If you meet up with someone for a coffee, how long do you usually spend with them?

[Geeksassemble]

For various reasons I’ve been unable to do much socially for a good few years, but due to a new work role that is changing again now and I feel like I’ve forgotten how to mix!

Confidence has gone a bit, and I’m finding I can’t judge how long to spend when someone has asked to meet up. I keep coming away paranoid that they feel I’ve rushed it and not given them enough time, or spent too long chatting and bored them to death!

If you ask someone to meet for a coffee or a drink, how long would you consider a reasonable/pleasant amount of time to spend? I feel like I just need a vague yardstick!

1-1.5hrs

An hour and a half.

@Geeksassemble I think I'm an over stayer! 🤣🤣. If people are here I'll just keep making tea/coffee & topping up the biscuits/making lunch...

if I'm the 'guest' I kind of take root!

it's easier out as people can leave when they want to!

An hour or so

Couple of hours.

Depends who it is!
Some friends it would be an hour. Others we would be there all day!

Those who only spend an hour, do you live in a city? Because it takes me 20-45 minutes to get anywhere so it's really not worth it for just one hour. Also, as a single person making time in my schedule to just be one hour with someone is a waste of time for me. I'd be better off trying to find someone who can spend more than an hour with me or just being alone because that amount of time would just make me more lonely.
I'm glad I've read this thread because it's reminded me to always check how much time people have.

Totally agree

I'm also a bit shocked at those who only spend 45 mins with a friend

No wonder so many come on here a few years down the line moaning they have no friends

No bloody wonder

Thats abit sad really but i guess depends on the situation

When i meet with my best friend its normally about 5-6 hours

Depends. Sometimes the convo just flows and we can end up talking for two hours. If I’m not really feeling it or vice versa then less than an hour.

I find I get tired more quickly than I used to. I used to be able to talk shit with friends for hours but I can’t really do more than 2 these days, unless it’s family or a very close friend. 1.5h for coffee is the sweet spot for me

@pickledpotato @Gwenhwyfar the 45 min coffees are usually a lunch break when you work nearby or a clearly specified last minute 'fancy a quick coffee before I have to...' at school drop off time. I doubt anyone does 45 mins when they aren't already roughly in the same place unless it's exceptional circumstances.

It really depends on whether either of us has something we need to get back for.

So can be a quick 40 min if one of us has a work call or gym class etc or 2 hrs if kids are in school and we don’t have to be anywhere.

1-1.5 hours, but I only meet friends who live in the same city for coffee.
Friends who are further away it’s lunch/dinner/a night out or a whole day depending on distance.

Two hours but I only meet friends every couple of months.

2 -3 hours BUT the person I usually catch up with coffee was at parent and baby groups with me (both as babies!) so we know each other's family and ask about them, plus we never see each other in term time.

I would say an hour.

Coffee, possibly cake. Have a chat and go :)

1 hour to 1.5 hours, any longer is too much for me.

I meet friends for coffee once or twice a week. 45 min is plenty of time for a catch up ... life is full... for all of us.

For us "a coffee", "a cuppa" mean a quick catch up. "Come round", "let's go out" mean a longer time.

Depends on the person and the time of day.

e.g. If it's during the work day, "coffee" will be 30-45 minutes as we know we have to go back to work.

e.g. If it's someone I don't meet often, meeting for coffee is usually a shorthand for getting together and we might be there all day (potentially moving to somewhere other than the coffee place!)

45 minutes would be way too little for me, I wouldn't arrange a meet up if that's all the time I had to spare, it would feel rushed.

Never less than 1.5 hours. Like a PP, because it's a massive catch up chat

About 1.5 to 2 hours, but most of my friends are retired so no commitment to work or children.

I think 1.5 hours is about right for a coffee .. I’d think someone only staying an hour was t really fussed unless it was a ‘lunch break ‘

2 hours minimum for me. I couldn't really be bothered meeting for less than 1.5 hours.

I met a friend for a catch up this morning. We met at 10.00, left at 12.00 and then spent 30 mins chatting in the carpark! 😄