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If you were Andy in Devil Wears Prada

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Rosewaterblossom · 28/08/2022 21:27

I don't know how old she is supposed to be in the film, but she's young. Just watched the scene where she had to attend the benefit because Emily was sick so Miranda wanted both assistants. Andy is late home for her boyfriends birthday, as in she missed it.

On paper it looks awful.. girlfriend puts work first and missed boyfriends birthday. However... he knows why she is doing the job, to progress to do what she really wants to do in the future which means in the mean time, she needs to suck it up and do as she's told in the job she has. Let's face it, any job we really want in the future usually involves much of what we don't want to be doing for a period of time.

Anyway, I just hate the scene where she arrives home feeling guilty as anything, after turning down an invite to meet people whom might be important to her ongoing career, to Nate, who is sat there having stayed up until she got home, to look at her, make her feel even more guilty and just say "I'm going to bed.."

If that were my young dd I'd be encouraging her to do what she needs to do to further her career and reach for the stars. Not be made to feel guilty by a boyfriend who isn't happy for her to be going forwards.

I'm glad Andy and Nate didn't get back together in the end.

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user478965227857 · 30/08/2022 02:55

They get back together at the end of the film. She asks to go with him.

MissingNashville · 30/08/2022 02:59

The plan to be together in the film, it’s heavily implied. He’s got a job as a chef in Boston, she says she’ll miss his grilled cheese, he says they have them in Boston and they’ll work something out whilst both looking lovingly at each other. 😂

I think he just didn’t want her to lose sight of who she was, which she did for a while, he probably didn’t go about things in the best way.

TravellingSpoon · 30/08/2022 06:34

He gives me the rage, as do her friends.

Non of them want Andy to progress, they just want her to sit about and moan like they all do.

Maireas · 30/08/2022 06:47

RoseDabel · 28/08/2022 21:33

People think Miranda is the villain in that movie but the real villain is Nate!

I couldn't agree more. He's horrible.
If it was a man, he would be expected to make all sorts of sacrifices to go up the career ladder. A woman isn't allowed to.

Maireas · 30/08/2022 06:48

TravellingSpoon · 30/08/2022 06:34

He gives me the rage, as do her friends.

Non of them want Andy to progress, they just want her to sit about and moan like they all do.

Plus give them expensive gifts.

MissMarpleRocks · 30/08/2022 06:49

I loathed Nate. If I was with someone so unsupportive I’d have left them. He was a chef. I doubt he’d worked reasonable hours!

Maireas · 30/08/2022 06:50

Imagine if she'd demanded he went to her birthday celebration instead of working. She definitely needed new friends.

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Rosewaterblossom · 30/08/2022 06:55

RoseDabel · 28/08/2022 21:33

People think Miranda is the villain in that movie but the real villain is Nate!

Exactly. If Miranda and Andy were men, there would be no problem. Sadly we haven't progressed much further 17 years on either.. ☹️

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LittleBearPad · 30/08/2022 06:59

There’s definitely a chat about how New York and Boston aren’t very far away and how she can visit.

Nate’s deeply annoying

Mytypicalusername · 30/08/2022 06:59

Ah my people!!!! The irony is that Nate is apparently allowed to chase HIS career dreams as a flipping CHEF (most demanding, long hours, dedication required, antisocial hours) job IN ANOTHER STATE, and it’s all ‘woo Nate, you go guy’ but she clearly shouldn’t?

Such a clear and bullshit message. Stay in the car in Paris, Andy!!!

LittleBearPad · 30/08/2022 07:00

He also yatters on about Jarlsberg all the time - odd!

Worldgonecrazy · 30/08/2022 07:16

Miranda was not the villain. Just a sad character who had excused her emotions to succeed.

The book seemed a lot darker than the film, her friend is some distance away and was suicidal with Andy being the person who was supposed to support everyone.

lemons44 · 30/08/2022 07:17

I agree that scene was awful however as another poster mentioned he is watching her lose her values and become a different person.

She is working in a really unhealthy work place and is literally starting to become Miranda who has sacrificed everything else for her work and is ending up miserable (when Miranda says to her in the car that Andy reminds her of herself younger).

If I was working in a workplace where it was full of bullying, stress, eating disorders (Emily doesn't eat and Andy is also trying to lose weight despite being healthy size), having no rights and no choice, and living in constant fear or being fired, I am not sure I would want my boyfriend to be supportive of me staying in that environment 🤷🏻‍♀️

averageavocado · 30/08/2022 07:20

It annoyed me too, ffs she knows the job with miranda is a stepping-stone to where she wants to be, they know that

Wankers

Itwasntright · 30/08/2022 07:27

But in the beginning she's moaning about the girls that work at the magazine and looking down on them, them she quickly morphs into one of them, spending all her time at work being given the run around by her boss - she changes beyond recognition and her friends and boyfriend are worried about her. Wouldn't you be worried if you saw your friend change absolutely everything about herself to fit into somewhere she didn't really want to be in the first place?

Wishyfishy · 30/08/2022 07:36

Off topic but this makes me think of the film Stepmom (which I LOVE).

Julia Roberts has to give up one of her jobs she’s on as a photographer because she’s not able to be around enough for the children that a) they presumably have 50/50 at most (before the Mum is even disclosing she has cancer) and b) children she hasn’t even known for that long and are not hers. She’s not even married yet to the Dad! No mention of the Dad’s hours at all.

LittleBearPad · 30/08/2022 07:37

Wishyfishy · 30/08/2022 07:36

Off topic but this makes me think of the film Stepmom (which I LOVE).

Julia Roberts has to give up one of her jobs she’s on as a photographer because she’s not able to be around enough for the children that a) they presumably have 50/50 at most (before the Mum is even disclosing she has cancer) and b) children she hasn’t even known for that long and are not hers. She’s not even married yet to the Dad! No mention of the Dad’s hours at all.

Ah Dad’s an important lawyer - can’t expect him to reorganise!

Wishyfishy · 30/08/2022 07:49

LittleBearPad · 30/08/2022 07:37

Ah Dad’s an important lawyer - can’t expect him to reorganise!

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At most they surely have those kids weekends and a bit in the holidays no??? The parents don’t even live that close - with Dad and Stepmom in Manhattan and the Mum upstate somewhere that is far away enough from New York that you can have a mansion and huge land to ride horses (naturally).

I think they even confirm this because JR has to pick up the children from school one day because of the Mum’s cancer treatment and she drives them back to the mansion ie during the week they do not and cannot stay in Manhattan.

But yet it’s still too much and she has to walk away from her job. Can you imagine the MN uproar if an unmarried partner gave up their job to look after their partner’s DC that they have maybe 10-20% of the time?

What did Ed Harris do before Julia Roberts came on the scene? Did he have a nanny that he fired once he got a girlfriend?

Skelligsfeathers · 30/08/2022 07:55

The book is better. Andy has much more about her and stands up to Miranda in a quite spectacular fashion. Honestly, the film while being good, is hugely abridged and simplified.

Maireas · 30/08/2022 07:57

Yes, I thought that the book was better than the film.
I really hated that security guard who wouldn't let her through the gate with the coffees until she'd done a dance for him.

CornishGem1975 · 30/08/2022 07:58

Ugh I hate Nate. I'm so glad someone else agrees that he's a gaslighting dick. Her friends were also prize twats. My daughter and husband never see where I am coming from!

weaselwords · 30/08/2022 08:43

Proudest moment of my life was when my 20 yr old son spotted that Nate was a dick. He also spotted the disordered eating too. I still love the film though.

Mytypicalusername · 30/08/2022 08:46

@lemons44 you are right and make a good point! But I find it ironic that it’s Nate that’s used to make it! Cheffing is brutal, has high rates of class-a dependency and high suicide rates I believe! Plus her friend who I think is a gallerist?

Both of those jobs in NY for a 20something would involve insane hours, tiny money and personal sacrifice.

Aargh! <repeats to self> ‘it’s just a film, it’s just a film’

LookItsMeAgain · 30/08/2022 09:05

The only thing I get out of the Devil wears Prada is that it was that movie that John Krasinsky watched many many times and fell in love with Emily Blunt and said to himself "That's the woman I'm going to marry".

(just one of the snips of that episode of Graham Norton).
Jojoanna · 30/08/2022 09:10

Nate is awful , so unsupportive of her job and of her in general. He's a bad man ,,