Do all 8 year old boys chat nonsense? A lot ! When do they improve to be able to have an interesting convo

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It’s usually would you rather be able to fly or hop really high

would you rather be Batman or Spider-Man

I’m really stressed as i don’t know what ice cream to pick 😏

back to what is this path made of ?
whats tarmac ?
can we exist on earth if the moon didn’t exist
( how the hell would I know !)

x a million very day !!

i do love him dearly though !

My DS is 8, and converses as if he is twice his age. He's constantly surrounded by adults and uses very mature language. It's very amusing really! He's never really done the inane questioning (massive relief) but I'm convinced he's ASD.

Pikachu
Charmander
Eevee
Squirtle
Tyranitar
Umbreon
Gardevoir
Dragonite
Charzard
Bewear

Wailmer. I do water born pokemon only for reasons unspecified, that foxes them.

I can take the questions. It's the random noises and the endless repeated catch phrases that drive me barmy.

I loved baffling my son with this, he did not know that pokémon is not new, and was really popular when I was a kid.
All the boys on the playground used to trade pokémon cards and I remembered loads about them from the irritating conversations about bulbasaur that I had to have with primary school boys in 2005, kids have not changed much

I don't like Pikachu. He is such an irritating try hard. He so wants everyone to think he is cute with his silly hats and stuff. I can't be bothered to catch him.

At 12 they go silent for 2-3 years
then it starts again 'what if I built a skyscraper bigger than america' etc etc

I have three kids - 18, 16 and 8. My 16 year old has ASD and I had convinced myself that DS2 also has it because his conversations are repetitive and narrow in focus. I was a bit confused though because he doesn't have meltdowns and, although quiet at school, manages fine socially.

Reading this thread has really helped me to see that he is almost certainly a completely normal eight year old boy 🤣 Having only ever parented a boy with ASD before, I don't think I had realised how many normal male traits mirror ASD traits.

Just to clarify, I would not change my son with ASD for the world - although I would like the world to be kinder to him.

OP ! This is my strategy " ooh I think you should ask Nanny/ daddy/ alexa/ google/ your uncle they know a lot about that. Let me know the answer!'

I teach this kind of age so have this from 8:30am to 3:30pm most days, but from a range of children. Anything to avoid the actual work we are supposed to be doing!

Dd went through this incase too. Mind you, we've just been away, me dh and 20y dd, and tbh some of the conversations during the past fortnight, esp between dd and her dad have been remarkable similar! Luckily we also have normal conversations in the mix too.

Where do lollypop men go at night?
Why do chickens look angry?

These made me laugh out loud and 😁😁😁😁😁😁

My DS had these conversations too. I found a recording the other day of him telling a story, it was funny but boy did it ramble on.

As others have said, as a teen he went quiet for a couple of years, then re-emerged to re-educate me on things he'd seen on YouTube, usually in a hostile way in a booming voice.

He'd insist that I agree with whatever it was, even if the YouTuber had no real education in their chosen topic, usually political, fad diets or health, and wouldn't give up unless I just agreed black was white. Never any nice normal day to day conversations, it would just be 'dont knock on my door, text me instead' 'When will you be out of the kitchen / house / shower/ my life.'.
That phase lasted the longest and carried on till he left home in his mid 20's.
I miss the cute little funny boy who liked me and would chatter away with random questions...

Thanks for the perspective guys and the laughs
im Going to try harder to just embrace this age and time
also handy you’ve given me so many ideas of things to ask him !!

He did say something aborable to me the night I started this thread

he said do you know that song that goes
I love you to infinity uh oh …….
I said yes and started singing it and he said yes that’s the one
he then said that’s my song to you ……

I do think you need to model (and sometimes insist on) good conversation - it’s not a skill that is inherent in many people. I know loads of adults who still aren’t very good conversationalists. My 8yo especially (who is autistic) would be a very very poor conversationalist if I didn’t teach him a lot/talk to him and model good conversation well. His idea of a good conversation would be me sitting silently while he lectured me on superheroes or ocean life. Which is nice as I like superheroes and ocean life but he had to actively learn that it’s not fun for others to listen to him monologue.

But I’d say for really good conversation you need to have shared interests and wait until their older. I can have a pretty good conversation with my 11 year old nowadays - but it helps that he’s now reading older books, watching films with me etc. Whereas when they’re younger the stuff they can talk about isn’t always great conversation for an adult! But they can still learn the basics of reading the room/give and take/not lecturing.

DS1 asks me what my favourite grass-type Pokémon is every night when I’m tucking him in. I always say Grookey. It’s our little ritual 😂

DS2 is only a year and a bit younger so I have it in stereo. Imagine if….is popular. ‘Magine if this, ‘magine if that. The ruder the better

“’Magine if your butt was on your HEAD and it was a really SMELLY butt and- “”YEAH AHHAA and everyone could see your butt ALL the time even the TEACHER and and and and