Would it be disrespectful to do anything other than stay inside

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on the day of the Queen's funeral?

Everywhere is shut so it's not like you can go and have coffee or go shopping anyway.

What about going for a walk with a friend any, going for a run or meeting up at a friends house to catch up? Would any of these be deemed inappropriate?

Got to get my husband, 3 year old and 11 month old twins out.... won't even be attempting to keep them quiet 😂

Oh my god, I’ve read some batshit crazy things on here about the whole Queen hoo ha but this has to take the biscuit. Is it disrespectful to leave the house on the day of her funeral?? You’ve got to be kidding me. Are you a sheep? Have you no agency? Seriously? It’s disrespectful to leave your house?? Who do you think you’re going to be disrespecting? The queen is in a box, she doesn’t care.

madness. Utter madness.

Is it lawful for employers to make staff use annual leave when the workplace is actually closed? It doesn't make any sense!

Anyway, I'm freelance so often work bank hols. I'm quite quiet at the moment though, so I can afford the day off. It's frustrating that so many things are closed; I'd usually use a day off to go to an exhibition but in London all the usual places I'd go, like Tate, the Royal Academy etc, are shut. So I likely will spend much of the day indoors, but out of necessity more than respect! I will probably go for an amble round the neighbourhood and to the park. Not sure how many if any cafes etc will be closed.

Good for you - why the need to post a miserable (unjustified) comparison to covid then?

Your first post contradicts your presentation of yourself with the second. I’m not sure if invoking that for others is worse than you just being a dramatic misery guts tbh.

If I hear of local places being open that my kids would enjoy, I might well take them. Plus maybe lunch or dinner out in a cafe if possible.

I’m not anti monarchy, and had much respect for the Queen. But the TV showing of the funeral be likely be very long and drawn out, so will just watch the edited main bits on TV later on.

I honestly think going out and spending money (as we are fortunate to be in the position to) feels like the right thing to do at the moment, with recession looming and small local businesses will no doubt be glad of the income if they choose to open on the day. We won’t be dancing and cheering, just quietly going about things so can’t see the harm.

My dogs still need walking so I'll be doing that. Hard to keep young kids inside if the weathers good - fine to take them to the park to let off steam.
I wouldn't hold a party, but seeing people seems perfectly ok.
I think it's a good day for quiet contemplation- I know I'll be thinking of my own mother alot, as she was just a year older than the Queen. It's more than just mourning a person, it's a whole era. While she was alive it was a connection to another time. Now she's gone it's one more link broken too.
But she's not your mum or gran, so there's no need act as if you are so grief stricken you can't do pleasurable things.

Because there's a correlation between people going outside still feeling they can judge people for doing the same thing they are.

Absolutely no need for you to so rude but I'm not going to respond in kind. Enjoy your long weekend 👍

Do what you want?

Good grief!! Are you this deferential in other areas of your life? Will anyone honestly question you? It is worrying that you are questioning this. Wait until Thai shit hole of a country becomes even more authoritarian.

Unless you are planning on running past Wetninster Abbey covered in balloons with a tannoy playing Ding Dong the Witch is Dead then you're fine.

After all the lunacy on some of these threads, this made me snort laughing!!

It reminds me of the collective frenzy of grief when Diana died.

A mum I knew (with two children in cloth nappies) wondered if it was disrespectful to hang out laundry on the day of her funeral.

How is she contradicting herself?
The way I read it she didn’t agree with people criticizing others for going out during lockdowns, in the same way as she doesn’t agree with people doing the same thing during Queen’s funeral.

Exactly so 👍

Can employers tell you when to take leave - yes, they can. It should be with good notice and arguably, in this case, it was about as much notice as was possible without being a crystal ball gazer.

Does it use holiday entitlement? I believe it depends on your contract. If contract is x days plus bank holidays then, no. You get another bank holiday. If its, say, 28 days including bank holidays then, yes.

Although my contract is the latter and they are being kind and adding one on....so it does depend. Its such an unusual event.

To be honest, I'm taking the day off as the weather is nice but will only be holding a 2m silence as I'm not particularly invested for personal reasons. However, I'm part time, so if I'm needed to do a few extras hours in busy season then I'll do them gratis.

You can do whatever you like OP

Personally I'm looking forward to having a day at home. It's a historic moment, so I will watch at least some of it on tv, probably while sorting stuff out in the house.

I have a loose plan to take DS out in a canoe to get to the best brambles, only accessible by boat, then return home with our booty and make another batch of jam as I am really horsing through the first batch.

I might keep an eye on the time so we can bramble silently for the relevant couple of minutes. Or stop brambling and sit in quiet reflection for a couple of minutes.

We are going to make sure all the homework is up to date I'm sure the Queen would not expect the French, maths and science to be neglected on her account. Have a roast dinner. Watch a bit of pomp and ceremony. Go for a walk and maybe fly a kite if the weather is right - is fllying a kite disrespectful I wonder?

I'm not sure the queen bothered staying indoors when anyone close to me died. Not that staying indoors is a mourning tradition anyway.
I might stay inside due to the crowds and terrorism worries in the area on the day, but otherwise don't feel it has anything to do with me other than its being a nuisance having noisy helicopters about, but that's common here anyway.

who’s actually doing this though? It doesn’t exist as far as I’ve seen or heard. Maybe it will happen, doubt it though. I don’t see the value in making up things that haven’t yet happened to just to justify your position now.

The contradiction lay in invoking a memory to make a clumsy, mean spirited prediction of other peoples behaviour and then claiming to be cheerful. ‘Everyone’s a bastard but I’m just sunshine and rainbows’.

care or don’t care, but when someone chooses to present themselves in a scornful way I’m not really convinced by protests of what a ray of sunshine actually they are 🤷‍♀️

I'm fully expecting one of my neighbours to be out in his front garden, pressure-washing his drive or some such during the two minutes' silence. He has form for that sort of thing.

Blimey, you got all that from a single post!

Still no need for rudeness though

I'm planning to go out for a run. Will aim to get home for 11ish to watch the funeral but certainly not sitting in front of the TV for 4 or 5 hours

listsandbudgets flying a kite sounds fab. If anyone objects you can say it symbolises the queen's soul flying free. Or some such twaddle.

I think the forecast is for quite breezy weather. Good luck.

Well the carvery has phoned and cancelled.