So my 9 year oldHas gone to bed in a strop, I know he will try and carry it on in the am

[LovelyYellowLabrador]

How do I deal with it

he was doing something he shouldn’t been
so I asked him not to and explained why

then he Rudely replied
how long is this conversation going to go on for ….

then wanted to go off to bed in a huff

thjng is he’s so stubborn
I know he will just carry it on tomorrow am

what should I do ?

Do I just let him get on with it and not pander to him

or something else

What was he doing?

Basically yes don't pander to it I have stock phrases

I cant hear you when your being rude
I'm not listening to you when your being unkind
You dont speak to anyone like that
I will also walk away pick up a book and repeat im NOT listening to him when he is being nasty

But mine can be a real nasty mouth when he feels inclined

What did he do?

Sounds about the same as my 9 year old
i let them crack on and don’t engage with the 9 year old drama

Scooting down the stairs on his bum but that rooms just been plastered so it’s all dusty and dirty

Tomorrow I’ve got a lot of house jobs to do
so shall I just get up and crack on

i wouldn’t give it anymore head space, get on with what you need to do

Ignore it. X

I’m not saying he’s right but if it was longer than “hey DS, stop scooting down the stairs, you’re dragging plaster dust everywhere!” then I would also be desperate for the explanation to end, as a 9 year old.

It’s such a small strop, just carry on and he’ll get over himself

just Get on with your day and tell him you expect an apology for his rudeness. Should he not fancy that tell him to tidy his room till he remembers his manners and turn off the WiFi.

My DD is also going through the phase of every small telling off/asking to stop is met with an enormous strop.

I just tell her I’m not having any arguments or changing my mind, and carry on with what I was doing.

’but-‘
’no arguments, thanks, those are the rules.’
’but-‘
’im sure you think they are unfair but those are the rules.’
’UGH’
and ignore.

I know how stubborn is he is tho and im
sure he will carry it on in the am

i did think shall I threaten to tell his tecHer how rudely he spoke to me

it was more the rude way he spoke to me saying how much longer is this conversation going to go on for …… the huffing and walking off etc

Oh he said he’s not going to say sorry because he doesn’t mean it

I'd just say to him "tWe are not carrying this over from yesterday. Today is a new day and thats the end of it. I love you"

Why would his teacher care?!

he was a bit rude but hardly tear your hair out territory!

That’s why I’m torn as half of me thinks rise above it and don’t be childish myself

the. The other half of me thinks fuck that
let him ruin his own Sunday

Why do you think his teacher will want to be involved with things kids say at home at the weekend? It's up to you to stop your 9 year old speaking to you like that.

Agree - tomorrow is a new day. If he tries to continue it tomorrow, just say that that was yesterday, and move the conversation on to something nicer. But don't give it too much headspace - it doesn't deserve it. And absolutely don't say you're going to tell his teacher, etc. That achieves precisely sod all. Forced apologies are no good, either - so don't go down that dead end as it gives him the power to insist that he isn't apologising/isn't sorry. Deal with the behaviour, impose a natural consequence if the behaviour persists, let him strop, say whatever nice and reassuring thing you normally say to him at bedtime, and move on.

Just move on in the morning. Perhaps if there seems a suitable time at some point when he might be receptive tell him it upset him when he spoke like that but really i would move on , a new day and all that.

Move on and don't use threats about teachers. Why should he be more worried about a teachers reaction than yours? You're his parent and this seems like such a minor thing.
I would just say a cheery good morning when I see him and act like all is well. If he refers to it and acts stubborn, tell him you've moved on and he should too.

This! It’s a fresh day, time to move on and have a nice day.
Why on earth would you consider telling his teacher?

Oh he said he’s not going to say sorry because he doesn’t mean it
Then he can show you how sorry he is by tidying his room until you can be bothered to forgive him. People do things that make their lives easier. He needs to learn not to be rude. If he can’t do it because he wants to be nice to you he’ll have to learn by you making it a pain in the butt to be rude.

Let him get on with it! Do not give on to his tantrum! But don't involve the teacher.....I hate it when parents come and expect me to tell their children off for them!

I only ment to threaten to tell his teacher not actually tell her
as I think that might make him realise he wouldn’t want his tecHer to know he’d been rude and spoken to me like that

like make him think of the way he had spoken to me
as I know deep down he will know it’s not right