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Some days I'm just sad

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:42

I'm sad today. Its hard and I'm feeling very guilty about my life choices.

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Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 17:43

Sorry to hear that Diamond, would you like to offload?

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:49

I've tapered of escitalopram my headaches are shocking. I've read a thread on here about how unhappy kids of separated parents are so I've got that to come with my child. Rumination about all my mistakes and wondering whether another child is feasible or a good idea.

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Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 17:53

I could have written that. Stopping antidepressants is brutal. Are you completely off the esitalopram now? Did you speak to anyone about reducing doses?

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:53

Meant to be going out tonight but I'm going to cancel. I can't face it.

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:54

Spoke to gp who was fine about it.

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:54

Been off it about 3 weeks.

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ScarlettDarling · 19/08/2022 17:56

I get you. Some days I feel so down and my anxiety overwhelms me. Other days though I manage much better.
I’m going out tonight and really can’t cancel. I know I’ll be fine when I’m there but I’m feeling weird right now.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day!

Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 17:56

Don't go out if you're not feeling up to it. Was it a quick taper? The best way to do it can take at least 6 months. Are you thinking about a divorce?

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:57

I'm already divorced with a 4 year old

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 17:58

According to here his life will be shit as an only child of divorced parents. Ive got childcare tonight but I just ca
nt be arsed

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Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 17:59

I see, and your thinking about whether to have another? Do you want to talk about the 'mistakes'?

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:00

Got married when I didn't want to
Was a bitch when I was married
Felt I couldn't leave as we needed fertility treatment.
The list goes on.

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:01

Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 17:59

I see, and your thinking about whether to have another? Do you want to talk about the 'mistakes'?

I don't want him to be alone but couldn't cope with another.

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Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 18:01

Don't worry, his life won't be shit, he's still got you. He's far better off without parents fighting and a constantly tense atmosphere.

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:02

Not according to mumsnet.

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HoundOfTheBasketballs · 19/08/2022 18:04

I am a single parent to an only child. He's a perfectly happy (well, as happy as teenagers ever are) well adjusted 14 year old. I split from his dad when he was 6.
I'm sure some children of separated parents don't do so well, but for anyone to suggest all of them are destroyed by the experience is a gross generalisation.

Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 18:05

I would advise not having another child just to give the older one a sibling, there's no guarantee they'll get on for a start. Forgive yourself Diamond, there's no point in ruminating on past mistakes, all you can do is learn from them and try not to repeat.

UnhookingBaton · 19/08/2022 18:07

Josh here 28.

It's okay to be sad and keep saying that to yourself.

I am a child whose parents divorced at the age of 4 I think can't remember, but things will be fine, I am completely fine, my advice though is trying to keep things civil around each other, I'm not gonna lie it's hard when I was growing up but as the child gets older and reaches a sense of maturity, he/she will understand.

Years ago id ask questions to my mum as to why they got divorced, and I got shouted at the same with my dad (wounds still sore at the time I suppose) but then years later I ask my mum and she sits down and tells me... my father, on the other hand, well he's totally different, but honestly best thing to do is just be emotionally open to yourself and your child.

in terms of you, just remember it's okay to be sad and upset and to worry about the future, I'm living in China with my girlfriend, and I'm constantly thinkings.

I have my sad days and I have my depressing days but I just let their feelings flow through me.

things will get better as time goes on, because we become stronger and more adaptable to our surroundings.

be kind to yourself invite a friend or someone over if you don't want to out and just sit and talk it's nice to do that every now any then!

hope you're okay!

best wishes

Joshua!

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:10

I've cancelled tonight. I'm probably going to get dumped as I'm always cancelling.

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Vincitveritas · 19/08/2022 18:11

I would say Mumsnet isn't representative of real life.

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:12

If it is I'm a pathetic specimen 😂

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:15

I do nothing but eat shite then wonder why I'm putting weight on and have no energy.

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:20

I want to go out but I can't face it.

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Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:23

Dp is good but hes not going to put up with this forever

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Lightning020 · 19/08/2022 18:23

Diamondinthesolesofhershoes · 19/08/2022 18:02

Not according to mumsnet.

You need to ignore prejudiced comments such as these. My 17 yr old Ds is very happy with his life and me and his dad split up when he was 5 months old!