What can your 10 year old do?

[Sorryexcuseme]

I just got a bollocking off my mother when I told her that I got my 10 year old to make a a cup of tea the other day..she said he was too young to know how do that. ( he's made me one about 2 times in his life)
My 10 year old can:
Make a cup of tea
Put a wash on
Put clothes in the dryer
Fry an egg although he gets shell in it or makes a huge mess
Make toast
Make a sandwich
Knows theoretically how to make a lasagna and mac and cheese and has done it with me never alone.
Goes to the shop alone for crisps etc..
Hangs his own clothes up after I've ironed them

Is this too much for a 10 year old to do?
Bearing in mind he does none of this regularly aprt from hanging clothes up.
It's just stuff I've taught him to do IF I need his help which is maybe one time a month.

I didn't answer the question!

My 10 year old can:

Hoover
Put clothes away
Tidy his room
Tidy the cushions / make the sofa neat
Cook / bake under supervision (see below)
Get himself cereal / drinks
Wash the car (can't reach it all though)

He could probably also use the washing machine but I've never shown him how.

He can also talk 24/7

9 year old can do similar here
chips and fish fingers/nuggets in air fryer
warms milk in the microwave
can change and make his bed although I change the duvet cover
makes toast and fried/scrambled egg but yes to leaving shell in and making a mess😂
goes to the shop for snacks with his card
Sorts washing into colours and will put his clothes away when asked but I usually do it

he’ll be walking 1mile home from now on too

its good for them!

My 10 year old (almost 11) ..

cooks all sorts - toasties, pancakes, waffles, cakes, pasta dishes, eggs, bacon, beans on toast

has a stab at tidying his bedroom but isn’t thorough enough for me

empties, loads, starts dishwasher.

Also walks half a mile to sainsburys to shop for us or himself

My 1o year old, can make a pot of soup, use the bread machine, make a cup of tea, clean a guiniea pig hutch, cook eggs as well as potatoes, pasta etc, bake an apple pie or cake, use the washing machine, clean and dust her bed room, go to the post office or local shop. (She prefers to have her 13 year old brother with her for that one, athough my others were doing this from 9, very rural area)

My oldest at 10 could change a nappy, even a Terry square nappy and dress a baby or toddler without help. (Adult near by) I don't think my younger one could. But oldest didn't make tea or fry and egg untill 11. She did other cooking wnd made a lot of toasted sandwiches though.

My just 9 year old can do all these too- she can make me a lovely cup of tea but I wouldn't get her to carry it to me just yet! Also loves weeding, loading the slow cooker, washing up (not perfectly but 10/10 for effort). Kids can and should, and are keen to help out, absolutely they should be encouragedtk be as independent as possible. For them not for anyone else, though if course the household benefits. Ignore her!

My 5 year old can put a wash on (although I would clearly be supervising and the washing stuff is out of reach) - he can moved stuff from washing machine to dryer and put it on the correct setting.

He could make toast, a sandwich and helped me cook (can get the right ingredients out and knows what order to put them in)
He can also vacuum (not to Hinches standards obvs)

He can make his bed, take his shoes off and put them away, put his dirty washing in the correct place and work the tv and all the apps.

This is not because I'm laying on the sofa and have him as some sort of child slave before anyone piles on 🤦🏼‍♀️
It's because he likes to help and wants to learn.
He obviously wouldn't do most of these things unsupervised at 5 but the skill is there.

I'll also say - I got my first job at 12 so I think 10 is a pretty capable age.

I'll be blasted for this no doubt

Also, it's so great hearing how accomplished many of these Primary age kids are!
All these parents tarting to equip them very well for growen up life, I am sure we've all heard of young folk going off to uni, or even getting married in late teens or even late 20's who don't have some of these skills.

The son of someone I know got married recently at age 23. His new wife was so glad that he knew how to budget, cook and clean. Her parents never let her learn that stuff to the same extent and not easy at 22 having to figure it all out, while dealing with morning sickness and the dynamics of a new marraige!

Another freinds 21 year old son moved out without knowing how to work a washing machine, athough it's not as bad as it seems, he has many other useful life skills, such as home repair, raised bed vegetable growing and cooking.

Starting to eqqip them ! ....Not tarting.... whatever that means, the making of a baked apple tart I assume.
Really must refrain from typing late at night when I'm tierd.

Tell your mother that you didn’t like not knowing how to do anything when you left home and how it made you feel.
Our job as parents is to raise children from total dependence to independence. If your child reaches 18 and doesn’t know how to budget, pay bills, get a hot meal on a plate and sort out their washing then you have failed them.
Learning how to do chores is part of belonging to your family and household. It’s not helping out, it belonging. Children who sit about being waited on hand and foot always seem rather detached , like they haven’t quite gelled with their families.
We used to write up the chores on a whiteboard and the kids picked two that they wanted to do. Had to be done by a certain time on a Saturday morning, followed by pocket money and fun activities.

Its so great to hear how much your dc can all do and yes to the incessantly talking!
It's my own mum by the way not my MIL.

I have told my mum I didn't like not knowing what to do when I moved out and tk be honest I still get annoyed/surprised that things don't stay clean or magically sort themselves out 🤓i was a spoilt child (did have a job from 16 but never lifted a finger at home) I guess part of it was my own fault as I was stubborn and argumentative and would've refused to do anything myself.

My nearly 10 yo
Puts her own laundry away
Strips her bed and puts duvet cover and pillowcases on
Makes a good cuppa
Makes sandwiches
Helps with the washing
Bakes with me assisting for the oven
Washes/dries up
Clears the table after meals
Can go in a shop alone

I think letting them help out sets them up so it isn't all so alien when they head off to uni/move out.

My DD 10 can make a cup of tea/coffee and will often offer me a cuppa if I'm working. Can change own bedding dusts her room and showers washes her own hair etc.
not much else though apart from making herself snacks like sandwiches etc.
This year she'll be learning more ready for comp. I also have a DSS 18 who has never been expected to do anything and it drives me around the bend.