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A guy I was seeing said he will only meet me for sex now

68 replies

Andjustlikethatihadnoclue · 01/10/2022 19:26

So we had a thing for about 6 weeks, it started amazing and we both seemed to feel the same, really excited and just that instant click & spark.

I went on holiday and he stopped replying to messages. Did t even open my last 2 messages. 2 weeks I heard nothing!

I had to message yesterday as I realised he had something of mine which I needed back. He said that's fine and I could pick it up whenever and if I want sex then to let him know!!
I said I didn't think he was interested and his reply was 'for sex yes, but that's it'

Fucks sake how cheep can one person make me feel in a split second!

OP posts:
ehb102 · 01/10/2022 20:00

It's not that you are only good for sex, it's that he isn't capable of an adult relationship. Limited. Might as well shout at the dog for not cooking dinner.

lafado · 01/10/2022 20:10

He sounds awful, it wouldn't surprise me if this is a pattern of behaviour, act like it's the start of a relationship, ghost and then try to set up an friends with benefit situation.

The worst possible thing you can do is have any contact with this person moving forward, they don't get to only take the part of you that they want.

I would go and get the earring and then if they contact you again I would recommend a sassy reply to say that you have very high standards for purely sexual relationships and that they don't meet your requirements.

PrinnyPree · 01/10/2022 20:26

Don't worry OP you are worth a relationship, guarantee this insecure nobsplash is being a dick because you went on holiday and has decided on punishing you with a round of negging.

Just get your shit back and block the cunt and thank the gods that you didn't invest too much time into this worthless fleshsack before he showed off his red flags. X

HardLanding · 01/10/2022 20:28

Meet up for sex with who? Cos you won’t be seeing him again, will you?

Twat

Original poster
Andjustlikethatihadnoclue · 01/10/2022 20:31

Before when he ghosted me I felt so gutted but this has actually made me see him differently anyway, he's definitely done me a favour by saying that. Least I know what a dick he is.

He's said he's excited to see me when I pick my earring up, I think he actually believes I'm going to sleep with him again! 🖕🏻

OP posts:
Summerfun54321 · 01/10/2022 20:33

Act like you may consider it until you get your earring. Then immediately block and ignore. He doesn’t deserve a second more of your time.

JamieNorthlife · 01/10/2022 20:34

Just tell him you have more fun with a vibrator anyway. 😜

Wanderaround · 01/10/2022 20:36

Red flag 🚩 run a mile

Summerfun54321 · 01/10/2022 20:38

Don’t go into his house, say something’s come up and you need to dash back home ASAP but you may as well grab your earring and you’ll be in touch to arrange a proper catch up another time. Then totally ghost him.

JamieNorthlife · 01/10/2022 20:46

Can you ask him to post it? Or send him a prepaid envelope or a courier. Anything except going to his place again.

mommatoone · 01/10/2022 20:46

Oooh ,well before you collect your earring OP,think of a cracking come back to his comment , and leave him hanging on his doorstep whilst you sail into the sunset head held high! 💕

CantFindTheBeat · 01/10/2022 20:48

JamieNorthlife · 01/10/2022 20:46

Can you ask him to post it? Or send him a prepaid envelope or a courier. Anything except going to his place again.

Definitely this.

Send him a prepaid envelope, with a message to pay him for his time in arranging to post it.

What a complete arse of man.
Thank god you know.

Cm078 · 01/10/2022 20:50

I've been there a few times unfortunately. Heartbreaking at the time, as you question your worth. 9/10 they tried to come crawling back...
You deserve better. Get your earring and try not to give him another thought!

HollyJollyXmas57 · 01/10/2022 20:51

Least he was honest and didn’t say sorry blah blah blah and then ghost you again.

Can a mate pick it up instead? Might be easier.

C1N1C · 01/10/2022 20:54

At least he's honest...

He's not interested unless it's for sex. It might not be what you want to hear but wouldn't you prefer to know where you stand?

Could be worse... imagine if someone wasn't honest and they made you think they loved you when in reality it was because you had 80 houses and they got upset because you didn't spend lots on them...

dudsville · 01/10/2022 20:56

His actions don't define you. How does his preference make you "cheap". You were considering investing in someone who, turns out, doesn't deserve it. You're ok.

georgarina · 01/10/2022 21:09

WTF??! Who says that?

GG1986 · 01/10/2022 21:13

Eww he sounds gross!

Hawkins001 · 01/10/2022 21:14

Andjustlikethatihadnoclue · 01/10/2022 19:42

Unfortunately I do need it back, it's 1 earring that came off when I was at his last time. If it was any old earring I wouldn't bother but it's an expensive one.

I do feel cheap because I feel like he's ok for sex but I'm not good enough for a relationship. Bit shit really.

All the best and positivity op, that is rubbish behaviour, why did he not set the expectations at the beginning rather than stringing you along ?

starlight1011 · 01/10/2022 21:16

Iammeiamfree · 01/10/2022 19:49

Wow what a catch..like similar posters I'd say go get the earrings back then when he tries it on just tell him nah the sex wasn't all that or you just need to nip out to the car and drive off

This.

I’d feign interest until I’ve got the earring then say im just nipping to get something out of the car, drive off and block 😂.

HermioneKipper · 01/10/2022 21:17

What a total bastard.

text him back saying if the sex had been better you would!

mondaytosunday · 01/10/2022 21:21

No, HE isn't good enough for a relationship! Don't let some fool make you feel bad about yourself!

ReneBumsWombats · 01/10/2022 21:23

He's said he's excited to see me when I pick my earring up, I think he actually believes I'm going to sleep with him again!

Turn up to get it wearing something sexy and just take it, say thanks and bog off.

Arenanewbie · 01/10/2022 21:27

Could you go with someone to pick up the earring and leave this person to wait in your car in case you need a back up?

ShandaLear · 01/10/2022 21:31

I’d have just said, ‘Nah, the sex was a bit crap. I’m off out on a date later. That’s why I need my earring.’

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