Would you take new boyfriend to a wedding when a ex boyfriend is there?

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Well I say new boyfriend ...we've been together a year now.
We met 6 months after my narcissist (a million percent narcissist) discarded me.
I'm really nervous about seeing him as he was mentally abusive/made me feel worthless/got off on making me cry etc
When he discarded me he made sure he told me he was with a new woman.

Anyway I'm at a wedding next weekend,he will be there.
Do I take my new boyfriend along or will it be too awkward?
Part of me wants to show him I've moved on and I'm happy but another part of me worries I might feel uncomfortable as he put me through hell.

What would you do?
I honestly am over him but the part of me who was a shell after all he did to me..kind of wants to show him he didn't break me.

Take your new boyfriend and hold your head up high. Have a great time knowing inside he will be jealous.

Hell yeah!

You’ve been together a year, hardly new.

Yes, take him. Show him you have moved on and are happy now. Also, you may find having your bf there will give you support and confidence if you end up meeting him.

I absolutely would take your boyfriend! I wouldn’t want the ex to get some satisfaction in seeing me alone!

Does your boyfriend know about what happened with your ex?

Yes of course you take him if you have a +1 invite.

Boyfriend knows a bit about what happened but didn't bore him with all the details.
I do want to look good and show him I haven't been sat around moping after him.
Just to show really I've moved on and I am happy ...and I really am happy.
My life is a million times better with him.

Oh yes definitely glam up smile laugh dance and have a great time 💃🏽

This is a no brainer. Definitely take him. Would you take him if your ex wasn't there? If yes, and you don't take him because of your ex you're relinquishing control. Go together, and be grateful your life is better.

Yeah 100%!
I also think you should make sure your current partner knows how this other guy treated you.

Presumably you are all invited on the understanding (of bride and groom) that you can behave yourselves. So, go, enjoy, and behave yourselves. I am going to a wedding soon with DH knowing that XH and his partner will be there. The day is about the bride and groom, not anyone else.

Oh there's no bad blood from me anymore.
I don't care anymore what he did /said etc
I just want to show him I'm okay now.
He treated me like shit on his shoe...and I was so pathetic back then.
I just want to prove I'm not the person I used to be.
Is that sad?

It's not sad. Take him and have a lovely time. Living well is the best revenge.

Get your gladrags on and go for it!

Absolutely go for it. Get glammed up and have a good time with a good man

Have you got +1 invite?

I would take him. But just to sound a note of caution: my ex (abusive shithouse) would in those same circumstances make it his mission to befriend any current boyfriend I had, just so they could say "he's alright your ex, isn't he?". That would be a win for him. If your ex is the same (or even likely to be a twat in other ways) is it worth putting your current boyfriend in the mix?

I would, absolutely.

Don't do it to show him, or teach him, he's not worth it.

Go and take your BF because you want to, you'll enjoy it, you want to celebrate the day, and spend some time with friends and you BF having fun. Look god if it makes YOU happy. Have fun because you are genuinely happy.

As long as exBF is renting space in your head, you're not free because you're doing things for him, not you.

Go, have fun, don't spare a thought for him.

Luckily my ex wouldn't have the balls to do that.
He will keep his distance .
Yeah it's a plus 1 invite.
I'm a bit nervous if I'm honest
I'm worried I will see him and go back to who I was 2 years ago and feel pathetic in his company.
The plan is to have a few drinks before I leave for Dutch courage
It's the first time I've seen him in years.

Take your new boyfriend and have a fab time.

The plan is to have a few drinks before I leave for Dutch courage

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Sobriety is your friend. Trust me.

Focus your attention on the bride and groom and your boyfriend and you shouldn’t feel pathetic or nervous

You’ve got new BF, you are invited to a wedding just focus on this as @mnahmnah suggested and ignore your ex, don’t drink before and don’t drink too much otherwise your new BF would think that you are missing your ex.

Yeah maybe the drinking isn't a good idea.
A few gins and I might get my Beyoncé head on...and nobody needs to see that do they

"I just want to prove I'm not the person I used to be.
Is that sad?"

It's not sad, it's very normal.

However, I would completely focus on yourself, your boyfriend and the happy couple.

Don't drink much and certainly do not get drunk.

And don't focus on your ex - or your lovely partner may feel alienated.

Just relax and enjoy