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When you feel low how do you get yourself out of it ?

59 replies

Freshnewstarttoday · 20/09/2022 14:26

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OP posts:
W0tnow · 20/09/2022 14:29

Brisk walk listening to music.

Mrsbclinton · 20/09/2022 14:34

I let myself wallow for a while acknowledging that I feel a bit low then try and do something to perk myself up. Things that work for me, meeting a friend for a coffee or doing something nice for myself like a bath & watching a movie.

Sparklingbrook · 20/09/2022 14:37

Very loud music.
Funny stuff on YouTube
Drag a friend to the pub

Depends on the reason for the 'lowness' though.

maddy68 · 20/09/2022 14:37

Go and meet a friend for coffee

FourTeaFallOut · 20/09/2022 14:39

Watch a disaster movie. The equivalent of waking up from a bad dream and realising that it never actually happened and it's not that bad.

flashbac · 20/09/2022 14:42

Try and get out of town for a day trip, change of air and scene
Get extra sleep, or catch up
Remember it will pass, the only way out is through etc
Go to my sister's for a natter
Make sure I'm keeping up with my vitamins and minerals, b vitamins in particular.

RoachTheHorse · 20/09/2022 14:43

Fresh air.
Sleep.
Clean to ABBA Gold or Queen Greatest Hits
Chop down stuff in the garden

Tigerstripes1 · 20/09/2022 14:44

I suffer from bouts of depression which I now manage well. When I feel a bout coming on, I revert straight to the same routine and I usually start to feel better pretty quickly.

Get myself up and dressed every morning

Get moving through the day, ideally outside

Ring a friend for a coffee n chat

Bath and pamper in an evening

Bed with a film at 9pm

Tbh its when I deviate from this my low moods creep back in.

Freetodowhatiwant · 20/09/2022 14:49

More of the things that make me feel happy - seeing friends, getting out of the house, long walks (again with friends), going to the gym (I don't feel like it before but it definitely helps me feel better), dancing, trying not to be hard on myself, remembering how far I have come, planning things to look forward to (this is a biggie). Sympathies though, it's horrible feeling low.

BuddhaAtSea · 20/09/2022 14:51

Shower and clean clothes.
Music.
Long walk, or a swim, or a bike ride.
Bake something.

RestedDevelopment · 20/09/2022 14:58

CBT adviser gave me a list of ‘simple wins’ so if I feel low I can pick one off the list to do.

Nearly 200 activities ranging from ‘have a shower’ to ‘mountain climbing’ so something for every level of ability/mood/cost.

I appreciate it because sometimes a low can hit that robs even the ability to think of what to do, so having the list is a good way to circumvent that.

She also encouraged me to add my own things to it so it’s more personalised.

It now can boost my mood just reading the silly things that I have tried that helped in the past, even without actually doing anything more! And builds my confidence that I am willing, and capable, of helping myself.

Maybe start your own list? It might be music as above or smelling flowers in the garden or cuddling a pet or learning something new - think of things you have already done that made you smile in the past & write them down so if a low hits you have a ready-made personal cheer-me-up list.

This, alongside a list of numbers to call if I need outside help, is like my mental health first aid kit - and every bit as useful, if not more so!

yasminisa · 20/09/2022 15:03

Take the dog for a walk in the fresh air, either out in the fields, or at least a park with lots of trees etc.
some gardening
A workout

Franticbutterfly · 20/09/2022 15:04

Acupuncture.

I've also just started psychotherapy.

bodie1890 · 20/09/2022 15:05

A shower, getting dressed and going outside usually helps, even if just a short walk.

If that’s a bit much, I try to just accept how I feel, that it will pass, go to bed and watch an episode of a tv show/ movie or sleep.

I think so much of it is about just being ok with feeling low for a while. If you fight against it, feel guilty etc. that only adds layers and makes it worse.

MsChatterbox · 20/09/2022 15:05

Nice food and a movie

FlipFlops4Me · 20/09/2022 15:07

Cook, and have the Fuck You playlist going at full blast while I chop veg etc.

MagpiePi · 20/09/2022 15:08

Depends why you are feeling low.
For me, it generally stems from tiredness, so getting out of the house and doing some exercise helps, plus it makes me more likely to sleep better.

UnaOfStormhold · 20/09/2022 15:09

Some sort of physical activity, ideally outside somewhere green. Or indoors if necessary.

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 20/09/2022 15:11

Escape from it in a good book

alphons · 20/09/2022 15:12

Just get on with it.

Everything passes. That's very reassuring.

Suetwo · 20/09/2022 15:19

Drive out to the countryside or the coast, as far away from people as I can get, and walk briskly. Space, silence and natural light - those things always lift me. Unfortunately, where I live there is a shortage of all three, especially space and silence. The awful thing about the U.K., particularly my part of Essex, is that it’s so overcrowded and noisy you never get a chance to de-stress and calm down. Every year there seem to be more people, more houses, more idiots with noisy exhausts on their cars. My nerves are constantly shredded. Even driving to Tesco is becoming an ordeal.

GoodVibesHere · 20/09/2022 18:41

Suetwo · 20/09/2022 15:19

Drive out to the countryside or the coast, as far away from people as I can get, and walk briskly. Space, silence and natural light - those things always lift me. Unfortunately, where I live there is a shortage of all three, especially space and silence. The awful thing about the U.K., particularly my part of Essex, is that it’s so overcrowded and noisy you never get a chance to de-stress and calm down. Every year there seem to be more people, more houses, more idiots with noisy exhausts on their cars. My nerves are constantly shredded. Even driving to Tesco is becoming an ordeal.

This is so true about the lack of space, and driving to a shop being an ordeal. Pedestrians, cyclists, other drivers. Also when you do get to the shop (if you can find a parking space) there is soooo much choice it's overwhelming. Simply choosing a loaf of bread gives me a headache.

I'm afraid I don't have any suggestions to add OP but I am following for ideas as I'm feeling low myself.

JenJones5 · 20/09/2022 18:42

Good champagne, and having good sex and a nice massage.

catlovingdoctor · 20/09/2022 18:44

A good method is to find something soothing to as many as possible of your senses. This forms the basis of self-soothing in certain types of therapy. So something that smells, looks, feels , tastes and sounds pleasurable.
For me; cuddling a pet ticks many boxes - my cat looks, feels and smells nice.
A cup of tea in my favourite mug- appeals to taste and visual aesthetics.

KingstonLane · 20/09/2022 18:46

Gardening or going for a walk. Being outside.