Help! DS starts school in 1 week and says he isn't going

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We went a walk past his school today and I said 'there's your school, won't it be exciting to start next week!' He was very matter of fact and replied that he isn't going

I tried to remind him about his visit, which he quite enjoyed (I think ) and he very crossly said he'd been to school and wasn't going back.

What should I do?! I was going to get his uniform out this week and get him to try it on etc, but he had the looks of an almighty tantrum about him today.

Yeah, if he's stat school age he either gets with the program or you home ed. As you've registered him it seems you want him in formal education so it's ok to be the parent/ grown up who tells him rather then asking

Tell him, once schools done and he knows everything, then he can wfh.

You’re the best judge of what he needs. I think some of these ‘never mention it again’ comments might work for some kids but others will need more reassurance. There might even be some sort of specific fear you can easily address. That age get mad ideas into their heads and there might have to be a conversation that of course you’ll pick him up, of course he’s allowed use the loo, etc.

Do a bit of gentle digging, maybe with a book like the Ahlberg one mentioned above. Or get out some play figures with one who’s obviously him ‘going to school’ and see what unfolds.

Dh apparently came out of his first day and announced he'd done school and that was enough. He ended up choosing to do another 21 years in education.

Ds was a bit like yours, although he had big sisters so kind of accepted the inevitable. He's 15yo and still not reconciled to school really, and informs me that it is really unfair that he's the only one left in school now as his sisters have left. I wasn't sympathetic.

He wouldn't have been bribed with pencil cases, lunchboxes etc. I just had to treat it matter of factly that he was going on this day and that was that. Not making a thing, but just doing it. He survived it even if there were days I had to peel him off every lamppost on the way in

Just tell him if he goes Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday. He can have Saturday and Sunday off

But yeah basically its tuff he's got to go he'll get used to it.

I also have dc starting in Sept

Alsona 5yo doesn't take their stationery, in England. Not sure about elsewhere