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"Best friend "blocked me.....

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browncarpetgirl · 03/09/2022 09:39

I really really don't understand this.
We have been friends for 9 years now and met through work.
It was her 30th birthday in March and I organised a party and invited all her friends /work friends etc (I asked for a list of people she wanted to invite )
Anyway I hit it off with her friends who were kind enough to help me with the party and we exchanged numbers and we have kids around same age.
They added me to their WhatsApp group and invited me out and we all got along great.
Went for meet-ups with our kids etc

After a few weeks I could tell my friend wasn't happy and one of the girls said to me "she doesn't like her friends being friends with each other does she"
It was so obvious.
She started to try and cause animosity between us by being a "he said ,she said " type of person ...and I just didn't have time for it.
I told her this and she played dumb ...
Anyway last weekend was one of the girls 30ths and there was no issues.
My friend was being off with me so in the toilets I asked her what her problem was ..she was chatting fine saying "no problem with me"
One of the girls walked in (I didn't see at the time as I was stood facing away from door)
And she starts talking loudly "why are you being so aggressive,I'm there friend too,your anger issues are back please leave " and burst out crying ...
I was dumbstruck ...and then realised this girl was behind
She then goes
"I'm sorry (Anne )I did try and warn you what she was like,i have had this for 9 years at work,I'm sorry I've brought you in to this mess"
And she asked me to leave ..I was confused and tried explaining but she went on to say "you have ruined her birthday party "

I got home and I was blocked everywhere ..
Clearly this was her way of stopping me having any of her friendship group as my friends

What would you do ?

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Temporaryname158 · 03/09/2022 09:42

You are well rid of her! Keep her blocked.

ChagSameachDoreen · 03/09/2022 09:43

I would accept that she's a nut job and move on with my life.

GoneWithTheWine1 · 03/09/2022 09:45

She's one hell of a crazy person. Enjoy being blocked, I wouldn't do anything that meant having her in your life again.

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MadeForThis · 03/09/2022 10:05

Run. She's not right in the head.

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browncarpetgirl · 03/09/2022 11:39

It's just barmy,I don't get it at all
She's made me look like a complete loon

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roses2 · 03/09/2022 11:42

Have the friends also blocked you or just her? Yes she's totally jealous. There's not a solution for this unfortunately and I'm sorry if the new friends have also blocked you :(

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browncarpetgirl · 03/09/2022 11:45

They haven't blocked me but haven't spoken since and have removed me from the group chat

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Branleuse · 03/09/2022 12:03

wow, she is a piece of work.

Freddiefox · 03/09/2022 12:08

We’re you aggressive? Are you a ’tell it like it is’ type of person.

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browncarpetgirl · 03/09/2022 12:10

No I wasn't aggressive,I'm never aggressive
If anything I'm a pushover
She's been looking for any excuse to get me out of that friendship group ...and took it

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lobsterkiller · 03/09/2022 12:18

Do you still work with her?

That is top level batshittery and if she does it you, she will do it to them. Can you talk to one of the other friends at all.

You won't feel it yet, but in time you're going to be thankful.

Fallonangel · 03/09/2022 12:18

She has clearly been plotting to do this as is not a typical spontaneous thought pattern.
Its very very worrying.
Remove her from every aspect of your life. She is very ill and dangerous.

wonderstuff · 03/09/2022 12:21

How horrible, you poor thing. Definitely remove her from your life.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 03/09/2022 12:23

I think her actions are very immature, but since she doesn't want you to be part of her friendship group, accept and move on?

Luredbyapomegranate · 03/09/2022 12:34

Good lord. That is a frightening level of insanity.

Message Anne to explain what happened.

Other than that stay far far away from her and her friendship group. I’d make plans to move depts when it’s convenient to do so.

Aquamarine1029 · 03/09/2022 12:37

Wow. This is next level crazy. Keep her blocked and find new friends.

NoDairyNoProblem · 03/09/2022 12:38

She sounds deranged.
I would send a factual unemotional account to the other friends and say I am not asking anyone to respond or wanting to put you in the middle of things, I am merely telling you what actually happened because she did it so well I suspect she has done it before and will do it again.

mummyh2016 · 03/09/2022 12:43

NoDairyNoProblem · 03/09/2022 12:38

She sounds deranged.
I would send a factual unemotional account to the other friends and say I am not asking anyone to respond or wanting to put you in the middle of things, I am merely telling you what actually happened because she did it so well I suspect she has done it before and will do it again.

I'd do this. She's batshit.

MessyBunPersonified · 03/09/2022 12:45

I wouldn't send anything to the friend group.

She has already twisted everything and told lies, she will have laid the groundwork for being the victim if you tell the truth.

I'd just leave it.

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browncarpetgirl · 03/09/2022 12:49

Luckily we don't work together anymore since I got a new job.
She's probably done a right number on me
If my friend told me something about a stranger I had known two minutes I would believe them too ...so you can't blame them really can you

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britneyisfree · 03/09/2022 12:54

It is a bit off that you confronted her in the toilet to be fair. It was also the second time you'd asked her from what you've said and it was quite obvious she didn't want you around. Sorry but k think you overstepped

Shanksponyorbust · 03/09/2022 12:54

When you went out with her friends was that without her? She may feel you’ve Wendied her.

Blowthemandown · 03/09/2022 12:56

@browncarpetgirl I’d have to message the others outside the group and plainly state what happened. You could even bring up that the other witness had said she doesn’t like people having other friends. They probably don’t know what to believe!

StClare101 · 03/09/2022 13:12

Playing devil’s advocate it does sound like your actions could be perceived as trying to take over her friends. You probably went a bit too fast.

Saying that her behaviour in the bathroom was completely batshit and at least all you’ve lost is one crazy friend and a bunch of people you haven’t known long. I’d leave any social media groups you are still in and block your ex- friend back in case she unblocks you.

BadNomad · 03/09/2022 13:15

I'd maybe message one of the other girls and tell her to watch her back with ex-friend then leave it at that. They've already seen what she's like, but their friendship goes back further so I don't think you'll stand a chance with them.