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What age did your dc continue to come on holiday with you ?

79 replies

LovelyYellowLabrador · 04/08/2022 13:50

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Moonface123 · 05/08/2022 15:55

Just got back from a week in Cyprus with my 17 and 21yr old sons, it was their suggestion and we all paid for ourselves, eldest works full time, youngest works part time alongside studying. l am a lone parent, it was our first holiday in 8 yrs, we all had a fantastic time.

Maramo · 05/08/2022 16:02

Last time abroad with the four of us they were 22 and 20.
DS2 came abroad with us this yea, he's 24, he hadn't been abroad in 3 years and was keen for some sunshine. I don't think he'll come with us again but I will offer.
In the UK they've joined us this year in a holiday cottage for a few days, they are now 24/26.
I pay for everything.
I also give them some money when they go on holiday, DS1 is currently on holiday in Greece with his GF and I gave him some cash.
I don't have to, they neither ask nor expect it but I like to treat them.

theleafandnotthetree · 05/08/2022 17:05

BigWoollyJumpers · 05/08/2022 15:44

DD1 25 still coming with us, this is the first year she paid for flights and her bar bill, which we appreciated. DD2 19 still at Uni, also came, they share a bedroom, she also paid for her bar bill, which was a lovely gesture.

I think my bar would be a lot higher than being delighted that my adult children managed to pay for their own booze 🙄 on a holiday otherwise funded by me (nothwithstanding the 25 (25!) year old paying for their own flights. Big of them...

merryhouse · 05/08/2022 17:27

The last one we went on, five years ago, they were 17 and 14 (S2 finally old enough for the quad biking at Centerparcs).

Haven't actually been On Holiday since then: we've stayed with family and they've come too. S1 has been to several different places with choir and hobby group, S2 got invited with GF and her parents, and they're both off for short breaks with GFs in the next few weeks.

I suspect that may have been our last one!

negomi90 · 05/08/2022 17:31

Family Holiday right now with mum and step father. I've paid for my own room, and got a bigger one to fit my 18yo sisters in. I'm paying my way, they're not (I'm 32)

Firesidefox · 05/08/2022 17:37

Omnivert · 04/08/2022 18:17

My 15 yr old spoilt brat is refusing to come to Spain because "it's boring" but would like to be invited if we go somewhere more exciting 🙄

Oh wow, that is quite spoilt!

bert3400 · 05/08/2022 17:42

I still go on holiday with my mum and I'm 54, sometimes she pays & sometimes i pay , like a few years ago she hired a château for the whole family to go to, for her birthday. My DS 20 still come on holiday with us, that was the Maldives, so I don't blame him . I love it when all the family are together - if I have the money, they are all invited. You can't take the £ with you so may as well enjoy the time while we can .

CakeCrumbs44 · 05/08/2022 17:44

I am 32 and just came back from holiday with my parents (and my husband and kids). I don't think there has been a year when I didn't go away with them, maybe once or twice in my early 20s?

We go on holidays without them as well of course. And we pay our own way on the family holiday.

purplepaintedpineapple · 05/08/2022 18:08

Last time, oldest was probably 24 and we paid for everything apart from their flights - so all accommodation and car hire, and some food.

VickerishAllsort · 05/08/2022 18:14

35 & 33 and still do, plus spouses and kids.

quietnightmare · 05/08/2022 18:17

I have never stopped trying to get my parents to take me on holiday but they keep booking and going without me, I find this rude despite moving out over a decade ago

goldfinchonthelawn · 05/08/2022 18:19

As soon as they were out of their teens they said no. :(. Only agreed to the final family holiday because they were so bored with lockdown they wanted a change of scene and had had holidays abroad with mates cancelled.

I wish they still wanted ot, but they don;t.

mind you, a friend still has her lot tagging along at nearly 30, 27 and 22. That's a bit muchb. they need to get lives.

theleafandnotthetree · 05/08/2022 18:22

I am amazed by how many people here do this with their own parents and/or adult children. It's really unusual in my circle and bar the odd weekend away or something, I'd be amazed if my children went on long holidays with me as adults. I expect them to be spending their money and precious holiday time on trips with friends, partners and maybe their own children. I couldn't really afford to pay for them (lone parent), maybe thats the difference! And to be honest, I would also like to do my own thing. The thought of going away every year, maybe even more than once a year with my children does not fill me with joy!

HelenHywater · 05/08/2022 18:27

Mine come if I'm paying and we're going to a place they'd like to go. I took them skiing earlier this year, and my 19 and 17 year old are coming on hols this summer. It helps that there's a few of them close in age, so they have company (other than me!).

They're already asking about next summer! I like going with them, but it is very expensive!

I tend to think of places that would suit them as I want them to come.

TonTonMacoute · 05/08/2022 19:31

We weren't able to go on holiday last year, and can't this year either. However, we are hoping we we will be able to go next year, and I'm sure that DS (who will be 23) would be quite happy to spend some, if not all, of the time with us on a free holiday. Alone, or with girlfriend.

weegiemum · 05/08/2022 19:37

Just back from hols with dc aged 18, 20 and 22 with their partners aged 21, 20 and 28. They paid their own flights, we paid for the villa and food etc.

Not sure if it'll happen again as eldest graduates next summmer so into the world of work, and middle child is to be studying nursing so shorter holidays.

Made the most of this year anyway!

whiteroseredrose · 05/08/2022 19:41

Skelligsfeathers · 04/08/2022 13:51

I'm about to go on holiday with my 19 and 22 year-old s

Same here. Two holidays this year and they will also come to México next year.

DH are going to sneak in a couple of trips while they are at Uni next year.

shinynewapple22 · 05/08/2022 20:01

My DS is 21 and lives with his GF. Mostly when DH and I go away we book a villa or apartment with two bedrooms and DS and his GF are invited to come for some or all of the holiday - but they pay for their own flights . Sometimes they choose to come, other times not. We also all holiday separately.

shinynewapple22 · 05/08/2022 20:13

I don't get the sneering surprise from posters that 'surely adult DC have their own lives'. Well of course they do, busy jobs, hobbies and friends . Doesn't mean they don't have a couple of weeks out of a year to spend with their parents though .

Recycledcurtains · 05/08/2022 20:31

Oh wow, I’m so jealous! Paid holidays! My parents now seem to think we should be paying for them to go on round the world cruises and long haul holidays as presents!

I can’t believe other people’s parents pay for them to go on hols together.

(that being said, I wouldn’t holiday with my parents for a billion pounds!)

I think I was 16 the last time I went away with mine. They still thought that they could dictate where I went on holiday and with whom even when I was paying my own way and was 21…!

Strawblue · 05/08/2022 23:18

The last time my DF took me on holiday (parents divorced) was when I was 11, and never again after that as his DW wouldn’t allow it. My DM continued to include me on holiday into my 20’s. I’d love my own DS(7) to continue coming on holiday when he’s an adult if he wishes to.

Pixiedust1234 · 05/08/2022 23:57

They still do. 28yr and 23yr. Caravan in Dorset (or anywhere in uk). Its not the "where", its the "who" thats important to us. Only one still lives at home so its a wonderful and cherished time together. We have even taken long term bf with us (until they split).

Afterfire · 06/08/2022 00:07

We go away as a family every year - dd is 19 and still wants to come with us. Sometimes it’s something exciting and sometimes it’s just a week at Haven! That’s what we did this year- 3 bed caravan at Haven in Caister. Dd still loves it, we’ve gone to Haven every year since she was tiny and it’s a nice chance to all spend time together - we also have a 10 year old ds who has autism who loves holidays. Dd is at university but still loves a family holiday.

Next June we’re all going to a really lovely all inclusive hotel in Ibiza and dd is coming for that too. At the moment we pay for her. Maybe when she’s finished university and gets a full time job she can contribute something but we see it as our treat at the moment.

autienotnaughty · 06/08/2022 05:35

I was about 16 dh was about 14 (??!!) the last time either of us went with parents. as a family ourselves we last went abroad together in 2014 when ours were 12,15 and obviously we paid. They are now early twenties one works part time a d is at uni the other Works full time. We decided to go abroad this year but said they were welcome but would have to pay for themselves as we couldn't afford to . Younger choose to come, elder couldn't get time off work.
We have asked dd for a contribution towards food and drink but said basically we will pay when there. (Except alcohol)

5zeds · 06/08/2022 05:45

I last went on holiday with my parent a few years ago😀. My siblings came too. We started paying our own way in our 30s ish. I think the cut off really was when we had our own partners/families. They went without us though too.