Why are other drivers "flashing" at Dd?

[paranoidmum9]

By flashing I mean their lights not their bits 🙈
The obvious answer is her lights don't work properly but we've checked and they are fine.
It only happens at night so it's not anyone warning her off a speed van.
She's a new driver restricted to 45mph (NI) and I've her app that tracks her driving score which is always high so she's not driving like a boy racer.
When she told me I thought she was maybe just mixing up the lights on oncoming traffic jumping when going over pop holes/speed bumps etc but I was in the car with her last night and it happened twice so I know she's telling the truth.
She drives a typical small new driver car and even though she's got the pass plates on and has to drive slow it's only ever oncoming cars that do it as they are passing her so it's not like it's knob drivers behind her getting frustrated by her driving.
I feel like I'm missing something really obvious here?

I just realised it's drivers coming towards her so can't be what i suggested.

Headlights misaligned or on high beam. Simple easy job for a garage to fix. Some cars also have an adjustment dial near the light switch.

If your car is a tall car like an SUV then maybe you wouldn't think her lights are set to high but someone in a smaller car might still be a bit dazzled.

No, that's the maximum speed a newly passed driver can do on a 50, 60 or 70 mph limit road.

That's why new drivers have red R plates displayed for, I think, two years.

I had this before to. Took me a while to work it out, thought I kept meeting annoyed drivers on the road 😂

Any chance you could actually read the OP?

She says " it's only ever oncoming cars that do it as they are passing her so it's not like it's knob drivers behind her getting frustrated by her driving. "

Is it accepted by everyone? Or do people get frustrated at new drivers? I’m just wondering if other cars are expecting the DD to let them pass? Or maybe the DD’s R plates aren’t visible enough?

But if the 45 limit is happily accepted by everyone then I suppose it can’t be that!

Ah yes I missed that. I did actually have to read the OP twice because the app kept jumping around so I see I’ve missed some key info.

No need for the passive aggressive though, everyone makes mistakes - sorry you found mine particularly frustrating to you.

Years ago the lights on my car were tipped too high. So low beam was more high beam and high beam was too high to see the road.

Could this be happening? I had to get the car looked at and adjusted. I can't recall the cause. But I got quite frustrated by all the cars flashing me when I was on low beam.

Either she has her lights on full beam, orthey are dipping theirs as they approach her

That’s a bit bonkers. Pootling along at 45 when everyone around it doing 70 is a much bigger hazard than matching the flow of the traffic, I’d have thought.

op, if you’ve checked for high beams/fog lights/misaligned lights/backseat axe murderers, could it be just that she’s encountering a lot of idiots? A young woman in a little city runaround, with plates identifying her as a new driver is magnet for attracting pillocks who think they can intimidate her. Are the drivers mainly men in penis mobiles?

Does she drive an unusual/classic/distinctive car? Some owners clubs members flash each other a little hello.

Are they actually flashing at her? I drive windy, bumpy country roads and I find that when cars with the newer bright lights come over a bump they look like they’re flashing as the brightest part of the light catches your eye. But they’re not actually flashing at all. Baffled me for a while until I worked it out.

I wondered this.

My head lights automatically sense if there is an approaching car or not and automatically dips if there is. It doesn't always sense right if not fully dark though, could this be happening?
There is the option to turn this function off though.

That’s permanent driving lights. People forget they still need to turn their lights on at night because they see what they think are their headlamps lighting up the road in front. Leaving them on Auto setting if you have it is a better idea if one is prone to forgetting to light up properly at dusk.

Wondering this too

car lights have become a nightmare.

I suspect they're not flashing her, and it just looks like they are as the road is bumpy.

Are they really flashing her or are they dimming their headlights (most newer cars do this automatically when approaching traffic)?

if it’s a new car the lights are much brighter. Don’t know the technical term but they probably think it’s a full beam.

We get it in our mini all the time.

I reckon it's just bumpy roads looking like they're flashing or her lights aren't as they should be (fogs/high beams etc)

And the solution to that is nothing. I asked the garage to check the lights and they said they are angled as recommended. It’s unfortunate for some drivers if this is causing an issue - but as it’s only some I can only assume they are wearing non anti glare glasses or something. Something easily rectified if they pay for the extras at specsaver.

Could she be switching on the side lights and not the main lights?

You need to look at her lights from a seated position inside a vehicle, not standing up in the street.

Some new cars dipped lights are far too bright. Lots of people fail to adjust their headlights on a new car or if carrying a heavy load in the back/adjust them back afterwards.

I spotted an issue with OH being flashed a lot, that 'almost level with you, angry blinding you flash of full beam' ... he was dipping very early (or in fact hadn't had main beams on since the previous vehicle passed us, on some of our rural roads its safe to just dip and stay dipped than be flicking back and forth) AND our new modern cars lights were very bright, leading drivers to assume he hadn't dipped when he had. They were adjusted correctly and notably, the bouts of drivers angrily flashing ties in well with tourist season and drivers un-used to long stretches of unlit country road. My sister now experiences same as shes got a much more modern car fairly recently.

Indeed.

All must be in the wrong bar you.

What if you don't wear glasses?

OP are you insured on her car? You need to drive it to see what she is seeing.