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What’s going on with my neighbours?

52 replies

SaltandPepper22 · 08/08/2022 18:53

House next door to me is a buy to let.

Beginning of June this year new tenants moved in. Very obviously a young couple (early 20s) moving into their first rented place together. We went on holiday shortly after the moved in and haven’t seen much of them since we got back.

About 3 weeks ago (so about 5-6 weeks after moving in) they seemed to disappear, we assumed they were on holiday although I thought it was a bit odd that they seemed to have taken both their cars and also three weeks is a bit unusual for a holiday.

Saturday night we got back about midnight and noticed his car (but not hers) was back on the drive. The next morning his car was gone and the driveway has again been empty since.

There is still stuff in their house (plants and cards on the kitchen windowsill can be seen obviously from the street) but we haven’t seen or heard any sign of people living there for weeks now.

If I bump into either of them I’ll ask them if they’re okay, or the neighbour the next door over I’ll see if they know anything but in the meantime I thought I would see what people think.

Where do you think they have gone?

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ChubbyCaterpillar · 08/08/2022 18:55

I'm just here for the comments.

Vapeyvapevape · 08/08/2022 18:57

They could have gone literally anywhere!

Batshittery · 08/08/2022 18:57

They're probably out and about getting on with their lives and minding their own business

ShaunaTheSheep · 08/08/2022 18:59

Really none of your business.

Working away? Family crisis? Could be anything.

Inthesameboatatmo · 08/08/2022 19:00

You are one of those then op. I can't stand curtain twitching neighbours like you. It is literally nothing to do with you what they are doing. Does it impact you directly? Antisocial behaviour? If not then keep your beak out . Honestly some people

HappyHamsters · 08/08/2022 19:00

You say you havent seen or heard anything for weeks but his car was there 2 days ago.

Original poster
SaltandPepper22 · 08/08/2022 19:02

Inthesameboatatmo · 08/08/2022 19:00

You are one of those then op. I can't stand curtain twitching neighbours like you. It is literally nothing to do with you what they are doing. Does it impact you directly? Antisocial behaviour? If not then keep your beak out . Honestly some people

I don’t think it’s curtain twitching to notice that your neighbours have disappeared for weeks. I had no interest in it until I noticed it had been an unusual period of time

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Divebar2021 · 08/08/2022 19:05

I remember a thread like this a while ago apart from on that occasion the house had all its curtains drawn - my vote was cannabis factory.

could it be a cannabis factory?

ChubbyCaterpillar · 08/08/2022 19:06

If that's not curtain twitching then what is? Genuine question.

Remainiac · 08/08/2022 19:07

ChubbyCaterpillar · 08/08/2022 18:55

I'm just here for the comments.

🤣

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SaltandPepper22 · 08/08/2022 19:08

ChubbyCaterpillar · 08/08/2022 19:06

If that's not curtain twitching then what is? Genuine question.

Do you never notice anything about the people living around you? You don’t need to constantly stare out of the window to make observations

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HappyHamsters · 08/08/2022 19:09

Seriously op read back your thread, they have been gone for 3 weeks. Why would you even think this was unusual. I go away for 3 months every winter. How do you know so much about them have you ever met them. Are you worried they have been kidnapped or come to a sticky end.

ShaunaTheSheep · 08/08/2022 19:11

They were there two days ago though! Close your net curtains OP.

CurbsideProphet · 08/08/2022 19:14

Perhaps they just finished uni and so went on holiday and are making the most of summer visiting friends / family separately until they start new jobs in September?

SquareButt · 08/08/2022 19:15

Nothing is concerning about their patterns. You sound really bored of your life, perhaps avoiding serious decisions or changes that you need to make in your life by fixating on your neighbours. It's a distraction or escape for some people to fixate on others like that.

heldinadream · 08/08/2022 19:16

Jesus - three weeks is unusual for a holiday? I house sit, I go away for weeks on end. Also visit family. All kinds of reasons to come and go a lot. Never occurred to me that my absences would look unusual or strange OP.

gillsareforfish · 08/08/2022 19:17

SaltandPepper22 · 08/08/2022 19:08

Do you never notice anything about the people living around you? You don’t need to constantly stare out of the window to make observations

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Nope, far to busy living my own life.
As an example The police had to break into my neighbours house and found her dead (natural causes). Her work had requested a welfare check as she'd not been into work. It was weeks later that I found out about it. I missed it all and I was definitely at home the day it all happened as it was my birthday.

GinIronic · 08/08/2022 19:17

I couldn't care less about my neighbours. It's none of my business what they get up to.

Submariner · 08/08/2022 19:25

We don't have a car but often borrow a family member's car for big things like decorating or tip runs (the kind of thing you do more of when moving house). When the car goes back to its usual home you could easily think "our" car wasn't parked on our road for weeks on end. I bet it's something like that.

You seem to know they're their cars though. Maybe they sold one of the cars when they moved in together?

namechange30455 · 08/08/2022 19:26

They've only been gone 3 weeks and they're early 20s!

Maybe they've been on holiday. Especially if they're early 20s - maybe they're making the most of a final summer before starting jobs after uni or similar.

Maybe they are moving in gradually if they're moving out of parents' houses.

Maybe they've broken up and one or both has moved back in with parents while they work out what to do with the rental place.

Maybe they work very long hours and you aren't awake to nose when their cars are there.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 08/08/2022 19:26

Maybe they’re teachers or students and so have a long summer holiday and are using the time to go and visit friends/ family. I’d guess they have different hometowns and are living in a place neither grew up in and so are taking the opportunity to catch up with friends/ family. At that age they might not be ready to interstate into each other’s lives and so are taking separate trips to visit their own respective hometowns. Maybe the man went to his hometown and is now on his way to meet his girlfriend and just popped home for a night because it’s halfway and to pick some stuff up.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 08/08/2022 19:36

SaltandPepper22 · 08/08/2022 19:08

Do you never notice anything about the people living around you? You don’t need to constantly stare out of the window to make observations

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Unusual things, yes. There was a big row in the middle of our street yesterday and you couldn’t have paid me to move away from the window 😁 But whose car is there and when? How often you hear a door bang? It just wouldn’t register.

I haven’t seen my downstairs neighbours in person for about three weeks, and we share a front door!

Riapia · 08/08/2022 19:37

He obviously came back on the Saturday night to clean up the blood.

RockinHorseShite · 08/08/2022 19:39

I suggest you find yourself a job or hobby, you clearly have too much time on your hands 🥴

SpidersFuckOff · 08/08/2022 19:44

On what planet is a three week holiday usual? Especially when when so many people are going away on their first holiday in a few years due to covid?

If you genuinely think it's not curtain twitching or being nosey, why don't you go an put a note through their door and tell them you're concerned about them?

There could be any reason they aren't home much that don't involve criminal activity, one might have their own rented home and they go between the two, sick family member they're staying with, working away, all of which are non of your business and if you asking other neighbours about their movements you'll look like a curtain twitcher.

I had a cannabis farm directly next door to me and heard more signs of life than you have but I've also got neighbours who moved in at the start of covid and I once took a parcel for them and it was here for three weeks, I didn't ask them where they'd been or pry but they did ask me if I minded taking parcels in for them because sometimes they're away for weeks at at time and I said I didn't mind at all and if they ever needed anything else or to just give me a knock. That's all that was needed. Your neighbours aren't even established enough for you know their usual comings and going so it's not like you've known they rarely go away to know it's out of character.