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So embarrassed by my snoring :(

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giddygallopgirl · 15/08/2022 11:43

Is anyone else a snorer and mortified by it? My husband isn't bothered, said it doesn't disturb him, doesn't think I snore much (he is also a snorer tho but doesn't bother me).

However when I stay away with friends I'm always mortified that next day they say how I've kept them awake all night and they so tired and how awful my snoring is.

I've tried all sorts, I'm desperately trying to lose weight, I don't drink.

I try to book a separate room for myself now but it causes issues cos increases cost for everyone.

Am going away with friends soon and am stressed to death about sleeping.

Anyone relate?

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MadonnasKebab · 15/08/2022 11:59

How sad they feel the need to tell you. Unless you’re prepared to call them out on this they will continue to make comments

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giddygallopgirl · 15/08/2022 12:04

I feel for them though. They say they can't sleep all night. Its different groups of friends who have said it so thinking it must be really bad.

I dont have sleep issues and I wouldn't tell someone if they snored but clearly I must be really bad snorer for them not to sleep

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PannaCotta2 · 15/08/2022 12:05

Snoring is awful for others though! I stopped snoring when I lost weight OP.

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Crazycrazylady · 15/08/2022 12:08

To be honest we have a friend in the group who when we go away now always books a single room. It was just torture trying to sleep in same room as her and the following day everyone would be cranky and irritable .

She knows it terrible though and is happy to pay the extra to avoid sleep depriving the rest of us and just owns it if new people are in the group.

Notateacheranymore · 15/08/2022 12:10

I was diagnosed with sleep apnoea in 2013, and even after I did lose weight in 2016, my snoring continued if I didn't use my mask. I had a hysterectomy in 2018 and the anaesthetist came to see me because of the SA being in my notes. She asked to look in my mouth, and from 3 feet away, and in the space of less than 5 secs she nodded and said, "oh yes." I was a bit shocked and asked what she had seen from that far away and in that time.

She said I have a large tongue and a narrow throat. It doesn't make any difference how much weight I lose - my physiology will never change. It's worth a thought. Using a CPAP mask has ABSOLUTELY changed my life. I don't fall asleep in the day so much, I don't wake up as tired so often (I am now menopausal though).

Beamur · 15/08/2022 12:11

Get your friends earplugs.
(I snore too)

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giddygallopgirl · 15/08/2022 12:12

Yes this is what I've been doing. Happy to pay extra but just seen friends have booked shared rooms ..I didnt realise. I did say I would get own room but they gone ahead and booked shared ones?

I feel sometimes like people think I can control it?

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RatherBeRiding · 15/08/2022 12:12

I'd give them the option if you are going away together - share a room and get no sleep, or you book your own room and they absorb any increased costs. They can't have it both ways.

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giddygallopgirl · 15/08/2022 12:12

And yes I do want to say 'get earplugs '

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GlitteryGreen · 15/08/2022 12:13

Hey OP,

I feel for you as there isn't much you can do if you're trying all the things recommended - nose strips etc. My DP is a snorer and I wear a headband with headphones in to play white noise, otherwise he would just wake me constantly. Have your friends tried similar, or ear plugs?

That said, why is you having your own room increasing costs for everyone - could you pay for the room yourself? If this makes you feel more comfortable.

TrashPandas · 15/08/2022 12:14

Do they really complain about the slightly increased cost of you getting a single room?

GinUnicorn · 15/08/2022 12:15

Could you not just say you are going to book a single room? I don’t see why it would need to ever affect them.

Coughee · 15/08/2022 12:18

I know how miserable it can be as I have a husband who snores but they can't have it both ways can they? If you are happy to have a single room and they book you a shared room they have no right to complain....

chipsandpeas · 15/08/2022 12:20

if people know you snore even if you tell them then they should take precautions
im going away with a friend next month i jokingly (but serious) asked her if she snored - shes like yeah sometimes, im like cool i know to pack these sleep headphones i have so i can block it out

Crazycrazylady · 15/08/2022 12:24

My friend is so loud that ear plugs don't work. I fact when we stay in an apartment , even in her own room we need to wear them next door./!

I can't believe people are annoyed that you paying for your own single room inconveniences them. What do they expect you to do.

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giddygallopgirl · 15/08/2022 12:35

Yes I happily pay extra for my own room. I did say let's not share rooms and just found out they have just booked shared rooms??

It causes issues if we booking a cottage or apartment cos we need to find one with an extra room (I always pay more which is fine).

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TugboatAnnie · 15/08/2022 12:40

I'm a terrible snorer. Dc have recorded me in the past and it sounds like a revving motorbike. Regarding the extra cost, I'm assuming another of the party will also have to have a single room so the extra cost for that will be absorbed by the group. Unless they can have a family room of course.

TrashPandas · 15/08/2022 12:42

It causes issues if we booking a cottage or apartment cos we need to find one with an extra room (I always pay more which is fine).

Well, they can't have it both ways. Either they need to share with you and put up with snoring (NOT trying to make you feel bad about it the next day) or they accept you need your own room. They don't sound like very nice friends if they bitch at you either way.

ElMochuelo · 15/08/2022 12:49

Married to a snorer and the only reason we’re not divorced is that we have a spare room.

Every holiday has to be self catering with separate rooms which makes everything more costly.

He’s overweight but “can’t help the snoring”.

I have tried every kind of ear plug over the past 26 years.

If we had to share a room I would be permanently sleep-deprived and resentful. And divorced.

Notateacheranymore · 15/08/2022 12:52

It was only after I started using a CPAP machine and DH - who was morbidly obese - saw the difference that it made, that he went to his GP and got referred to a sleep clinic. We now both use CPAP, and we're both better off for it.

SweatyChamoisPad · 15/08/2022 12:54

I buy earplugs in bulk and hand them out - my boyfriend uses them too. I never snored but my Sleep Cycle app records it, and it's pretty horrific. Apparently the menopause can cause vocal chords to slacken - having listened to myself I'm definitely a throat snorer rather than nose snorer.

MistyRock · 15/08/2022 12:58

Sleeping in the same room as a snorer is awful but your friends shouldn't kick up a fuss if you're willing to pay extra for your room. My husband snores when he's over tired or a bit ill. Generally his snoring is at an acceptable level for me! 😂

abovedecknotbelow · 15/08/2022 13:01

I snore - not overweight, like a glass of wine but snore when I don't have anything to drink. I think it's meno related as only started relativley recently:

"In recent research, a link between women going through menopause and an increased propensity to snoring has been found. This might include women who have never been known to snore, but suddenly find they cannot control the action."

InquiringMinds · 15/08/2022 13:09

@giddygallopgirl I saw someone else mention sleep apnea. Have you been tested? Both my other half and I snore due to this. However, when wearing the masks we don’t keep anyone else awake. (CPAP)

Topseyt123 · 15/08/2022 13:27

I don't think that them having already booked shared rooms means that you can't contact the hotel yourself and book your own single room.

Just tell your friends that you are going to do this because you are aware that you snore and will keep them awake. You are willing to meet the cost of your own room and maybe contribute some extra on this one occasion if it causes the person you would have been sharing with to have to pay a supplement.

Remind them that you have offered this before and they have experienced your snoring before, and that snoring isn't something you can just control or switch off.

Have you been assessed medically to see if anything can be done to improve your snoring? Have you been checked in a sleep clinic for sleep apnoea?