If you meet up with someone for a coffee, how long do you usually spend with them?

[Geeksassemble]

For various reasons I’ve been unable to do much socially for a good few years, but due to a new work role that is changing again now and I feel like I’ve forgotten how to mix!

Confidence has gone a bit, and I’m finding I can’t judge how long to spend when someone has asked to meet up. I keep coming away paranoid that they feel I’ve rushed it and not given them enough time, or spent too long chatting and bored them to death!

If you ask someone to meet for a coffee or a drink, how long would you consider a reasonable/pleasant amount of time to spend? I feel like I just need a vague yardstick!

About an hour to an hour and a half.

If it's a really good friend that I haven't seen for a while and we want a longer chat/more time we'd more likely arrange to go out for a meal.

An hour. Then I'm bored

You need new friends!

1.5. Hours if you really like them and have lots to catch up on. You can tell you’re in that situation if one of you suggests getting another coffee. Otherwise 45 mins to an hour.

Oh I'm chatty, my friends are chatty, I would say 1.5 minimum and usually around 2 hours. We might shorten it if one of us is in a rush or has a place to be though. Also happy to walk their dog with them! If someone was trying to get away from me after 45 minutes, I'd take it that they weren't that interested in me! My phone calls to friends usually last about 40 min to two hours as well, unless a quick arrangement or a 10 min catch up and we'd discuss that beforehand.

I would let the person know in a nice way if you need to nip off early or just get tired- hey, I'll have to go around 11ish, hope that's ok, so there's no misunderstandings. Same if friend only has 10 min on phone or I'm off out shortly, we'd flag that up beforehand.

If I meet with a good friend I haven't seen for a while then 2 hours
If a more frequent catch up then an hour

1.5 hours to all afternoon. Usually till one of us needs to go and then squeeze another 10 minutes. I would always call it a day sooner if I sensed the other person had had enough though. Anything less than 90 minutes available would usually lead us to rearrange for another day.

Usually 2 hours or so. I love a good chat though!

Depends how close you are and how frequently you see them, but I would say a couple of hours.

At least an hour. Not normally much more than an hour and a half. If we wanted to spend longer together we'd probably suggest something different from a coffee/cuppa. I wouldn't travel a long way for just a coffee (it would normally be someone in my village, or the university where I work) and I wouldn't normally arrange just a coffee with a good friend I hadn't seen for along time.

An hour or two depending on the person.

I used to have a friend who would want to come to mine and would never leave. She once came for a coffee in the morning and was still there when I was make dinner despite being asked to leave! I switched to inviting her for a cuppa at a coffee shop as I could control when I left. She doesn't speak to me anymore

An hour generally but longer with close friends - especially if I haven't seem them for a while.

But stop second guessing yourself. People will find a way to draw things to a close if they want/need to go.