If you knew you were an accident baby and…

[Yuhk]

Does it upset you?

my ex is a little… unhinged shall we say. I’m worried when dc are much older he will say he wasn’t planned. He also asks me for a paternity test after birth which was out of the blue !! Hadn’t mentioned all pregnancy, then we broke up and he asked. Dc 7 now and I’m just worried what he might say when they get to their teens

All my three were unplanned. I just say to them "I had no idea when you were coming, but you did." I also tell them that I remember making them specifically, I.e. the day I chose their eye colour etc. Got a bollocking from my youngest for making her ears wrong as she had years of ear infections 🤣

Me and my brother were both unplanned. It's never bothered me and don't think it's bothered him either as he's not ever mentioned it.

As a 3rd child I can attest that this is very true! There is a big age gap between myself and my siblings, I remember being questioned by an adult about my siblings when I was a child. When I revealed the age gap he responded 'Oh you were a mistake then.' I was upset but my mum told me that I was a happy surprise, not a mistake. It might sound cheesy, but it helped me when I had a wobble and thought that I wasn't wanted due to one random man

I was unplanned and at the time of finding out, not particularly wanted! However it worked out for the best. Knowing this has had no bearing on my wellbeing! It does not make me sad and never has. It's just part of the story of me, like the fact I was born with a stork mark and I was breach.

My mum told me she was going to have an abortion and then decided against it - she told it like some wonderful heartwarming story but I really wish she hadn't told me.

My parents hadn't been together long when I was conceived (unplanned), and they split up when I was still very young. I always knew that and had made my peace with it, but the oversharing about the abortion plans and change of heart was too much for me.

I was always very careful not to have an unplanned pregnancy (although I know contraception failures happen) but if I did have a child as a result of an "accident" I don't think I would tell them... I certainly wouldn't share details of my thought processes if I'd been unsure about whether to continue the pregnancy.

I was planned (middle) my older brother was the reason they got married and the younger brother was the accident 🤣 but we laugh and joke