Your must haves in a guy

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Just for fun

Excellent personal hygiene
Not career or money driven to a Mark Wahlberg 'I give my family 20 minutes of together time a day' level
A deliberate fashion style

kind, gentle, interesting, sexy

no rockers

Intriguing! As in 'mods & rockers' - is that still a thing, over 50 years on?! If so, are mods acceptable, or even highly sought-after?

Or do you mean people who sway from side to side (with or without babies in their arms) or in rocking chairs, like Val Doonican; or just those who like rock music?

Would love some clarification on this one!

Very interesting thread, OP. There may be some people who are offended by some of the things that people have said, but there's no such thing as 'equal opportunities' when it comes to what an individual finds (or doesn't find) attractive!

One would hope you are a stunning beauty that makes heads turn and a delicious body size 6-8 and gorgeous bits hey as you ask for a lot lol 😆

Basically no one obsessed with rock music queen Zappa Beatles I’ve had a belly full of them if I hear about John Lennon mark bolon again I’ll scream. Joy division etc.

Basically no one obsessed with rock music queen Zappa Beatles I’ve had a belly full of them if I hear about John Lennon mark bolon again I’ll scream. Joy division etc.

Well presented, i.e. clean, tidy, smells nice.
Good conversationalist.
Decent job in something that interests him.
Taller than me.

Those were my bare minimum criteria when I went on dates with guys I met on Bumble.

Ah, I see - thanks, Always4Brenner.

I’ll stay on my own I can watch my stuff in peace mind I do any bedroom at nine have done for years unless something very special on but that hasn’t happened for months.

Tall, muscly fat, shaved head, nice eyes, funny and a good dancer/in bed. Kind.

Intelligence, emotional intelligence and kindness.

Generous - it’s a massive one
good natured
friendly and polite
just generally good manners, accepting and non judgemental

In the end it’s character that matters once all the other things have fizzled out

physically:

Another one here who needs a decent sized knob. I once had a bf who was gorgeous looking but when we got down to business it was like a pencil! I couldn't even feel anything and this was before I had dc's!

Also they must be taller than me - Ive never been attracted to a short man.

Personality wise it just comes down to being able to laugh at the same things I think. That's the most important thing - a sense of humour in common IMO.

Kind, clever, emotionally intelligent, honest, good sense of humour, likes clever independent woman, cat lover, works hard……

When I locate this holy grail of manhood, I will keep the information to myself!

Taller and chunkier than me with nice eyes and teeth.

no sport
no rockers
doesn’t drink doesn’t smoke

I'd quite like a sporty drinking rocker but agree on the smoking. Also no ponytails. <vomit>

Someone who is a good laugh, doesn't take themselves too seriously and worships me like a goddess.That'll do.

Lovely forearms.
Being educated and clever.
Boyishly funny.
Having a Liam Gallagher - young de Niro vibe.
Well made suits.
Light stubble.
Dark hair.
Tall.
Being from Yorkshire with a lovely sexy accent

NO to:

ugly sculpted hair.
skinny jeans.
being bald.
being overweight.
muscle bound physique.
being vulgar.
swearing.
loafers and little socks.
uneducated

Educated. Ideally academic.
Kind.
Humorous.
Travelled.

That said I really don't want a man.

OH is an academic.
Tall. Dark. Handsome - too.

Has a pulse. 😜

Tall, dark, a job, own teeth & hair, clean (or filthy, as appropriate!)
gsoh, kind, bright, inquisitive & positive
competent with technology
a gentleman
no sulking, temper tantrums or aggressive driving
no two hour toilet trips to avoid chores/visitors/kids etc
preferably no snoring

in real life, am happily divorced and will probably stay that way!

Nice bad boy.

Brains, and able to hold a proper conversation on current affairs.
Clean clothes clean teeth
Ability to recognise the needs of others (and sometimes act on them)

• Animal lover (especially cats)
• High level of intelligence / intellectual curiousity - this doesn't necessarily equate to a PhD, but somebody who is interested in constantly learning and questioning
• The same stupid sense of humour as me (laughs at fart jokes)
• An ability to feel and show kindness and decency
• A strong sense of social justice
• A good work ethic
• Left of centre politics (I will accept somewhere between Rory Stewart and Tony Benn)
• Has a good relationship with his family, without being enmeshed
• Liked by my friends and family
• No children and doesn't want any

And, from a purely shallow perspective:

• Tall (at least 6')
• Dark-haired
• Slim / athletic, with a committed attitude to self-preservation / staying fit
• Nice forearms / hands
• Tiny bottom

Lucky me - I got all of this! #SmugButNotSmugButAlsoATinyBit Smug

Honesty
Loyalty
Wit
Joie de vivre
Tall with big shoulders and arms 😀