Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

Feel quite sad and tearful about The Queen

102 replies

asblindasabat · 08/09/2022 21:13

Yes, she was 96 years of age, yes she was old, yes she probably had ill health but she’s the only monarch I and quite a lot of people Will have known.

I was sitting watching ITV news earlier and they were talking about her health then suddenly it was announced she had passed. It was expected but I just felt so shocked and saddened.

Some people may not have liked her or the royal family, but at the end of the day she was an old woman and she did give 70 years of her life to the country. She was like the nation’s grandmother.

We will never have another like her. I hope she’s at peace now with her beloved Philip 💐

OP posts:
Original poster
asblindasabat · 09/09/2022 20:31

I don’t particularly like Boris Johnson but I have to say his speech about HM The Queen in Parliament today was brilliant. So credit where credit is due

OP posts:
Singleandproud · 09/09/2022 22:01

@asblindasabat he is a wonderful wordsmith, if only that had been the lane he had stayed in.

I particularly liked Harriet and Teresa's speeches.

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 13/09/2022 09:44

I’m a bit late to this but I wish I had found this a few days ago. I’ve been crying about the Queen too and it’s surprised me how upset I am as I’m not a staunch royalist. In my youth in fact I was a republican however as the years have gone by and I’ve seen presidents and politicians come and go I’ve realised few of them have the same sense of duty that the Queen and others in the royal family have. I think it has also like many other people I’m sure, set me off thinking about my own elderly mother who is in her late 80s and thinking it could be any day now that she passes away. I read an article online that it will be bringing up old grief for people who have lost loved ones. There is part of me that feels stupid crying over the Queen’s death, I’m not sure my husband fully understands what’s going on. I’ve stayed away from Facebook etc as people can be so horrible, whatever you feel about the royal family she was a mother and a grandmother and great grandmother to other human beings and they will be feeling her loss. I also can’t imagine having to do all these public appearances etc after losing your mother, I’ve watched some of it on TV, Charle’s proclamation etc I’m not sure I will be watching the funeral though too upsetting.

wilddreams · 13/09/2022 11:10

All emotions, if sincere, are involuntary. It's fine to grieve in your own way. There will always be people who scoff and tell you to get a grip, but the queen was a large part of British identity for many. Her death is bound to feel raw for a while.

Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 18:06

Yes I’ve felt very sad about our dear Queen these past few days.

I still can’t get my head around the fact she was on the throne for 70 years, a constant in a good majority of people’s lives and now she’s just suddenly gone. She was a good age but it’s still shocked me to the core.

I adored the Queen, I adored her lovely maternal and grandmother type of presence in our lives, even though I never knew her or met her once in my life.

I loved her elegance and her soft voice, just loved her annual Christmas speeches too. I’m sure King Charles will do great Christmas speeches but it won’t be the same as our lovely Queen’s.

I’ve cried a good few tears over the Queen. I always knew I’d be sad but I didn’t think I’d cry over it as I never knew her but I’ve proven myself wrong.

It’s hard to believe she’s gone. I will watch the funeral to pay my respects but I will find it hard. I’m keeping tissues by my side.

OP posts:
Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 18:16

wilddreams · 13/09/2022 11:10

All emotions, if sincere, are involuntary. It's fine to grieve in your own way. There will always be people who scoff and tell you to get a grip, but the queen was a large part of British identity for many. Her death is bound to feel raw for a while.

What gets me is the people who make fun of her passing and the ones who are crass and only care about getting time off work for her funeral.

I know not everyone is a Royal Family fan and that’s fine, but I find it very disrespectful and actually offensive to be so callous about the passing of an elderly woman who was a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother and also happened to serve the country for 70 years of life.

I think these people should just not say anything at all if that’s how they feel. It’s sickening to hear.

OP posts:
AlwaysGinPlease · 13/09/2022 18:18

@asblindasabat I couldn't agree more. I've removed people from SM and from my life because of the vile attitude they have and that they happily spout loudly. Says all I need to know, I do not want them in my life.

Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 18:26

AlwaysGinPlease · 13/09/2022 18:18

@asblindasabat I couldn't agree more. I've removed people from SM and from my life because of the vile attitude they have and that they happily spout loudly. Says all I need to know, I do not want them in my life.

You are so right to do that and I don’t blame you one bit. I can’t listen to anyone be nasty about her. I liked the Queen and she deserves respect. The way some people think and act horrifies me.

Ive seen a few people who only wanted the day off because of her passing and weren’t interested in her one bit and those who make sick and cruel jokes about the fact she’s passed away. I’m not going to say on here what I heard because it just makes me sick.

We have all seen her last photo from last week when she met Liz Truss and she just looks so old and frail. She reminds me of my late grandmother. I just looked at her photo and thought how could anyone think or speak so cruelly about this lovely woman

OP posts:
Rae36 · 13/09/2022 18:34

I felt really sad today. I live in Edinburgh. I thought Monday's church service was lovely, much more familiar to me than what is to come next week. The Moderator Iain Greenshields who spoke did my mother in law's funeral service last year. So it all felt comforting and gentle to me.
I watched (on tv) her leave Edinburgh Airport this afternoon and that made me feel really sad. That was my goodbye. I don't think I'll watch much more.

Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 18:39

Rae36 · 13/09/2022 18:34

I felt really sad today. I live in Edinburgh. I thought Monday's church service was lovely, much more familiar to me than what is to come next week. The Moderator Iain Greenshields who spoke did my mother in law's funeral service last year. So it all felt comforting and gentle to me.
I watched (on tv) her leave Edinburgh Airport this afternoon and that made me feel really sad. That was my goodbye. I don't think I'll watch much more.

It is very sad. I wish she could have lived longer, even another few years. Her mother was 101 when she died so it wasn’t impossible.

of course not saying she would have been Queen for the remainder of her life had she lived for another few years, maybe she would have had no choice to abdicate due to health reasons but it would have been nice to still have her.

did you go to the church service? I watched it on TV. I live in Northern Ireland and I was seriously considering going over to pay my respects to her as obviously Scotland is closer to me than London but too late now

OP posts:
Rae36 · 13/09/2022 18:49

I just watched the service on TV. It was only folk with an invitation who got in

MarshaMelrose · 13/09/2022 19:19

I knew I'd be upset but I've cried a lot more than I expected. I even started to almost blub in M&S today when chatting with an assistant.
I've been moved by so much of what has happened - I thought Scotland did her proud and Annes curtsey and then the 4 of them standing vigil....😂

But what has made me proudest is just how many head of states around the world don't just speak of their respect and admiration of her, but that she was so good-humoured, well informed in such a wide range of issues, and was genuinely interested in matters that affected the public.

It's made me fill up so many times. I'm exhausted.

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 13/09/2022 20:07

@asblindasabat I had thought she might make it to 100 like her mother did, however she had a lot more responsibility than her mother who was Queen consort, and was still relatively young when she was widowed and as far as I know sort of retired after that. It sounds silly to say it was a shock when someone is 96 but I had thought there would have been reports of her going into hospital etc before hand as happened with Prince Philip. I do think she seemed to decline very quickly after she lost Philip which is understandable as they were married 70 years, to most of if this is unimaginable. I respected the Queen but I wasn’t a huge fan, she was just always there. It’s surprised me therefore how upset I’ve been. She always conducted herself with dignity, she never put a foot wrong until the Andrew situation at the memorial for Philip where he was allowed to escort her to her seat, but I think she probably wanted to believe it wasn’t true about him and this was just an error of judgment. I also think he’s a very dominant personality and has been pushing to come back into the public eye. I don’t think this is the time for people to debate about the monarchy, it’s bloody disrespectful when someone has just died. I’ve noticed that a lot of people who are ridiculing others for mourning the Queen were doing the same with David Bowie or other celebrities as that’s “cooler” it’s exactly the same.

Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 20:10

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 13/09/2022 20:07

@asblindasabat I had thought she might make it to 100 like her mother did, however she had a lot more responsibility than her mother who was Queen consort, and was still relatively young when she was widowed and as far as I know sort of retired after that. It sounds silly to say it was a shock when someone is 96 but I had thought there would have been reports of her going into hospital etc before hand as happened with Prince Philip. I do think she seemed to decline very quickly after she lost Philip which is understandable as they were married 70 years, to most of if this is unimaginable. I respected the Queen but I wasn’t a huge fan, she was just always there. It’s surprised me therefore how upset I’ve been. She always conducted herself with dignity, she never put a foot wrong until the Andrew situation at the memorial for Philip where he was allowed to escort her to her seat, but I think she probably wanted to believe it wasn’t true about him and this was just an error of judgment. I also think he’s a very dominant personality and has been pushing to come back into the public eye. I don’t think this is the time for people to debate about the monarchy, it’s bloody disrespectful when someone has just died. I’ve noticed that a lot of people who are ridiculing others for mourning the Queen were doing the same with David Bowie or other celebrities as that’s “cooler” it’s exactly the same.

yes I do feel that Prince Philip’s death contributed to her decline, which as you say, is understandable.

She seemed like someone who enjoyed life but she just must have been missing her beloved husband

OP posts:
CaptainBarbosa · 13/09/2022 20:14

I have no idea why, but I just got rather watery eyed watching her arrive at Buckingham Palace 😳

It's reminded me of loved ones, the hearse pulling up outside the house, and what it felt like. That grief.

I do hope the family get to have time this evening to grieve away from everything. And time with her, to pay their respects in private.

Sparklythings1 · 13/09/2022 20:17

I was just shocked last week when it was announced and not majorly affected but I live in Scotland and tonight watching the plane turn the corner onto the runway and take off totally got me 😩 I was in bits! I felt much better when I realised the sky news presenter was even crying. It was when the lady talking to her said she just wanted to say ‘don’t go’ 😢 The idea that she has gone ‘on holiday’ and probably didn’t say goodbye to her staff, home etc but now this is the way she’s going home. Cried again there watching her go through the gates as the cheers went up ☹️ You really couldn’t do much better than 96 and if you asked people on the street I’m pretty sure everyone would sign up to go at 96 rather than take their chances but it’s just the unfairness that life has to end at some point I think

lollipoprainbow · 13/09/2022 20:59

Really moving when she swept into Buckingham Palace for the last time her duty done. Seeing her in London makes it more real somehow.

Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 21:13

Bless her. It’s so hard to imagine our Queen is inside that coffin :(

OP posts:
Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 21:20

lollipoprainbow · 13/09/2022 20:59

Really moving when she swept into Buckingham Palace for the last time her duty done. Seeing her in London makes it more real somehow.

It was so surreal. And you’re right, she has completed her duties. I am so thankful for her

OP posts:
MrsLargeEmbodied · 13/09/2022 21:33

it was moving, despite the cheering, when she came into buckingham palace

Original poster
asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 21:50

Gosh I really am going to be so emotional on the day of the funeral. It’s going to be sad.

OP posts:
667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 15/09/2022 11:39

asblindasabat · 13/09/2022 21:50

Gosh I really am going to be so emotional on the day of the funeral. It’s going to be sad.

I’m not sure I’m going to watch it, even though I’ve watched the processions with the coffin etc and some of the lying in state. I watched bits of Prince Philip’s funeral and I found that very sad seeing the Queen sitting alone. I think this will be more upsetting as there were no readings etc from the family at Philip’s as per his wishes. It got to me yesterday seeing Harry wipe away a tear. It also made me think about Diana’s funeral when I saw him and William walking behind the Queens coffin, that must be on their minds too. I do hope though that there is a thanksgiving service for her life at some point, I get there is a period of mourning and I’m very sad she’s gone but she had a long and amazing life and got to see her great grandchildren which is all any of us can hope for. She was ask for the most part in good health except for the last maybe two or three years

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 15/09/2022 11:41

CaptainBarbosa · 13/09/2022 20:14

I have no idea why, but I just got rather watery eyed watching her arrive at Buckingham Palace 😳

It's reminded me of loved ones, the hearse pulling up outside the house, and what it felt like. That grief.

I do hope the family get to have time this evening to grieve away from everything. And time with her, to pay their respects in private.

Yes I hope the family get some private time to grieve. I just can’t imagine losing my mother then having to do all this public stuff. I thought Anne and Charles looked exhausted

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 15/09/2022 11:43

Sparklythings1 · 13/09/2022 20:17

I was just shocked last week when it was announced and not majorly affected but I live in Scotland and tonight watching the plane turn the corner onto the runway and take off totally got me 😩 I was in bits! I felt much better when I realised the sky news presenter was even crying. It was when the lady talking to her said she just wanted to say ‘don’t go’ 😢 The idea that she has gone ‘on holiday’ and probably didn’t say goodbye to her staff, home etc but now this is the way she’s going home. Cried again there watching her go through the gates as the cheers went up ☹️ You really couldn’t do much better than 96 and if you asked people on the street I’m pretty sure everyone would sign up to go at 96 rather than take their chances but it’s just the unfairness that life has to end at some point I think

Do you think she knew when she came to Balmoral that there was a chance she might not return to Windsor etc ? I wonder if she chose to stay at Balmoral as she was very happy there previously.

howdyhey · 15/09/2022 17:28

I have moments of tearfulness. I wouldn't say I am a royalist, I don't really think about them day to day, but the queen's death has knocked me. I took DD to the scout hut and remembered making a red white and blue themed picnic and bunting just a few short months ago for the jubilee. Then the picture of the corgi walking into the distance with the bunting trailing behind appeared on my phone and it did it for me. It was an unexpected reaction on my part, but I don't feel silly because she was a large part of British identity. It was an honest reaction, whereas I think some people enjoy being callous for laughs.