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My dh was quite rude last night,

57 replies

Wisteriabloom · 21/07/2022 17:01

I came in yesterday evening after being out with friends, had a great time. Dh was in the living room, asked me how it went, all fine.

Then dd & her boyfriend appeared downstairs. Dd knows a couple of the friends I was out with, hasn't seen them for a while and asked how they were. As I answered, dh picked up his magazine & phone, and disappeared upstairs! Dd's boyfriend stayed another half hour or so, then I went up to bed and asked dh why he was in a 'mood'. He said he'd already had a run-down of my evening, didn't need to hear it twice and had dinner with dd & boyfriend earlier, so there was nothing new to say!

Does anybody else feel he was being obviously dismissive of all of us? I do!

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SpaghettiSquash · 21/07/2022 17:02

That wouldn't bother me at all and I wouldn't think anything of it.

Dollface213 · 21/07/2022 17:09

It was a bit rude but I'd probably have asked him there and then why's he being a funny arse and then let it go.

pilates · 21/07/2022 17:14

Doesn’t sound rude and wouldn’t have bothered me.

ethelredonagoodday · 21/07/2022 17:21

Maybe a bit, but I couldn't get het up about it to be honest.

FinallyHere · 21/07/2022 17:22

I wouldn't 'disappear upstairs' like that because I enjoy chatting however it would be perfectly normal for DH to do so. He wouldn't be 'in a mood'.

I also know that he listens to my updates when I get home because he knows it's important for me to tell him what I've been up to and how 'everyone' is getting on. He humours me and dies as questions but would happily live without any updates if it were not for my pleasure in telling them.

Our deal is he only every listens if he wants to. He can go upstairs anytime when I have visitors.

Crinkle77 · 21/07/2022 17:23

Was he annoyed that you went out?

RenegadeMrs · 21/07/2022 17:24

Uh, nope. I would not think this rude at all! He's spent time with all of you and it was the end of the day?

Twiglets1 · 21/07/2022 17:25

That wouldn’t bother me at all. I fact I would think I don’t blame you

FAQs · 21/07/2022 17:26

Why was he required to listen to your account of your night out?

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 21/07/2022 17:26

If my DH noisily got his stuff together and obviously stormed out that would be very different to him gathering his stuff and with that kind of apologetic 'just dipping out for a bit' head/gesture thing?

Was he sulky and stropping off OP?

ApolloandDaphne · 21/07/2022 17:27

You were finished speaking to him and were now speaking to your DD so he wandered off elsewhere. I don't think he was rude at all.

FinallyHere · 21/07/2022 17:29

that kind of apologetic 'just dipping out for a bit' head/gesture thing?

So recognise this.

Dollface213 · 21/07/2022 17:30

The only part I'd find a tiny bit rude was when he said..he'd already had an account of your evening he didn't need to hear it twice. That could come off a bit snappy depending how he said it but like I said I would of probably said something there and then, and then went back downstairs.

SallyWD · 21/07/2022 17:30

Maybe a tiny bit. I think it's fine he disappeared but I would have said something like "oh I'm tired, off to bed now. Goodnight."

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind1 · 21/07/2022 17:30

Mountain/molehill.

LadyKenya · 21/07/2022 17:31

No, I do not think that he was being dismissive of you all. Why would he be required to stay and listen, if he wished to retire for the night?

SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 21/07/2022 17:31

If he is the kind of person who recounts tales from his childhood with boring regularity you now know how to deal with the next repetition.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 21/07/2022 17:35

What made you think he was in a mood?

browneyes77 · 21/07/2022 17:42

Crinkle77 · 21/07/2022 17:23

Was he annoyed that you went out?

This is what I wondered

Blossomtoes · 21/07/2022 17:43

I wouldn’t even have noticed.

50mg · 21/07/2022 17:46

I think if you'd left him at home to have dinner with DD and BF and then he'd shown some interest in your evening when you got in, he's done his bit. I'd have been glad of the opportunity ro escape by then too.

Megapint · 21/07/2022 17:51

He asked about your evening, you told him & he went to bed. I can't see what he's done wrong. However there is nothing more irritating than being asked why you're in a 'mood' purely because you didn't act as someone wanted you to.

50mg · 21/07/2022 18:05

In fact I really would have the hump if you asked me why I was in a mood after I'd been polite and socialble with DD and BF all evening and then been polite and interested about your evening, then seen an opportunity to escape from all the peopleness while you were telling a story I'd already heard.

Prior to that I'd have been happy that everyone had had a pleasant evening and comfortable that I'd done my duty, but glad of a rest.

takeitandleaveit · 21/07/2022 18:11

He said he'd already had a run-down of my evening, didn't need to hear it twice and had dinner with dd & boyfriend earlier, so there was nothing new to say!

Oh dear. Well even if most people on the thread can't see it @Wisteriabloom I can.

He seems to have a touch of 'Boss Speaking to Underlings Syndrome' creeping in there, doesn't he? He's obviously far too important to want to be bothered by such trivial chit-chat.

MissyCooperismyShero · 21/07/2022 18:13

Has anyone actually ever been rude to you op? You don't seem to know what rudeness is.

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