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Would you still go on this date?

39 replies

ItWasJustifiedHeWasACunt · 08/08/2022 20:12

You meet online, swap a few messages over the space of a couple of hours just basic stuff nothing heavy. That's on a Sunday afternoon. He asks you out for a drink on the Monday morning... scheduled for Friday night. But then you hear nothing from him all week, no questions conversation interest nothing. Then he messages on the Friday morning to confirm time to meet that evening. Would you still go?

Yes - he's probably just saving real conversation for face to face.

No - he's completely disinterested and you are a back up because he had nothing better to do on Friday after all

OP posts:
ChuckItBucket · 08/08/2022 20:14

I’d probably have lost interest in him by then, especially if I tried to chat and got nothing back. I’d sack it off

Penguinsaregreat · 08/08/2022 20:14

Yes I would but if you don’t like him don’t arrange another date.

dudsville · 08/08/2022 20:14

Yes, i wouldn't be expecting lots of texting at this stage.

SteveHarringtonsChestHair · 08/08/2022 20:16

I’d prefer this tbh. I arranged a date and then got “good morning beautiful” and “night sweetheart” messages along with others in between aaaaalll week! Was a bit much tbh. And then we met and there was no chemistry. Just go along, at least he checked that you’re still up for it, didn’t just expect you to turn up with no more contact

Justmuddlingalong · 08/08/2022 20:17

But I presume he's heard nothing from you all week, either? I don't see a problem at this stage.

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ItWasJustifiedHeWasACunt · 08/08/2022 20:18

It's annoying isn't it? They either don't give a shit whatsoever or they're slobbering all over you like some untrained labrador. There is no in between. Twats.

OP posts:
MintJulia · 08/08/2022 20:20

Yes, I'd go. Be optimistic. 😊

pictish · 08/08/2022 20:22

Yes. I’d keep my chat for the date and wouldn’t think to text beforehand. I’d find texts from a stranger a bit intrusive tbh. Is that what’s expected now?

cushioncovers · 08/08/2022 20:22

Did you message him during that time op?

ChloeKellyIsAnIcon · 08/08/2022 20:22

Yes I'd still go, I can understand someone not wanting to invest lots of time texting when they haven't even met you yet.

Inthesameboatatmo · 08/08/2022 20:30

I would've lost all interest after that amount of time with hardly any contact but that's just me. Did you nit message him or has he ignored any texts from you?. Go if you feel like it and if you don't feel like it tell him.

Lockheart · 08/08/2022 20:35

Some people aren't great texters. Personally I hate having to send filler texts to what is effectively a stranger before meeting them so this would bit bother me at all. You've set a time and a place, you can talk then.

WaveyHair · 08/08/2022 20:37

Yes, but would not get too excited about it. Some people are just tired of constant messaging and prefer in person chats.

NotTooOldPaul · 08/08/2022 20:41

I took a chance in a situation like this, we met, talked a lot, two years later got married and 20 years later are still happy together.

coodawoodashooda · 08/08/2022 20:42

dudsville · 08/08/2022 20:14

Yes, i wouldn't be expecting lots of texting at this stage.

This

Katyaadlerscoat · 08/08/2022 20:42

Today is Monday. Did you go on Friday?

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/08/2022 20:44

ItWasJustifiedHeWasACunt · 08/08/2022 20:18

It's annoying isn't it? They either don't give a shit whatsoever or they're slobbering all over you like some untrained labrador. There is no in between. Twats.

LOL. So true.

I'm old so this would work for me. If you're 20 it's less typical.

Nettie787 · 08/08/2022 20:45

Yes would still go. I'd be pleased not to have to keep texting throughout the week. Wasted energy if the date doesn't go well.

RaininSummer · 08/08/2022 20:47

Well I would go as I wouldn't expect loads of contact from someone who is almost a stranger at this point other than confirming date was on. However I am also old and find the modern way if doing things rather full on.

Aubree17 · 08/08/2022 21:01

Yes I'd go.
If there were no other red flags

cookiecreammmpie · 08/08/2022 21:23

No I wouldn't. I only met the ones who I'd chatted with for a bit and liked from what I knew about them. I didn't want to commit to meeting randoms if it was going to be a complete waste of time.

Decidualcast · 08/08/2022 21:48

Yes I would. He was polite and followed up to arrange. No point texting loads only to find there is no spark. I’ve been there and it’s very disappointing when textual chemistry > RL chemistry.

ProudThrilledHappy · 08/08/2022 21:51

SteveHarringtonsChestHair · 08/08/2022 20:16

I’d prefer this tbh. I arranged a date and then got “good morning beautiful” and “night sweetheart” messages along with others in between aaaaalll week! Was a bit much tbh. And then we met and there was no chemistry. Just go along, at least he checked that you’re still up for it, didn’t just expect you to turn up with no more contact

Yes I’m with @SteveHarringtonsChestHair I hate the false, excessively affectionate messaging before we have even met and would rather wait til the date, unless he has been ignoring your messages in the time between?

Darkness22 · 08/08/2022 22:00

I thought this was what was recommended: don't spend too much time chatting online, but meet up quickly? No point investing all that time if there's no spark.

He sounds quite sensible really. I like the sound of him. Report back.

FloydPepper · 08/08/2022 22:05

cushioncovers · 08/08/2022 20:22

Did you message him during that time op?

This?
he’s not heard from you either…

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