Why do men do this.

[Bestcatmum]

Why do men wander about like a fart in a trance completely and totally spacially unaware.
I've lost count of the times a man has backed right into me, stepped back and right into me, forced me off the pavement because I am apparently invisible and just walked into me in the supermarket because he wasn't paying attention. It really makes me fume. Women hardly do this, they are aware of everyone around them.
Today a group of three men in their 60's were laughing and joking and heading right for me on the pavement and about one second before on of them crashed into me I yelled STOP at the top of my voice (I am completely shameless).
He was so shocked he staggered about on the kerb and fell into the road (no cars around). He looked at me astonished as if I had just teleported in front of him.
I didn't say sorry, I just went on my way.

It's because most men and I emphasise most are arrogant and think they are more important than a woman.

You won't be walking into women or making them move because they will automatically be moving out of your way first.

@O11 that's just not true 😂
The lengths people go to to find something to rant about men for on this forum can be astounding.
This is not everyone's experience despite what some would have you believe

I’ve also noticed women doing this more than men, I have a pram and men always step out the way for me to get past whereas women will continue to walk straight at me expecting me to go round them.

In my experience both genders and all ages do this. Young men possibly do it more.

I almost feel envious of women who haven't taken the blinkers off yet. Once you do the world and our position in it is a pretty depressing place.

Yes I've also noticed this, especially once I was using a pushchair and it wasn't so easy to automatically do a quick jump out the way.

On the other hand I recently experienced the opposite- while having a family photo shoot by the coast, we were standing nicely in a row as the photographer had posed us when a couple came walking towards us. Instead of going round or trying to avoid us, the woman walked right towards me, said "MOVE!" loudly and aggressively and went to push me out the way! It would have been a bit of an over reaction even if we'd been blocking a path, but we were actually stood in a grassy/sandy dune and she had about 20ft either side of us to walk along instead! But no, we were in her way apparently 😂Her partner looked mortified and seemed to be having a word as they walked off! We were all just stood laughing in shock for a few minutes after because it was so bizarre and unnecessary! ( and no not private land, not crowded as they were the only other people we saw, photography is allowed there and we weren't making noise or mess!)

I've had men walk right into my arm and nearly take my shoulder off when there was no need at all, they obviously perceived I was just "in their way". The only comfort is it must hurt them as I'm a pretty solid object to bump into.

It has become more obvious to me recently because I'm waiting for a hip replacement and I cant move so fast or jump out of the way. Previously I'd have just jumped out of the way without thinking about it but now I can't I've been bowled over a few times and it hurts.
It isn't man hating it's just an observation.

I don’t get out of the way.

I worked for a number of years in the City which is full of entitled wankers storming along the pavement topped with a freebie golf umbrella expecting everyone to move out of their way. I stopped moving out of their way. Sometimes they’d look astonished or affronted, sometimes they’d swear at me but mostly they’d apologise.

Yaay, Another man slagging off thread, makes a change from the RF slagging off threads, good call op.

Did you read my update zerofuchs only 2 posts ago.

I have never once been bowled over by a woman.

You are probably just experiencing confirmation bias.

Well that idea cuts both ways, doesn't it?

Really noticeable on trains. I started walking down the aisle and I was halfway down when a man got up and started to walk towards me. I just stood there and he tutted because I wouldn’t move aside to let him past.

also note the spreading. It’s always mens knees blocking the aisle, hardly ever women’s

I’m not far off 6ft and I still manage to keep my legs in front of me when sat on a train.

Even worse when you’re short, most people seem to rarely notice things lower than them. XH used to apologise to people who walked into me and tell me I should be more careful, one of many reasons he is X.

I don't think this is the case. Not just blundering in to people or things is something I actively consider while out and about. I think because I have been big since a young age. I will generally be the one that recognises the situation first and either I give way to the other person or change my course to avoid the issue

To be fair I am a bit socially awkward and like to keep my personal space so this is probably part of it! I once waited for about an hour at the tube station for a train where I could get on without being forced to touch other people.

So while I see your point and I am sure in many cases this would be true I don't believe it is in my case.

Oh no, how dare you point out something annoying that men do, of course they're not the only ones.
Don't you know we're not allowed to say anything bad about men?!

I don't move now, and I've stopped saying sorry when THEY bump into me, they absolutely hate it.

Of course it's not all men, @Tearsofgravy , and it's not only men.

It's a subset of people, and many women find it to be predominantly men.

Well done you!! Love this!! It’s my pet hate🤬

I think I discovered how to cope with this by accident.

I was holding a stubby umbrella in front of me, prior to opening it.

A pratt walked into it. I laughed - & so did his mates.

Never noticed this at all. Yes sometimes people do it, but not necessarily men.

I've never noticed it. Men are more likely to do that exaggerated chivalry thing where they very obviously move out of the way. Sometimes with a gently ushering arm to guide me past. I quite like it to be perfectly honest.

Women are the ones much more likely to barge past me.

I find women do this more. And walking backwards into me in shops. Fucking walk forward! You aren't two!

I find myself laughing at all the "I've never noticed this" posts because that's sort of the point.... we are so co ditioned we don't even notice.

Dh is one of those men who opens car doors, steps back for women/children/old people going into places, gives up his seat on trains etc. when I complained about this when pregnant, he felt it couldn't be true.

2 days later he told.me that he was mortified.... he'd been paying attention and he said he realised he was just walking along and just assumed people, usually women, would get out of his way.

Its just yet another example of socialisation of both men and women and that it needs both parties to see it for anything to change.