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Cards against humanity

39 replies

Roomytrouser · 16/09/2022 23:12

DD13 planning group sleepover. She was planning what they would be doing with one of the other kids who will be there and I overheard the other kid (also 13) say they’d bring Cards Against Humanity. I’ve never played it but have heard it referred to on here by some posters as a bit full on. Am not sure whether to ‘accidentally” discover them playing if and stop it or just let them get on with it as a bit of harmless boundary pushing. As I haven’t actually seen/played it, I have only the impression of it I’ve got from Mumsnet so have no opinion of my own. What would you do?

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RewildingAmbridge · 16/09/2022 23:15

Noooo not for thirteen year olds! I'm not prudish but some of it is definitely a bit much for that age group

Marvellousmadness · 16/09/2022 23:16

I played it once. And I like a bit of fun and a bit of crudeness
I though it was disgusting. I stopped playing the game after 10 minutes

There is however,a family edition which is age 8+

FrankTheThunderbird · 16/09/2022 23:21

We love CAH here. DS2 was probably 14 when we got it.
I wouldn't let other people's DC play itv at that age though unless I knew they were allowed.

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KeyErro · 16/09/2022 23:23

Yeah I'd be ok with that I think. They won't take it too seriously and will probably get bored of it quickly.

MarigoldPetals · 16/09/2022 23:23

If my daughter were at that sleepover I would be angry that she was allowed to play it.

Ducksurprise · 16/09/2022 23:24

Year 9? I'd let them, the reality is they talk and see and hear about worse at school.

JohnsShirt · 16/09/2022 23:26

I'd let them, I bought it for Dd when she was about 15.

KnickerlessParsons · 16/09/2022 23:30

At 13? No way.
You could take the worst cards out of the pack though.

ShirleyJackson · 16/09/2022 23:32

They’ll have played it at school already. It does the rounds periodically.

Fireyflies · 16/09/2022 23:40

Would second the suggestion of taking the worst cards out the pack. Most of them are harmless (or only in bad taste of played in combinations, which they will of course do) But you could remove the small number that are about sexual acts you'd rather they didn't yet have to know about

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 16/09/2022 23:48

I bought some CAH a couple of years ago , my DS ( nearly 23) said
"I'm not playing that with My Mother "

So he's the upstanding citizen here ( might even say prude )

chesirecat99 · 16/09/2022 23:52

I think there is a family friendly version now. But she would probably be mortified if you brought that out...

cestlavielife · 16/09/2022 23:53

So ask which version?

MovinOnUp · 16/09/2022 23:55

I allowed it to be played at my DD's 13th.
I had checked with the parents of those attending first of all though.

dogmum93 · 17/09/2022 00:19

I'd turn a blind eye to it I think, theyll have definitely heard worse things at school.

ItsReallyOnlyMe · 17/09/2022 00:31

As the PP said - just go through and take the worst cards out,

Ducksurprise · 17/09/2022 09:22

remove the small number that are about sexual acts you'd rather they didn't yet have to know about

She is 13 not 3. As much as we'd like them not to know about sexual acts at 13 the reality is many not only know about them but have been shown them in school.
I am not encouraging it at all, I am genuinely horrified by the amount of 13 year olds that have been shown (rather than watched, as in they have had no choice) porn.

pastaandpesto · 17/09/2022 09:29

I think people are very, very out of touch with the reality of what children are exposed to in secondary school if they are horrified by the idea of a 13 year old playing CAH.

I'm not saying that's a good thing, but it's the reality.

FiddlefigOnTheRoof · 17/09/2022 09:34

There’s a family edition we play with our primary school kids (we’ve edited some of the cards out).

InFiveMins · 17/09/2022 09:36

Don't get the family version, she'd be mortified Confused

They'll have heard worse at school. I'd let them play it but only if their parents consented.

billybassie · 17/09/2022 09:38

Or could an adult go through the deck beforehand and remove the worst cards? Madeleine McCann, any rapey or paedo cards.

gogohmm · 17/09/2022 09:41

It's borderline at 13. It's definitely cheeky but mine did play at that age with older friends on camps I know

Icedlatteplease · 17/09/2022 09:48

We are a gamer family. I know other people who have played it with that age quite happily, out of choice I wouldn't play it full stop. (Although I sometimes find it quite funny watching other people play it online)

I'd have a talk about it with DD. If it was my DC: I'd explain this is a highly divisive game. Some people's parents will judge her (and me) for allowing it to be played. It is also the type of game that can be deeply distressing to the wrong person and not even that person might know until they play it. With the right group it can be fine but at that age the right group is a group that you already know has played it elsewhere, ideally at family gatherings. (Asking people now when there is a certain peer pressure to accept is not good). Personally I wouldn't ban the game but I would make it clear that the fall out could affect relationships and there are any number of less controversial alternatives (eg herd mentality) I would happily purchase instead.

erinaceus · 17/09/2022 09:50

CAH is pretty grim.

Can you get them a copy of Apples to Apples? It's a similar format but without the "against humanity" bit. I think it's funnier tbh.