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Feel quite sad and tearful about The Queen

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asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:13

Yes, she was 96 years of age, yes she was old, yes she probably had ill health but she’s the only monarch I and quite a lot of people Will have known.

I was sitting watching ITV news earlier and they were talking about her health then suddenly it was announced she had passed. It was expected but I just felt so shocked and saddened.

Some people may not have liked her or the royal family, but at the end of the day she was an old woman and she did give 70 years of her life to the country. She was like the nation’s grandmother.

We will never have another like her. I hope she’s at peace now with her beloved Philip 💐

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Everylittlethingsgonnabealright · 08/09/2022 21:14

It’s okay to have a cry. You can still feel grief and sadness even when a death is expected or happens at a ripe old age. Let your feelings flow and they will pass.

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asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:15

Everylittlethingsgonnabealright · 08/09/2022 21:14

It’s okay to have a cry. You can still feel grief and sadness even when a death is expected or happens at a ripe old age. Let your feelings flow and they will pass.

I feel a bit ridiculous about crying. I didn’t know her personally but I just feel a bit sad and empty.

probably made worse by the fact my own DH said I’m being OTT and that I should catch a grip.

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CaramelTwirl · 08/09/2022 21:19

Perhaps you could join one of the other million threads about the Queens death.

StressfulBedtimes · 08/09/2022 21:21

Oh god I’ve cried loads
I never thought I’d be one of those people
but the Nations Grandmother is exactly how I feel about her
Not helped by the fact that I lost my own Grandmother a few months ago and she reminds me so so much of the Queen; she looked exactly like her, smiled like her, even dressed like her, it feels odd seeing pictures of her everywhere I turn
My Nan loved the Queen too, she would’ve been so sad

The Queen really was a remarkable woman, no matter how you feel about the Royals no one can deny that
Its a very sad day 😔

Vallmo47 · 08/09/2022 21:23

I have cried many times over this evening OP, you are not alone. We have all lost someone very dear to us and sometimes it brings those feelings to the surface, but I was also just very fond of our Queen. The day of Phillips funeral when she was sitting there on her own, that broke me. She’s at peace now, she’s done us proud. ♥️

EmergencyPoncho · 08/09/2022 21:23

Me too and no, I didn't know her and yes, she was an old woman and it was inevitable. I think it's the reminder of other losses and the realisation (not that I didn't already know) of the fragility and mortality of us all. It's ok to have empathy, some don't it would appear so let's try to balance that out.

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asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:24

StressfulBedtimes · 08/09/2022 21:21

Oh god I’ve cried loads
I never thought I’d be one of those people
but the Nations Grandmother is exactly how I feel about her
Not helped by the fact that I lost my own Grandmother a few months ago and she reminds me so so much of the Queen; she looked exactly like her, smiled like her, even dressed like her, it feels odd seeing pictures of her everywhere I turn
My Nan loved the Queen too, she would’ve been so sad

The Queen really was a remarkable woman, no matter how you feel about the Royals no one can deny that
Its a very sad day 😔

So sorry to hear about your loss.

Charles may very will be King now, but Her Majesty will always be a Queen to me 💐

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KangarooKenny · 08/09/2022 21:26

I had a little cry too. Reminded me of people in my life that have gone. Lost my DF far too early, and he used to talk about watching the coronation.

AlwaysGinPlease · 08/09/2022 21:32

@CaramelTwirl perhaps you could be nicer.

@asblindasabat I feel the same. Very very sad. People can bugger off if they don't feel the same. I'm not policing their feelings. Nobody should tell you how you should or should not feel Flowers

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asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:36

AlwaysGinPlease · 08/09/2022 21:32

@CaramelTwirl perhaps you could be nicer.

@asblindasabat I feel the same. Very very sad. People can bugger off if they don't feel the same. I'm not policing their feelings. Nobody should tell you how you should or should not feel Flowers

So true. I was just so fond of the Queen. Just loved her.

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asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:37

Does anyone ever sit and think for a second that “wow, the queen is really gone” I can’t get my head around it. It was like she would be here forever.

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bellinisurge · 08/09/2022 21:40

Not really about her but about my late parents. Hard to put into words but as long as we knew each other (all my life but not all theirs) she was the monarch. And now it's different.
My Dad was very patriotic. My Mum was too, but about her country, Ireland. She came to London to train as a nurse and was in the crowd watching the Coronation. Seeing footage of that event makes me wonder if she was in the camera shot.

jays · 08/09/2022 21:45

Or perhaps she could just start her own. You don’t need to be on it you know.,it’s not mandatory.

ZenNudist · 08/09/2022 21:46

I cried. I also feel well disposed the King Charles suddenly. It must be hard to deal with a huge national event when burying your mum. Not to mention a new career!

I can't believe she managed to see off Boris and welcome Liz Truss days before she died. What a trooper!

Also remarkable that she was so compos mentis up to the end. Lots of younger people aren't.

It feels like the march of history. I feel older somehow.

jays · 08/09/2022 21:47

asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:13

Yes, she was 96 years of age, yes she was old, yes she probably had ill health but she’s the only monarch I and quite a lot of people Will have known.

I was sitting watching ITV news earlier and they were talking about her health then suddenly it was announced she had passed. It was expected but I just felt so shocked and saddened.

Some people may not have liked her or the royal family, but at the end of the day she was an old woman and she did give 70 years of her life to the country. She was like the nation’s grandmother.

We will never have another like her. I hope she’s at peace now with her beloved Philip 💐

It’s not daft to be sad or to cry. Things like this throw up all sorts of emotions. About what’s happened, about life, about our own stories and you just have compassion for her. Be glad you’re a kind and lovely soul .

YukoandHiro · 08/09/2022 21:52

I watched the Paddington video and cried. It brings back other griefs. And things are so unstable now - it's unsettling

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asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:52

jays · 08/09/2022 21:47

It’s not daft to be sad or to cry. Things like this throw up all sorts of emotions. About what’s happened, about life, about our own stories and you just have compassion for her. Be glad you’re a kind and lovely soul .

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Just a lovely queen. I just can’t believe only this week she was pictured with Liz Truss now she has gone

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StressfulBedtimes · 08/09/2022 22:02

Thank you @asblindasabat

Neowwwm · 08/09/2022 22:05

I just can't fathom the images of her at Balmoral earlier this week, her still doing her duty looking as motivated and alert as ever and 48 hours later she is gone. I hope this is how she wanted it.

It all happened so fast, I thought she'd fully withdraw from service long before passing

Topseyt123 · 08/09/2022 22:13

Same here. I've never known any other monarch, and indeed the only person I know well who remembers when King George VI was on the throne is my 87 year old mother.

She was such a constant, a real stalwart.

HangingOver · 08/09/2022 22:18

I cried too, positively bawled. I think it's the shock of something so permenant in society suddenly vanishing combined with it bringing up feelings of grief and loss from your own past. It's okay to feel sad. Just notice it, feel it and let it pass through.

mumsie8 · 08/09/2022 22:22

I too have had a little weep. It has caught me completely off guard.
I think about what we as a nation have lost, her steadfastness, her devotion to the role she was given and yes she had a life of privilege albiet from the confines of gilded cage, but she got on, she did, she accepted it with grace and dignity.
I'm no royalist but we have lost something with her death. I cannot imagine the country i know without Queen Elizabeth ll being a part of it.
Such a surreal day.

Youngatheart00 · 08/09/2022 22:25

Me too, and it’s caught me by surprise. As others have said, it’s the contrast of seeing her working just a couple of days ago but looking very much frail but happy, with the loss and emotion within our own lives being brought to the fore. I shed a tear seeing Huw Edwards obviously hold back his own tears announcing and have felt quite emotional all night

Afterfire · 08/09/2022 22:25

I feel quite sad but I think it’s more of a selfish thing as it makes me feel old. Times are changing, the world now isn’t the world I grew up with and I feel like I’m entering a new phase of my own life. I cried buckets when Olivia Newton John died for similar reasons. I grew up watching Grease and knowing the Queen was a solid part of my world. Now I’m not sure what the world is anymore. It all feels alien.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 08/09/2022 22:27

Such a shock to hear king Charles mentioned,
Paddington was an amazing video, so lovely of the queen

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