremely attractive girlfriends so I take that as evidence I’m not deluded. I’m always being told he’s a lovely lad too so maybe it’s that. x

My Mum once described my sister and I as nice enough looking but unlikely to stop traffic 🤣

It's not really the done thing is it, to be honest if your child isn't perhaps objectively attractive or exceptionally, so I can't imagine anyone will admit it. In real terms most of the normal people are no oil painting (myself included I'm quite sure) and there is nothing wrong with them, or with that.

I don't think there's a need to constantly describe or affirm children as exceptionally handsome or beautiful when surely all we mean is that we love them and in our eyes they are everything brilliant, or that they look lovely. A focus on looks does nobody any favours and I do often wonder if it all boils down to parents feeling that that reflects on them somehow favourably because they 'got it from them' and get something out of therefore saying or hearing it.

I agree that a focus on looks is not a good message for children or adults.