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Tell me your horror stories of wrongly sent/forwarded messages to help me cope.

423 replies

ShitlandIslands · 10/10/2022 16:33

I'm dying of cringe here. I feel so tense.I didn't even do the crime but I've got palpitations here.

My mate just sent our Cookery WhatsApp group a photo of her boyfriend proposing to her. Another member of the WhatsApp group forwarded the photo to a different WhatsApp group, let's say a Jigsaw WhatsApp group, with a not-so-complimentary message.

Unbeknownst to the forwarder, the newly engaged mate is also in the Jigsaw WhatsApp group.

The Jigsaw WhatsApp group is very quiet. Eerily quiet.

Oh my god. My actual heart.

[WhatsApp groups aren't actually Cookery and Jigsaws - invented to protect the identities of those involved].

I don't have anything to relate this experience to. The worst it got for me was when I once text my boss a picture intended for DP.

DP was, say, Dave in my contact list and my boss was, say, Davey.
The picture was of a terrible, terrible, non-risen, beige stodge-fest of a cake I'd made on my day off with the accompanying message "I'm a shit head".

After I'd reassured my boss I wasn't having a breakdown (just bad a baking), it was all fine. I changed DP's name in my contact list very soon after.

OP posts:
GivenitupGerty · 10/10/2022 19:19

Name change as still quite raw.
I got made redundant from a job I loved.
My teenage daughter loved the product and didn't get why I lost my job. I was having a few drinks with a friend and wrote what I thought was a funny email to the owner (we got on well). My friend had said my daughter was my old bosses 'bi#ch' as she preferred that brand to my new company product. I typed that. Later that night I deleted it, not. Still red faced.

DashDotCom · 10/10/2022 19:20

One a night out i once drunkenly text my married male boss “can you pick me up babe?” at some stupid hour of the morning instead of my boyfriend. 10minutes later when I realised I’d not had a reply i twigged what I’d done, sent boss ANOTHER drunken essay text explaining my mistake (terribly, I assume), then I panic deleted the entire thread.
not sure exactly what drunken ramblings filled text two but I woke up to nothing but a “😂” message the next morning.
mortified. 😂

urgen · 10/10/2022 19:22

I worked for a FTSE company for many years. About 15 years ago my line manager had someone in the small team who went off to have a baby. He really didn’t like her, she wasn’t brilliant but ok. When the time came for her to return he sent a email message to his boss saying he didn’t want that fat cow with a young baby coming back and you guessed it - he sent it to her….

It was all hushed up, she left and I left the team but rumours were she got a significant payout. Probably not what she deserved though.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 10/10/2022 19:23

I was an occasional worker at a large secondary school, and the Head has the same fist name as my DP. I accidentally messaged him and asked him to get cat food on the way home. He messaged back and said he’d be happy to but he didn’t know where I lived 😂
My mate is a nurse, and she accidentally texted the head of safeguarding ‘I’ve got my sexy pants on, woo!’ - meant for her DP.
the safeguarding head messaged back ‘ that’s good to hear, I’m assuming they meet our standard uniform requirements.’ So funny. My mate cringed for days, especially at the ‘woo’ bit!

Cm078 · 10/10/2022 19:26

We had a colleague that used to phone in sick all the time. I worked with my sister and i text her saying "did phone in sick again today?" I realised i hadn't sent it to my sister I'd sent it to She replied saying "what????" I panicking and said "oh sorry that was for my sister asking if you'd went in today, was going to message you asking if you were okay"
Thank goodness I didn't say anything else on the end of that message!! Was so awkward. 😂

Cm078 · 10/10/2022 19:28

Ohh i didn't realise stars made the writing bold! Lol. That message now wont make sense but lets call her Ann. I messaged Ann asking if Ann had phoned in sick again!

Sacredheart7 · 10/10/2022 19:29

Plet · 10/10/2022 17:33

As a teenager, on MSN messenger, one of my friends was annoying me. He was being a bit clingy and needy. Being the mature person that I was, I copied and pasted his messages to another friend with along with my own 'hilarilous' nasty, bitchy comments. Except I'd pasted his own comments back to him.

I realised what I'd done immediately and performed an emergency shutdown on the pc, as though that would make it go away.

I called him to apologise an hour or so later and explained that I was finding him a bit much but, somehow, he didn't seem to have realised that I was addressing a third person with my comments. He thought I was having a go at him. I got off quite lightly because having a go at someone is nowhere near as bad as secretly sending their messages to other people so you can laugh at them and slag them off.

I learnt to be much more careful with checking who I am messaging and also not to behave like a horrible cow if I don't want to be seen as one.

Emergency shutdown😂

RandomPenguinHouse · 10/10/2022 19:29

Kittykat93 · 10/10/2022 19:08

I am also confused about the blue ticks...? Shame as this thread is quite funny but it's annoying when it's a fake post

A warning: I wrote similar to yours above and asking which of a few situations the case was (eg was the OP actually the forwarder of the picture and uncomplimentary comment) but my post got deleted for 'troll hunting' Hmm

ZoeCM · 10/10/2022 19:29

The woman who forwarded the message with the nasty caption sounds horrible. Glad she's been outed.

StupidSmallFruit · 10/10/2022 19:31

Are you coming back to the thread @ShitlandIslands ?

Gribgrub · 10/10/2022 19:31

Someone who worked for me once sent an email about me to me by accident. It said: "why does Gribgrub always to talk to people like they're mentally retarded?". I bet they wished the ground had swallowed them up! I felt awful because I worried it was true, but was reassured by others this was not the case. I got my revenge in the end. I pretended like nothing had happened, so the email sender thought they might have gotten away with it. Then, about 9 months later, when there was a jokey awards ceremony at the juniors' Christmas party, I secretly nominated the email sender for the award for "Most Career Limiting Move". The email sender won that award and the story of what happened was retold in front of everyone at the Christmas party! The email sender was mortified, but it was all pretty good natured and we all had a good laugh about it. 😂

Sacredheart7 · 10/10/2022 19:35

I'm an executive assistant and we use Microsoft teams daily. Was complaining to my work friend about how fat I felt and found the Homer Simpson belly out eating doughnuts GIF with the caption "me today" .. Unfortunately at the time I was in a Committee meeting and posted it in the group chat for all of our executive directors, non execs and governors to see.. Fortunately there is a delete message function on teams but I'm fairly sure everyone would have seen 🙈

NeverDropYourMooncup · 10/10/2022 19:36

I had a twatty soon-to-be-roundly dumped boyfriend who had started pestering for wank fodder snaps. I ignored them whilst planning a way to get his shit out of my house and him out of my life without him realising first.

He usually then would moan that I never answered his messages and it wasn't fair when he was soooo cold and lonely in his flat.

One day just before the final dumping, I noticed that he was complaining again that I hadn't replied - when I hadn't received any messages. He'd 'sent tons', I 'just didnt care about his needs' and why didn't I do anything when he was about to kill himself when he messaged for help/minge pics, apparently. Which was true, but I hadn't actually had a message from him for about a fortnight.

On the day I dumped him, I said 'by the way, I haven't got a clue who you were nagging for tit and fanny shots, but it certainly wasn't me. Who is directly above my name on your contacts?'

If my name is Jayne, a married friend of his with a husband roughly the size of the Isle of Wight and twice as rugged, was Jane.

I swear he went grey all over as I looked at him.

SquirrelSoShiny · 10/10/2022 19:37

Oh God I'm just shamelessly following this for the cringe 🙈🙈🙈

Cheeseandlobster · 10/10/2022 19:37

somebody2lava · 10/10/2022 16:46

I once grounded my teenage daughter for some typical teenage thing and she took great offence. She went into my phone directory and changed about the names of a few of my contacts. Following morning I was slightly hung over. I thought I was texting my boy friend of the time a saucy message in response to his " is everything ok today ?" Message. I thought he was being lovely about me having to cancel the previous night out as my daughter was being a pain. But no. I was actually messaging the woman whose dog I'd just taken into foster after her husband collapsed and had a life changing stroke. She was enquiring about THE DOG and how I was coping with him and I basically replied saying thatI couldn't believe I was lucky to have such an understanding partner and I needed a bloody good shagfest at the earliest possible opportunity.

Thankfully she was very understanding and even laughed about it but even now I want to die just thinking about it.

Omg. This has shocked me. What the hell was your daughter thinking?

INeverSawAPurpleCow · 10/10/2022 19:38

lilroo87 · 10/10/2022 16:54

I once went to send an email to a colleague bitching about the colleague who'd sent me the email but replied to original colleague instead. It was awful and they went to HR and I had to issue a big apology. They didn't speak to me for months

A colleague of mine did this but it was an unpleasant and stroppy customer.

ADialgaAteMyDog · 10/10/2022 19:43

Say my name is Sonia, and my Sil's best mate is also Sonia. I received a message AT WORK about my cousin's affair when his baby was 2 months old and the shit was going to hit the fan in the family. I definitely wasn't meant to know!
I did such a sharp intake of breath my colleagues thought someone had died.
SIL couldn't say much and I had to act really shocked when I was eventually told.

EarringsandLipstick · 10/10/2022 19:45

zen1 · 10/10/2022 18:39

A friend WhatsApped me telling me the sad news that her mum had passed away. As I went to reply, my finger accidentally touched a grinning exploding skull emoji sticker that I had recently used in a chat with another person, sending it straight away. I was mortified and so panicked I couldn’t remember how to delete it for both of us.

That is both horrific & (darkly hilarious) 😂

MsTSwift · 10/10/2022 19:47

There was the time a very upstanding member of the community (female) posted mild but definite gay male porn on the pta Facebook page. She never apologised or explained. We have all been in awe ever since.

Ragwort · 10/10/2022 19:48

Not me ... but my manager forwarded a confidential email detailing everyone's salary ... I politely pointed out her mistake and of course she was horrified and begged me to destroy it without reading it ... of course I had already had a good look through it first Grin.

Tinks1876 · 10/10/2022 19:48

In my younger days, my friend had text me to see how I was getting on with a guy I had started seeing, I text her back saying “yeah okay, he’s not much to look at but he’s alright in bed” yep you guessed it….. I sent it to him!

I had loads of missed calls and messages from him that I didn’t read just deleted and never spoke to him again!

I’m a terrible person!

NancyDrooo · 10/10/2022 19:54

I accidentally hit the laughing emoji on an friends FB post about her lovely dad dying. Worst thing is I didn’t realise for several DAYS until the post popped up again, and I wondered what kind of arsehole laughs at a death announcement. Yep, the arsehole was me…

ShahRukhKhan · 10/10/2022 19:55

My housemate years ago was intending to break up with his gf. He texted to a friend 'I'm going to break up with Priya this week'--- and sent it to his gf by accident.

Firstworldprobs · 10/10/2022 19:55

About 15 years ago I was a PA, and two other PAs sat either side of me. One of them - an older “rottweiller” type (lovely if you stayed on the right side of her) - was on a call with her boss, a senior exec, on her headset. She said goodbye to him then span her chair to us and said “That man is a pain in my FUCKING arse!”… and in her earpiece he said “I’m sorry you feel that way Mary, I’ll try to be better”………

😱

Campervangirl · 10/10/2022 19:56

Pah!
I once sent my boss a text meant for oh who'd been working away along the lines of " you wait until you get home, you're in for it mister, date night is on, sexy time is the name of the game" we always send daft jokey texts.
My boss replied "did you mean to send that to me 😉"
I nearly resigned but we laughed it off the next day