I’ve just been dumped

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By someone I really thought cared.
can I have a hand hold please?

Sorry to hear that, OP

Sending a big hug!

Oh that hurts.
I'm so sorry.
💐

I feel so stupid. I was too needy. Fuck, this hurts.

Aw that’s shit.

Stay strong.

Onward and upward.

Firstly, don't refer to yourself as dumped, you're not a piece of trash dropped in a gutter.
Know your worth. ❤️
You've split up because the God's have stepped in and decided this person is not for you because you are amazing and only deserve the best.
Here's a handhold (& an alibi if he's really pissed you off)
It hurts I know, hope you get over it soon 💐

It happens to the best of us, honestly 99% of people have been there and know exactly how this feels. You’re not alone in it. ((hugs))

OK, but we've all felt this or heard it. Be kind to yourself - being prepared to open yourself to a relationship is needed to make a relationship. You couldn't make it work if it wasn't meant to be.

He’s a poo.

Great reply!

So sorry. It’s really crap when it happens. Try and imagine yourself ten years on in a different happier situation x

Too needy?? I’ve been thinking about this a bit lately and don’t think there is any such thing. You feel loved or you don’t. When you don’t it makes you feel needy because your trying to justify why you are not having a basic need met.

It happens to the best of us. Yes it hurts, it will stop hurting at some point though, it’s rubbish having to wade through the heartache until it does though so I feel for you but chin up, this too shall pass my lovely xx

Thank you. Thank you for being there. I feel so broken and rejected. Like I’ve been chasing chasing chasing even though I’ve known he’s been backing off but I couldn’t stop myself. Love is like madness sometimes

Lousy for you. Sending big hugs and virtual cake OP. 🍰 🧁

Rubbish for you OP, it is such a rotten feeling. Be really kind to yourself and just take things a day at a time

It’s just so horrible. I can’t put myself through it any more, I really can’t. But I am so sad.

His loss!!

It hurts, but in the long run you'll see it was for the best. In the meantime, just try to keep busy, talk to friends, us, the car/cat/fridge.

hes not actually worthy of your live or your tears 💕

Stay strong op we've all been there and it is awful but it will get easier I promise you that

Sometimes these things just don't work out sadly. We go into them with best intentions but sometimes it's just not meant to be is it?

Sending virtual booze, chocolate, wine and cake your way

And never refer to yourself as dumped you are worth so much more than this

If he doesn't love you, it's not a failing of either of you. It's an incompatibility. When we fall in love, we overlook some incompatibilities because the good things are more heavily weighted - we are naturally optimistic as a species. He might not have done it kindly, but he has done the right thing. You deserve someone who loves you, not someone who knows he doesn't but stays, and resentment builds and the relationship becomes toxic. Keep your chin up.

Too needy?? I’ve been thinking about this a bit lately and don’t think there is any such thing.

Oh there definitely definitely is.

I dated a guy years ago who wanted to be with me every waking moment of every single day. If I ever went out with friends or family, he would not stop texting the entire time.

Even when I went to make a cup of tea/hang the washing out/hoover the carpet, he tried to cuddle me from behind and would hang off of me like a limpet!

Sorry OP, none of this is aimed at you. I'm just pointing out there really is such a thing (still traumatised after all these years)

Hope you are ok OP.

The "too needy" stuff is bollocks. My ex repeatedly said that about me. My best friend put it best when he said "you are a human. Of course you have needs." This man wasn't meeting my needs in the sense that he would treat me coldly, do and say things that made me feel unloved etc. And when I responded unhappily to that I was "needy" apparently. Fuck that!

My current relationship isn't perfect (few are) but certainly I feel very desired and very loved - I don't feel I am constantly running after his attention/affection/commitment. Nothing about ME has changed - I'm no less "needy" as a person than I was before.... Yet this man seems to have no complaints about my desire for his time and love and attention - seems to like it in fact....

In short, it's not you, it's him. You don't have to change and hide your feelings to be considered acceptable. You are enough just as you are.

This pain will pass. Try as much as you can not to focus on him or the memories just now - it will be too painful. Do whatever you can to distract yourself. You WILL feel better and be happy again. XXX

Agree with the previous poster. You have needs that weren't being met therefore you were too needy. What rubbish! In reality this just means that he couldn't be bothered to meet them. Try and see it as a lucky escape.
It's raw now but it will get easier.