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Would you/could you cook after 8pm

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Fuwari · 02/09/2022 19:25

Sorry, saw it on the DM website! (I admit I go there but see it as a trashy mag!) Apparently one of the measures for avoiding blackouts over winter is asking people to either cook their evening meal after 8pm or to eat cold food. For me personally this wouldn’t work. I eat early, around 6. I’m usually in bed by 9. So there’s no way I’m going to be cooking my evening meal at 8. I’m quite happy to take any other measures, they mention also not using dishwashers/washing machines between 2pm and 8pm. But I don’t see how I could shift my dinner time to fit in with this. Just wondering what other people think?

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midgetastic · 03/09/2022 09:36

I'd rather have hot meal at lunchtime anyway so this could be great for me

Although I tend to stop feeling hungry around 8 so perhaps it would help me diet

boatahoy · 03/09/2022 09:43

At the weekend, yes it's fine but through the week no. We usually eat around 7 and I feel that's late enough, hate going to bed with a full stomach and try and be in bed 10.30/11 on work nights.

Festoonlights · 03/09/2022 09:53

I wouldn't even consider this, I am much too tired to eat. No chance for the food to be digested. We eat between 5.30/6.15pm and never later than 7pm even at the weekend.

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Festoonlights · 03/09/2022 09:55

If we had to, I guess we would all have to adjust and quickly. I wouldn't start eating at 8pm though. I would try and ensure we have a hot lunch and a cold supper.

CaptainMyCaptain · 03/09/2022 10:01

HappyChloé2 · 03/09/2022 09:12

No, still weird.

I’m up before six, in the office and at my desk for 07:00, but still have my evening meal at a normal time in the evening.

Good for you but it doesn't suit everyone. Different does not mean weird.

RedToothBrush · 03/09/2022 10:31

DougalsBlueJumper · 03/09/2022 09:17

The thing is, it's just a suggestion. You don't have to do it. If everybody took the advice, it wouldn't work, because then the surge in usage would simply shift to a later time. Haven't RTFT, so squillions of posters might have said this already!

I sometimes cook after 8 during the summer when our family's eating patterns are all over the place, but not so much in autumn/winter.

Thing is they aren't expecting everyone to comply. The small print on this does actually state that you shouldn't even try to if you have young children.

It is more designed to be a nudge approach in an attempt to try and change enough people so the system can cope. That means if there are enough people who are considerate and adjust their patterns then it will benefit everyone.

I'm on board with that, because there will be a financial benefit to me to do so anyway, if I can cook during daylight. So it's a little more inconvenient but not a disaster for me.

The alternatives include not just blackouts but also a higher tariff for electricity usage at peak times. Both are toxic and will particularly badly affect vulnerable groups like families with young children who are also amongst the most likely to be badly affected by the cost of living crisis.

Certainly in the past when it was just DH and I we would regularly eat after 7pm so after 8pm wouldnt be a big deal. We would both be in late. Having a child changed our routines and lifestyle. Now we have a bunch of clubs etc and DS needs to go to bed so we HAVE to eat early.

This is where MN is probably not the best place to find people willing to adjust behaviour because they are the group excused and not the intended target for this messaging. Other groups might be a lot more receptive to it - our population is demographically older and these people are those who will remember the 1970s so perhaps will be more inclined not to face a repeat. If you can get a sizeable proportion of pensioners and younger child less couples to shift patterns later it might well be enough to make a difference.

As i say we were already planning to do something along these lines anyway, before we saw this story, for our own reasons so its not one that particularly bothers me. There are plenty of other families who could batch cook at the weekend and this would be to their financial advantage to do so. Getting people to think about the problem now and come up with solutions which work for them is no bad thing.

Its not going to be a dictate with legal penalties for not doing it. But there could be practical and economic penalties for not enough people doing it. We are going to see a lot more thing in future along these lines about changing patterns and behaviours so we should get used to it. Simply because our current carefree patterns of behaviour are unsustainable and our levels of consumption of resources are untenable.

thegcatsmother · 03/09/2022 10:34

I don't usually start cooking til about 1930, so it's doable for us. As we are a household of three adults, there is no worry about feeding a child early as he is almost 27!

TheLaLaLady · 03/09/2022 10:35

I have teenagers so they have a light tea at 4pm and then we all have our main dinner around 8:30pm.

However, as it gets colder I’m planning on making dinner earlier so that downstairs is heated from the hob/oven and then we will all go upstairs where it’s warmer and we can watch tv in bed.

RedToothBrush · 03/09/2022 10:35

JackandSam · 03/09/2022 09:34

That's normal time for me. Once kids are in bed I cook for me. I don't have time to cook a proper meal for us all once we get home from wrap around care/ work and before the kids bedtime so they have left overs/ toast etc and I cook a proper meal when then are in bed, which they have the following day.

This is the type of solution that could work for a lot of people.

Its not undoable for more people than many would like to think. It just requires thinking and planning and sharing ideas of how to get around the problem.

thegcatsmother · 03/09/2022 10:36

Will be suggesting to my elderly mother that she cooks at lunchtime though.

sunandheatwave · 03/09/2022 10:42

Regularly eat at 8 or later so not sure what the stress is

Fizbosshoes · 03/09/2022 10:47

Interested in those who eat much earlier (5.30/6pm) for various reasons, if you go out for a meal would you book a table for then, or do you eat later?
I have a group of friends that I met when we all had babies at a similar time. When we met on our own (without babies/kids) one person took the lead and always booked a table for 7pm, because that suited her. It was actually not that convenient for me but as she organised, it was her choice. But if I arrange to meet friends or if we go as a couple or family (tween/teen DC) we would usually book for 7.30 possibly 8, assuming that suited the other people. I don't think I've ever met a group of friends for a meal before 7pm though.

YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 03/09/2022 10:48

Nope but we eat our main meal midday (both retired) and I dislike eating much in the evening because I end up with indigestion.
I avoid going out for evening meals too!

Notplayingball · 03/09/2022 10:53

Fizbosshoes · 03/09/2022 10:47

Interested in those who eat much earlier (5.30/6pm) for various reasons, if you go out for a meal would you book a table for then, or do you eat later?
I have a group of friends that I met when we all had babies at a similar time. When we met on our own (without babies/kids) one person took the lead and always booked a table for 7pm, because that suited her. It was actually not that convenient for me but as she organised, it was her choice. But if I arrange to meet friends or if we go as a couple or family (tween/teen DC) we would usually book for 7.30 possibly 8, assuming that suited the other people. I don't think I've ever met a group of friends for a meal before 7pm though.

I would have a light snack at 3.30pm and book at table for 7/7.30pm. not a big deal. I think it's good to be flexible with meal times.

RedToothBrush · 03/09/2022 11:10

Fizbosshoes · 03/09/2022 10:47

Interested in those who eat much earlier (5.30/6pm) for various reasons, if you go out for a meal would you book a table for then, or do you eat later?
I have a group of friends that I met when we all had babies at a similar time. When we met on our own (without babies/kids) one person took the lead and always booked a table for 7pm, because that suited her. It was actually not that convenient for me but as she organised, it was her choice. But if I arrange to meet friends or if we go as a couple or family (tween/teen DC) we would usually book for 7.30 possibly 8, assuming that suited the other people. I don't think I've ever met a group of friends for a meal before 7pm though.

Generally speaking I think our circle of friends tend to go for 6.30pm. They all have teenagers too now. It's rare we would plan to go out for dinner and eat after 7pm.

If we are away on holiday we tend to prefer a big lunch. In part because other countries have differences to what time they eat in the evening which doesn't always fit with us and because lunch menus tend to be cheaper.

LilacPoppy · 03/09/2022 12:18

Compulsory power cuts will not be enforced. People need wifi to work and children to do homework. It's simply not going to happen.
What is likely is those who who were naive enough to get smart meters will be subject to very expensive dynamic pricing.

Dannexe · 03/09/2022 12:22

LilacPoppy · 03/09/2022 12:18

Compulsory power cuts will not be enforced. People need wifi to work and children to do homework. It's simply not going to happen.
What is likely is those who who were naive enough to get smart meters will be subject to very expensive dynamic pricing.

More likely that those who DO have smart meters will get discounts for shifting/reducing their use

Dannexe · 03/09/2022 12:24

Dannexe · 03/09/2022 12:22

More likely that those who DO have smart meters will get discounts for shifting/reducing their use

I think you’re very naive for thinking we won’t have restrictions and blackouts. We simply don’t have enough storage.

verdantverdure · 03/09/2022 12:27

Cheeselog · 03/09/2022 01:33

@verdantverdure surely you just skip breakfast and then it’s fine? If you eat dinner at 9pm and have your lunch at 1pm that’s an 8 hour window.

I worked it out as eating from 9 so counting the 16 hours from 10pm I would be up before 6 and not able to eat anything until after 2pm. Oh my life, I'm going to be clearing away and washing up at either 10 o clock at night or 5 in the morning. >weeps<

BigSandyBalls2015 · 03/09/2022 12:28

Those who eat early, how does it work going out to eat with friends etc?

Notplayingball · 03/09/2022 13:27

BigSandyBalls2015 · 03/09/2022 12:28

Those who eat early, how does it work going out to eat with friends etc?

Light snack hours before, then head out for dinner at 7pm. Not too difficult to work around it.

Fuwari · 03/09/2022 13:32

if you go out for a meal would you book a table for then, or do you eat later

I live in London and my friendship group is somewhat scattered. So we’ve always found it easier to meet after work (mainly Fridays). We’d generally either go to a pub that does food, in which case people just eat as and when, if they want. Or if we were booking it would be for 6:30ish so we can meet there. All of our family are “early” eaters so for family meals we’re all happy to book an early table.

Past about 7:30pm I just completely lose my appetite. I never snack in the evenings. So if I don’t eat before then I just won’t eat. I don’t get very hungry at lunchtime either so wouldn’t want to shift my main meal to then. I think for me the solution would be to cook at lunchtime (wfh) and reheat later.

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thefamous5 · 03/09/2022 13:38

Nope. We eat dinner between 4.30-6 so it would be too late for us

thefamous5 · 03/09/2022 13:41

TheOtherWoman2 · 03/09/2022 00:50

Clearly most mumsnetters are unemployed. Me and dh don’t finish work until gone 8pm home and cooking at 9.30! That’d be us living off smoked salmon bagels then

You know not everyone works the same hours?

My husband works 6-2, I own my own business. We eat around 5ish-6 as a family.

My family did the same growing up. Both parents worked full time but sat down yo a family meal 5-6pm

wingingit33 · 03/09/2022 13:43

No chance. We eat with the kids at 6.