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Apparently misheard

30 replies

Kitty92 · 09/10/2022 02:55

So basically, something private has gone missing from my bed side draw.
I bought it to his attention as i can't remember when it was last there (say within 2-4 weeks)
Instantly rather than be concerned where this private thing could have gone, I instantly get "well don't blame my son or don't blame my nieces ".

I didn't.
All I did was point out it had gone but ONLY lives in that draw so someone has taken it.
I didn't mention any person.

I'm really annoyed and obviously concerned as to where its gone!
But annoyed in the fact I'm getting told I've said something I haven't.. AGAIN!

What ever I say always seems to sounds very very different to him to what has actually left my mouth 🤬

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latelatenevernever · 09/10/2022 03:27

Rude

idontthinksodou · 09/10/2022 03:33

Spelling police on patrol again 👮‍♀️

octoberfarm · 09/10/2022 03:35

Sorry you haven't had any helpful answers so far. Honestly, if this is a recurring issue I'd probably start thinking about whether this is the sort of relationship you want to be in, or person you want to be with. It's not normal that he keeps putting words in your mouth or suggesting you said something you didn't. It would really get me down too. I hope you find your item soon Flowers

Sparklfairy · 09/10/2022 03:42

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Oh have some class, both of you. Yawn.

MyMumSaysALot · 09/10/2022 04:51

Sparklfairy · 09/10/2022 03:42

Oh have some class, both of you. Yawn.

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Telling someone else to “have some class” is the very definition of crass, madam.
It’s past your bedtime. Don’t be rude.

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 09/10/2022 05:49

I would be very unhappy about something private disappearing like that. If it's not any of his offspring maybe it's him? Are his relatives the type to snoop?

Imissmoominmama · 09/10/2022 06:16

Oh, that’s frustrating!! Could you ask him to repeat back to you what he actually heard you say?

Grammar police, fuck off.

Thatlittleleaf · 09/10/2022 06:20

Op - I need some help my DP is a gaslighting fuck
pp - oh hahahaha you made a spelling error 🙄
literally everyone else - sympathy op

girlmom21 · 09/10/2022 06:24

I don't think he is telling you what you said. He knows what you're inferring.

Willbe2under2 · 09/10/2022 06:40

MyMumSaysALot · 09/10/2022 04:51

Telling someone else to “have some class” is the very definition of crass, madam.
It’s past your bedtime. Don’t be rude.

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Correcting someone's spelling unnecessarily, also crass, madam. I hope you've done all your homework.

OP - clearly he's the one that's taken it and gone for the 'don't blame xyz' to get into this argument instead and deflect from the actual issue.

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Kitty92 · 19/10/2022 02:08

I posted on here for just genuine help/conversation.
I do apologise my spelling isn't accurate.

And to the person saying "he knew what I was inferring"... I forgot to mention I also have a child in the house who could have taken/moved the item!\

For something described as a help forum there are some seriously nasty/unkind people on here!

The fact there is more comments based on my spelling rather than what I've asked is disgusting.

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stillvicarinatutu · 19/10/2022 02:45

Hi .

What was the item that went missing and who had access ?

Ignore the dicks who think there're the spelling police . They clearly have no life .
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urbanbuddha · 19/10/2022 02:47

The fact there is more comments based on my spelling rather than what I've asked is disgusting.

I agree. Mumsnet didn't used to be so snarky and it's tedious to have keep scrolling past the half-witted comments by escapees from the Daily Mail's btl brigade.

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Kitty92 · 19/10/2022 02:48

It was a personal sexual item. Lived in my bedside cabinet for years.

Technically anyone could get to it but as I said, been there for years and no issue.
I have hunted everywhere and cannot find it x

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stillvicarinatutu · 19/10/2022 02:48

Sweetheart ignore these absolute dickwads . Some people have no finesse even if they can spell . Fuck em .
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stillvicarinatutu · 19/10/2022 02:49

A sex toy ? Or something else ? I guess it's a question of whose has access to your private space ?

stillvicarinatutu · 19/10/2022 02:55

And if "he" is being a dick - chances are he's a dick

Whose had access to that bedside table op ?

wifeofaclosefriend · 19/10/2022 02:57

He's took it as he's jealous

sausage767 · 19/10/2022 03:10

He didn’t misshear you, he was on the defensive about what you were suggesting.

He knows he didn't take it.

Do you have a habit of blaming his son and nieces for everything that goes missing or goes wrong in your house? Honestly?

It's impossible to tell which one of you is being unreasonable here.

stillvicarinatutu · 19/10/2022 03:10

Why has thread questioning the grammar police been hidden ? The hidden and deleted threads here are becoming a joke .

ChimbarasiKotapaxi · 19/10/2022 04:09

Ignore them OP The spelling police shrivel the soul

Turtletotem · 19/10/2022 04:18

Just a thought could it have slipped down the back of the bed if it wasn't returned to the drawer when it was last used?