Is this an acceptable wedding reading for someone who has a toddler?

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I saw this clip on Facebook today and balled my eyes out at it 😭 If you have little kids get your tissues ready before watching!

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We’ve got a toddler and we’re getting married in September. I know it’s not your traditional soppy wedding reading but it does sum up our life and love for each other. I think I’d change a few bits that refer to ‘kids’ to make it suit someone with just one child but is this an acceptable reading for a wedding ceremony do you think?
I will attach the reading below.

The Future Can Wait

Dear Husband,
There’s a life in the future with little faces in photo frames instead of before our eyes, and artwork and abc magnets won’t adorn our fridge.
There’s a bed big enough, where little elbows & knees won’t prod us in our sleep and only our feet will swing out in the morning.
There’s a vase placed in reach of little arms because there aren’t any, & mugs will daringly sit on the edge of the table.
There’s a bank balance that looks a bit more forgiving & a bag I leave with that isn’t overflowing.
There’s a free calendar that isn’t packed with swimming lessons, dance classes and muddy sports shoes. And we’ll get to know each other for a third time, before them, with them, & then when only two jackets hang at the door.
There’s a clean car, the only noise is the hum of the radio. There will be no endless questions in a high pitched voice from the back seat, there may even be days we don’t hear from them at all.

There’s a date night with no curfew, my mums not needed for babysitting, & we aren’t sleeping with one eye open waiting for the shuffle of feet down the hallway. A type of freedom that feels heavy.
There’s a house that’s clean, maybe our couch is new, we aren’t stepping on Lego or toy cars either. In fact there’s not much colour anywhere. Remember how it came with so much happiness?
There’s a dinner table that feels big, we aren’t negotiating bites of vegetables or wiping little hands & mouths. But sometimes there’s a knock on the door & the table is full once more.

There’s a shower that doesn’t sound like baby cries, a coffee that is warm and my body will be my own. We won’t wear tired the same way but time will have aged us anyway.
There will be hard moments to come that will make these moments look easy, but we’ll remember.
We’ll remember the first words, the curls, the “I love you’s” the moments we almost broke, & how we held each other through it all.
There’s a life in the future and it’s coming for us. So let’s get swept up in the beautiful chaos in front of us.
Let’s make the future wait a little longer. Because I love this life with you so much, this one right now.

From my perspective........................No, just no.

Are you sleep deprived ?

That to me, is pure Hallmark crap.

I find it very twee, sorry.

Yup, just no. I was cringing just reading it. Maybe you could use a line or two to get the sentiment across, but the whole thing is way too much and a bit sick-making to me.

God what a load of nauseating drivel!!

Too twee for me, too, but I think the real issue is that it’s very much about the couple’s relationship with their child(ren) and, for a wedding, you need something about the couple’s relationship with each other.

Goes on a bit...

🤮

Are all wedding reading not total cringe-fests though? I don’t think I could bare to stand there and listen to one about our undying love for each other 🙈

I'm not as cynical as this lot, but it just doesn't quite sit right. One day they'll have moved out so let's enjoy them now, doesn't work for me as wedding reading.

If you keep any of it, I'd work it around this bit
"And we’ll get to know each other for a third time, before them, with them, & then when only two jackets hang at the door" as that's the pertinent bit.

Its OK to make your wedding speech about you not DC.

@SleepingStandingUp yeah I think that’s the problem with it, the last few lines were the bit that made me think it might be nice but I think it probably is too much

Entirely accurate 🤮.
I can only imagine the eye rolling that would go off from the poor guests listening to that shite.

Its very long and doesn't say anything very interesting. Could be summarised in a sentence or two and lose nothing.

It's ok not to gush about undying love. Find a reading that is more about being there for eachother, having each others back.

Okay thanks guys, will put that one down as a no 🤣

Oh god. It’s like it was puked out by Clinton cards. Please not. What sort of thing would you like the reading to be about and perhaps we can suggest some less awful ones?

Honestly, it’s too long and will be boring to listen to. Plus as others have said, nauseating

i agree with PPs, the sentiment is wrong. I think it needs to be about you as a couple rather than the kids.
I know what you mean about twee wedding readings though. I quite like the you’re my cup of tea poem (foxtrot from a play). Just a bit different.

I am really low in mood and my relationship is on the rocks so I feel like I needed that, so thank you.

But no, definitely not for a wedding reading, sorry.

There’s a life in the future with little faces in photo frames instead of before our eyes, and artwork and abc magnets won’t adorn our fridge.
There’s a bed big enough, where little elbows & knees won’t prod us in our sleep and only our feet will swing out in the morning.
There’s a date night with no curfew, my mums not needed for babysitting, & we aren’t sleeping with one eye open waiting for the shuffle of feet down the hallway.

We won’t wear tired the same way but time will have aged us anyway..
And we’ll get to know each other for a third time, before them, with them, & then when only two jackets hang at the door.

There will be hard moments to come that will make these moments look easy, but we’ll remember the moments we almost broke, & how we held each other through it all.

There’s a life in the future and it’s coming for us. So let’s get swept up in the beautiful chaos in front of us.
Let’s make the future wait a little longer. Because I love this life with you so much, this one right now .

Op I'd abridge it to something like this if you want it

Yes it’s awful and maudlin, though you’re right that all readings are. They’re the worst bit of a wedding.

Caveat: I have a black, black heart.

I’d go short and sweet and make it about the two of you, this is all about kids. I don’t think it’s appropriate and it’s far too long.

@TheLeadbetterLife me too, the ceremony will be lasting 30 seconds max at this rate and I’m quite happy with that 🙈 sign the bit of paper and get out of there!

@SleepingStandingUp aww thank you

@FlowerPig nah I agree, bless you hope you’re okay

@Namechangedforspooky thank you will check it out

I think we’ll probably go with ‘Union’ instead, it’s the only non- sick in mouth poem I can find that ticks the box of wedding reading 🙈

The future will have to wait while we spend hours listening to this tosh! Good call to pass on this OP

First Date
Brian Bilston

We’d so much in common, that was clear from the start:

a marriage of souls, like de Beauvoir and Sartre.

The connection was instant, almost irrational:

simply simpatico, fully compatible.

You confessed you loved winter, North Yorkshire, and cats.

‘Me, too!’ I responded. ‘How amazing is that?’

You were wild about Wharton: you loved Ethan Frome.

‘His best,’ I said, thinking I’d read him when home.

You praised a revival of Pinter’s Dumb Waiter.

I nodded along. I should google that later.

The discussion then turned to things that you hated:

Tarantino, you thought, was quite over-rated.

‘You make some good points,’ I eventually said.

I could always hide that box set under my bed.

You spoke of a loathing of poetry that rhymed

and I said yes,

that stuff’s awful.

😂