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Do you ever feel like a shit parent ?

28 replies

Starfishswimmer · 12/09/2022 21:12

I do when I’ve got too much in and I’m stressed and overwhelmed

im not me a or anything
I just know I’m quiet and not as much fun as I feel I should be

makes me feel guilty

OP posts:
lljkk · 12/09/2022 21:18

every day

Spottybluepyjamas · 12/09/2022 21:18

Every day

Sapphire387 · 12/09/2022 21:19

Yes! Often.

tiredmumma8696 · 12/09/2022 21:25

All the time! And the fact we worry about it means we are not shit parents

Fiddlersgreen · 12/09/2022 21:27

All the time.
I have teenagers who are rude and shitty to me. Where did I go wrong

IhMrsPr · 12/09/2022 21:27

Every day. I am not good enough for my DC.

inappropriateraspberry · 12/09/2022 21:28

Yes. That's part and parcel of parenting. No one's perfect.

RitzyTitzy · 12/09/2022 21:32

Yes. Permanently.

Loginmystery · 12/09/2022 21:32

Yes! All the time. I’m shit

YoSofi · 12/09/2022 21:34

Every day.

But shit parents don’t worry about being shit parents, so I’m sure we’re all doing ok!

bookworm14 · 12/09/2022 21:41

Literally all the time.

megletthesecond · 12/09/2022 21:42

Every day. I have teens.

SpinningFloppa · 12/09/2022 21:42

Yes often.

FunsizedandFabulous · 12/09/2022 21:42

Oh definitely yes.

N4ish · 12/09/2022 21:46

Oh my goodness yes! I empathise with the being quiet and not fun when overwhelmed, I’m exactly the same. Hopefully it’s better than being loud and shouty but still makes me feel guilty.

southdowns78 · 12/09/2022 21:51

Yep me too. My 11 years has suddenly turned into a nightmare. Calls me names, attitude , I can't do anything right. I tell him off and his retort is you are just bullying me! This is when I say brush your teeth or hang your blazer up. Then I get the shouting you are a bad dad when I say it's bedtime at 8.30. God I do think Is it me? ....

KendrickLamaze · 12/09/2022 21:54

All. The. Fucking. Time.

We can't all be shit so it's likely a guilt complex because we know our best is not good but not good enough.

scissorsandsellotape · 12/09/2022 21:55

Yes.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 12/09/2022 22:02

Sometimes.

Not nearly as much as some of you are saying. Maybe my kids are older? So it’s less about taking them through their first…everything?

Anyway, they’re all doing well in school, are polite and well thought of. I’ve provided them with a house with a room each and fund activities they want to do, they want to spend time with me (admittedly the 10 year old more than the 13 year olds!).

SomePosters · 12/09/2022 22:04

Every day.

im trying to be 2 parents and a whole extended family to my kid.

she didn’t deserve to be born with no one to love her but me

TooHotToTangoToo · 12/09/2022 22:15

I think it comes with the territory

alotoftutus · 12/09/2022 22:16

Every parent to have ever lived.

Actually no every GOOD parent to have ever lived. I think parents who are actually sh*t don't care so don't even think these thoughts. I suspect you are awesome because you care about not being good enough. Don't be hard on yourself we can't do everything xxx

SecondsAreTheBest · 12/09/2022 22:18

Yes. And it's a million times worse since I've had my second. I always feel like I'm neglecting one of them.

Mostly I feel incompetent though.

BudgetBlast · 12/09/2022 22:23

Yep. Totally shit. My kids are vocal about my perceived failings which doesn’t help. It is something I’m very proud of because we weren’t allowed to say boo in my family growing up even though there were serious problems going on in the family.

Notjusta · 12/09/2022 22:24

Oh god yes, all the time!

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