Your must haves in a guy

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Just for fun

Taller than me
Wears glasses, has a cute face
Very intelligent, is an IT expert
Can drive
Owns his own successful company
Shares my hobby (collecting a certain toy)
Likes Star Trek
Isn't a drunkard

I met him when I was 33, he was well worth waiting for😁

It's been a long time since I had such a list! From what I can recall, my "must haves" included:
Must be a non-smoker
Must love the countryside and not want to live in a city.
Must enjoy walking.
Must love children and want to be a dad one day.
Must be well educated.
Must have a good job or good prospects.
Must own and drive a car.
Must have a nice mum and dad and come from a nice family.
Must share my values.
Must not waste money.
Must be a kind person.
Must not be smelly!

My "ideally should be" list included:
Should be taller than me.
Should be older than me.
Should know how to do DIY around the house.
Should not want to watch football all the time.

Kind
Woke
Intelligent
Articulate
Funny
Affectionate
Good bone structure

Plus points
Vegetarian/Vegan
Non-smoker
Tall
Musical
Good at DIY
Likes cooking

A very complicated subject- my H of 26 years has all the 'haves' I would list - plus a ton of 'wouldn't haves' that have crept in over the years.

Compassion
Intellect
Accountable for all previous decisions they've made, specifically if they have children already
Financially solvent
Ambitious
Sense of humour
Willing to learn and evolve
Great sex - was married for 20 years with mediocre sex, not willing to do that again.

For what it's worth, these are all things (and more) that I found in my DH who I met last year in May; online dating and we got married in March this year.
I didn't settle and he was worth the wait. I think second time around, most people don't settle and that's a good thing.

Good teeth
Kinky

No tattoos - yuk
Does not smoke - yuk
Into sport and reading
Likes going to the pub
Does half the house hold chores

Certainly not woke or offended by everything
Like pub banter

tall
has all his teeth
good head of hair
isn’t a slob
has a job
can drive and has his own car.
has his own place .. aka doesn’t live with mummy and daddy.
doesnt have multiple kids by multiple women.
big dick
excellent in bed
not a vegan. Couldn’t deal with that BS.

In what way generous?

Meant to include as essential: Honest

Do any of you ladies who have posted actually have in your life a man with more than half of these characteristics and/or attributes ? Or is this all pure fantasy ? In some ways I think I measure up but in others, I fall flat!

@WildRosie I have a partner with all of the attributes I wanted, plus a lot more. The key is to find someone who likes what you have to offer!

Kind, patient, funny, clever go without saying.
I wouldn't be with anyone who wasn't a debt free home owner with a decent pension and earning potential. I didn't work this hard for this long to support a man.

Yes, definitely, mine does. I do too, so we're even, it wouldn't work otherwise.

makes me laugh
good work ethic
honest
cheeky geezer

I was thinking about a list but I am done with men so…

1. Kind, tolerant, interested in the world
2. Contributes to the world in positive ways
3. Caring to people and animals
4. Solvent, not profligate with money, but not miserly either

Makes me laugh and also finds me funny/interesting.

Not shallow (I’m plus size and won’t be with anyone who would judge me for that, or signs of ageing etc)

Prefer a hairy man although man I’m going on a first date with next week doesn’t appear to be hairy. If he’s a waxer I may have to talk him out of it!

Voice that makes me melt is a bonus.

Don’t mind about size etc, it’s more about how they make me feel. XP was overweight with a not massive penis but he totally made me weak at the knees.

That’s obviously all physical stuff. On the emotional/personality side I don’t want anyone extreme on either end of the safe re politics, covid, Brexit etc. I’m quite a moderate person and can see most things from both sides so don’t want anyone who is very left/right wing etc

Won’t date anyone with young kids again. Older teens/adults fine. But ideally no kids.

End of the scale - ffs phone!

Also won’t have anger issues, nasty swearing or any physical dominance in my home again.

My DP is the embodiment of what I've posted! Every last point is him.