What can your 10 year old do?

[Sorryexcuseme]

I just got a bollocking off my mother when I told her that I got my 10 year old to make a a cup of tea the other day..she said he was too young to know how do that. ( he's made me one about 2 times in his life)
My 10 year old can:
Make a cup of tea
Put a wash on
Put clothes in the dryer
Fry an egg although he gets shell in it or makes a huge mess
Make toast
Make a sandwich
Knows theoretically how to make a lasagna and mac and cheese and has done it with me never alone.
Goes to the shop alone for crisps etc..
Hangs his own clothes up after I've ironed them

Is this too much for a 10 year old to do?
Bearing in mind he does none of this regularly aprt from hanging clothes up.
It's just stuff I've taught him to do IF I need his help which is maybe one time a month.

No it is nit too much at all. My son had cooking lessons with Outschool from 9.

I wonder if your nil would feel the same about a girl?

I should add that as a child I never had to do anything myself I was spoiled and when I moved out was probably the first time I did laundry or cooked and I hated it and found it difficult and felt like an idiot.
I want my son to be self sufficient but am I teaching him too young?
Again he never has to do this regularly and he's always happy to learn and sometimes asks me to teach him how to do things..he's very independent which I love.

Nope, all normal. Mine can do himself pizza, fish fingers and oven chips, walk through dog, hang out the washing, wipe the kitchen etc.

During lockdown, one of the very first home learning tasks we had from school for a Yr4 DC (so 8-9) was ‘make a cup of tea or coffee for your parent’. Brownies & Cubs do it and they’re 7+. So your mum is wrong, I think.

@JulesCobb well she never taught or expected me to do anything either and I really wish she had

Oh and he has washed the dishes before and vacuumed but he's pretty bad at both 😂

All normal. DD who is 9 can do all the above except the frying an egg but she doesn’t eat eggs. She makes a mean Cham toastie!! Ignore your mother OP

She can make toast and probably a sandwich.

She's not tall enough to reliably lift a hot kettle or hot pan so no way is she.
She can microwave an egg.

Very good at finding hidden treats.

My 9 year old could do all of those except make lasagne. He can make omelette, soup, and a few other things though. I'm trying to ensure he is self sufficient when leaving home 😀

Mine regularly makes cups of tea. I showed him how, supervised for a while then let him crack on. Hes also chief spider catcher in the house and I get him doing all sorts of chores. I'm a lone parent and their dad was a lazy arse so I'm teaching him how to pull his own weight so he doesn't end up like him!

Oh and he does a lot of weeding for me. I've tried to get him to mow the lawns but the mower is just slightly too heavy for him at the moment. Another year or so and my gardening days are over!

My 10 year old makes a lovely cuppa! As you were OP, all sounds good to me.

I wish my DH would let DSS do more. He does nothing. He's waited on hand and foot.

Drinks etc bought to him on the sofa. Plates and clothes just left on the floor. Doesn't even put his own washing away. DH clears his Lego away etc.

I get him to help me do stuff and he seems to enjoy being helpful and does it gladly.

I think he's setting him up to be a useless adult 🤦‍♀️ but ultimately not my responsibility I guess.

Mine are 9&11

They can load and unload the dishwasher (putting a few things to one side if they are for high cupboards)
Put on a wash
Hang clothes on the line (not sheets etc)
Strip a bed (but need help putting new duvet covers and sheets on)
Hoover
Make breakfasts and lunches, including toasties, baked beans, and scrambled eggs
Make simple dinners with help for the oven bits
Bake cakes
Iron Scout/Cubs uniforms
Pitch tents
Check oil on a car
Make hot drinks
Light a fire with matches or flint/steel

They don't do this all the time (except the making of breakfasts and lunches). But general philosophy is they won't learn if they don't try.

My twins are 10 this month and have been making me cups of tea since they were 8. One can make herself fried egg on toast, banana bread, put away a whole load of the families washing in the correct places, vacuum and mop. She’s massively independent and loves to be like this. She has also been washing and blow drying her own long hair alone from 7. Her sister isn’t as independent and does very little in comparison.

To add, I have never made her do these jobs, she chooses to.

Me and a friend were actually speaking tonight about the fact we had our first paid jobs at the age of 11. I had a paper round and at worked at my mums cafe on a Sunday. Pot washing, serving and clearing tables, frying bacon, baking cakes etc. Wouldnt be allowed these days though.

I was making teas and coffees at 9 but then I also poured boiling water on my foot got a third degree burn which took ages to heal and have a huge scar to this day. I don't let mine use the kettle until they are older!

Is it may be a wierd generational /social class thing - like maybe she perceives that it's poor kids that need to help round the house and therefore it's somehow something to be avoided? My son was cooking basic meals at 10 for the whole family, including the vegetarian. Nothing complicated - pasta or something from the freezer, but super helpful in an emergency. He can also make bread, homemade pizzas and other basic baking. He can go to the local shop if we have forgotten anything and make basic choices - eg what to do if the thing you are sent for isn't available. But his washing up and hoovering are awful and it's amazing how much stuff he can't see when it's on his bedroom floor. I think giving them a bit of independence at 10 is really important as they need to do so much more when they are 11 and start secondary.

Talk incessantly and drive me up the wall🥴

10yo:
empties and reloads the dish washer
changes his bed
Hangs out clean washing
Puts his clothes away
Makes cups of tea
Makes g&t
Cooks a full fry up
Makes his pack lunch
Hoovers stairs

@Freeasabird76 😂😂

My 4 year old:

Hangs out washing (we have a rotary line that can be lowered) Cooks meals with instruction (I only intervene to put in/take out of oven and deal with kettle)
Puts a wash on, loads non sharps into dishwasher, gets his things ready for school the night before, strips his bed,

I think we give kids far less credit than they're due and I'm not stood over him forcing him to do this each day but he actively enjoys cooking and joining in with the washing. I have a less than helpful husband and all out useless brothers and am hoping to make a change.

Mine can build an entire village on Minecraft among other things…

No. I would be quite worried about a 10 year old who couldn’t make a cup of tea. What use will they be in a crisis, huh? I could make a G and T at that age, which is also a good life skill. Your MIL is batshit.

@SafariPark wow your 4 year old can cook a meal 🤔