Would you still go on this date?

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You meet online, swap a few messages over the space of a couple of hours just basic stuff nothing heavy. That's on a Sunday afternoon. He asks you out for a drink on the Monday morning... scheduled for Friday night. But then you hear nothing from him all week, no questions conversation interest nothing. Then he messages on the Friday morning to confirm time to meet that evening. Would you still go?

Yes - he's probably just saving real conversation for face to face.

No - he's completely disinterested and you are a back up because he had nothing better to do on Friday after all

Yes, I'd have no issue with that.

I wouldn’t, from what I’ve seen on MN though many posters don’t like speaking on the phone AT ALL and only want to speak to someone when they meet up with them so that will explain some of the responses. I once saw a poster who only met her boyfriend once a week and that’s the only time they speak as she likes speaking in person 😐 Personally I’m someone that likes to keep in contact when I’m not seeing someone and in the early days I would expect some effort so if I hadn’t heard anything at all it would be a no from me.

I would.
Have a get out lined up though in case there's no chemistry.

Was this last week? Did you go?

But yes I would. I hate text ping pong especially with someone I've never met. I have a life and things to do and actual friends to communicate with!

But today is Monday so was this lady Monday? Did you go? Did you message him in the week and him totally ignore you?

Er, yes? He probably has a long hours job. You arranged a date for Fri, so you know you like each other enough to meet, and really there isn’t much more to be said until after you meet. What would be the point messaging all week then realising on Fri there’s no spark?

I’d have no problem his behaviour but you sound like you want someone more into love bombing?

Personally no I wouldn’t go. For him to arrange a date with you and then disappear off the radar with absolutely no contact in between and without having the decency after arranging the date to at least say “ok I’ll contact you nearer the time/ on the day to confirm everything is still ok”. It’s kind of like leaving you hanging. How does he know that you haven’t made alternative plans because you didn’t hear back from him. You’re not psychic. Personally, if I’d not heard from him all week, I’d just assume he’d got cold feet and I would have probably made alternative plans.

if I really thought he was someone worth meeting I’d say something along the lines of “sorry I can’t tonight, I haven’t heard back from you all week so assumed the date wasn’t going ahead but we can arrange another day/ time if you like?” Then that would send a clear message that maybe next time he shouldn’t leave you hanging and wondering… and maybe at least let you know that he will confirm nearer the time next time round

The chatting part was very important to me in the build up so I'd have lost interest if that went quiet ahead of the date

Why wouldn't you?

Yes, fine, if he'd seemed nice.

You had a chat, arranged a date and he confirmed on the day. I'd take a chance.

Better than investing time in chit chat with a stranger before you meet as you may ramp up the anticipation and there be zero chemistry.

OLD can be exhausting. He probably just wants to see how things are in person.

Can't say I'd be the most wildly excited id ever been but I would be happy saving the chat for the date rather than building up artificial expectations when you've never seen each other.

I agree.
Go for it.

He's asked you out and confirmed the times etc with you so I wouldn't say he "doesn't give a shit"
You don't know one another yet so why would he be bombarding you with texts?
Have you text him a few times and he's ignored you though?
Ignoring messages would be a deal breaker, but otherwise I'd quite happily go along.

I'd expect a text on Thursday asking if you're still up for Friday at most